Todd Henry

Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Her book is, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss… Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life How emotions are a guidance system That emotions can help us adapt and thrive The thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong” Emotional Agility Loosening up, calming down and living with more intention The space between stimulus and response Emotional rigidity Allowing the story in our head to drive our actions Being who we most want to be in this world Moving away from the idea of “I have a thought and the thought is fact and I have to act on it” Getting hooked – accepting thought as fact That we are not our emotions – our emotions are a data source The story that imprisons and keeps us from acting in an open-hearted way How to get unhooked Getting curious and compassionate about our emotions when we’re hooked I’m noticing that I’m feeling ____ Creating a safe psychological space for ourselves “Walking your why” Choice points: do I move towards my values or away from my values? Social contagion Keeping your values front of mind Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life That our difficult emotions (like anxiety, for example) don’t have to go away in order for us to live according to our values Under our difficult emotions are signposts for our values Premature cognitive commitment Stories help us to make sense of our world Naming our stories Susan David, Ph.D. Links:susandavid.comTed Talk – Susan David, Ph.D.FacebookTwitterInstagramDaily Harvest delivers absolutely delicious, organic, carefully sourced, chef created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more! To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: feedThe Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. To get a full month for FREE, visit thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code: WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Helmi 201942min

Parker Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to many people in many different walks of life. He’s the founder and senior partner in The Center for Courage and Renewal. He’s the author of many books, including his newest one which we talk about on this episode: On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. Parker is one of our favorite guests of the show and after you listen to this episode, you’ll know why he’s back for a second conversation.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Parker Palmer and I Discuss… His book, On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old His reflections looking back on his life The resilient fabric of his life How perfection is an illusion The role mistakes can play in one’s life The gift of age: Looking back on one’s life and saying “It all belongs” Another gift of age: Deep appreciation and gratitude for the present moment Feeling like you’re one of the lucky ones that you’re “old” Asking “What’s there for me to learn?” when facing problematic moments in life (like feeling down, or feeling self-pity) Moments of life that are burdened with ego The correlation between ego concerns and anxiety The importance and role of perspective The what and why of the things we’re doing The question (and trap!): Does my life have meaning? My legacy vs Our legacy How we’re all embedded in community “I planted some seeds and found some people I wanted to garden with…” How life and work are profoundly communal Reflecting on the question, “Have I been sufficiently open to and aware of the significant contributions others have made in my life – and in such a way to do a deep bow to them in the work that I do?” Turning attention outward vs inward Being one among many vs trying to be something or someone special The healing impact of getting out into the natural world His poem “Harrowing” To know when to say, “enough” because the rest of the world and the rest of my life is waiting Parker Palmer LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterThe Great Courses Plus – Thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a full month for FREE! thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Helmi 201951min

In This Interview, Dean Sluyter and I Discuss… His book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and Addiction Right View and how it relates to having less fear in your life How right view is always liberating Asking, “does it help?” “One mustn’t assume burdens that God doesn’t lay upon us. The state of worry is not itself meritorious.” CS Lewis The problem with trying to control your mind Transcendental Meditation Hanging out in tasklessness The open space of awareness How thought doesn’t have to go away in order to meditate Relax your grip, and relax back into yourself It doesn’t grip you, it has no power to do that. You grip it. What it means to relax at the moment of contact Relax into it, stop the resistance of it Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional suffering = pain x resistance Dean Sluyter LinksHomepageMeditationYoutubeTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Helmi 201945min

Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss… Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand That the way we deal with grief in our culture is broken How grief is a no-win situation for everyone The fact that we don’t like to talk about grief How we carry losses with us The myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrong That some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carried How cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your reality Our limited tools for going through difficulty Victim blaming How we can’t be 100% safe That we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to things If we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail us Sadness isn’t a problem either How you can’t “get over it and put it behind you” The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and Validated The power of listening and curiosity Thinking of pain as an experience to be tended The things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escape Making these difficult things gentler on us Decreasing suffering inside of grief Wellness vs. worseness Paying attention to the cause and effect of things The hierarchy of grief Treating compassion as the abundant resource that it is Hope Meeting people where they are Asking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now? Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now? You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from them The importance of showing yourself kindness Megan Devine LinksHomepageAnimation on GriefInstagramTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Tammi 201943min

Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss… His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50 Connection to others Generosity The factors that most contribute to our happiness The U shape curve of happiness in life The emotional peak of life How our expectations change as life goes on That our values continue to change The fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetime How the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durable The hedonic treadmill What to do to be happier at the bottom of the curve The suffering that comes from social comparison Staying in the present moment Internal criticism Guilt vs Shame in mid-life The benefits of being other-directed, other-oriented How the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friend Jonathan Rauch LinksHomepageTwitterThe Great Courses Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Tammi 201943min

After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!n This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss… His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day Understanding the limits on will-power Setting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisions Creating more time in your day for the things you care about The two powerful forces that compete every day for our time “The Busy Bandwagon” The Infinity Pools Questioning the “defaults” in our schedule Creating a highlight for every day Living a “someday” life Finding more meaningful moments Urgency, Satisfaction, Joy Batch the little stuff Laser mode Taking back control of your time and energy Creating barriers to distraction Managing your energy Building your energy Focusing on the process not the outcome John Zeratsky LinksHomepageTwitterThe Great Sources Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfCalm- The number one app that helps you meditate, sleep and relax. For a limited time, get 25% off a Calm premium subscription – giving you access to ALL their content – at www.calm.com/wolfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Tammi 201948min

Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful PoetryMarilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss… Her book, How I Discovered Poetry Her poem, Mississippi Her book, A Wreath for Emmett Till The poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnets Her poem, Rosemary for Remembrance Her poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a Wreath Her poem, Like His Gouged Eye How poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silence The value of silence in a life well lived Silence, contemplation, and self-knowledge Our quiet center Her book, Carver Her poem, Professor Carver’s Bible Class Her book, Snook Alone Marilyn Nelson LinksHomepageFacebookNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsweep’s free guide, Crushing the 5 Barriers to Growth, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7 day free trialSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Tammi 201933min

Roger Housden is a second time guest on the show – you might remember him from episode 152. He founded The Open Gate which is a conference and workshop center in England that introduced the work of Ram Dass and Thich Nhat Hanh and many others into Europe. You also might have seen his work featured in places like O Magazine, The New York Times and The Los Angeles Times. In this episode, Roger and Eric discuss his beautiful book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Roger Housden and I Discuss… His book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times Saying “there is happiness happening” or “there is anger happening” rather than “I am angry” or “I am happy” How poetry helps us in difficult times That poetry gives voice to that which is unsayable The poet Ellen Bass How suffering can soften us if we bow down to it That you can’t fake surrender The opportunity in suffering is growth How poetry points us in the direction of possibility in suffering The poet Maggie Smith The poet Marie Howe Annunciation by Marie Howe The specific pointing to the universal in poetry Roger Housden LinksHomepageTwitterFacebookPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.compromo code WOLF 20 off first custom sampler setQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing www.getquip.com/wolfand get your first refill pack for freeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 Tammi 201941min