Richard Schwartz on Internal Family Systems

This week we talk to Kerry PattersonKerry Patterson is the four-time New York Times best-selling co-author of Crucial Conversations, Crucial Accountability, Influencer, and Change Anything.He received his doctorate from Stanford. He has been featured in more than 150 print and radio programs, including MSN Career Builder, and CNN. He is also the co-founder of VitalSmarts, an innovator in corporate training and leadership development. He is a recipient of the Mentor of the Year Award and the 2004 William G. Dyer Distinguished Alumni Award from Brigham Young University. His latest book is called The Grey Fedora.In This Interview Kerry and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.What a crucial conversation is: stakes are high and emotions are strong.What is happening in the brain during conversations that are emotional.The role of the amygdala.How moving from anger to curiosity helps defuse tense conversations.The one question we should ask ourselves before entering any disagreement.See additional show notes and links on our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Heinä 201542min

[powerpress] This week we talk to Justin Sullivan from New Model ArmyJustin Sullivan is an English singer and songwriter. He is the frontman and lyricist of the British rock band New Model Army, which he formed in 1980 together with drummer Robert Heaton and bassist Stuart Morrow in their hometown of Bradford, Yorkshire. In the early 1980s he performed under the stage name of "Slade the Leveller". Their latest record is called Between Dog and Wold released in 2013.The New Model Army record, Thunder and Consolation, is one of our favorite records ever. Eric says it is in his top 5 of all time.In This Interview Justin and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.Whether we really live by our values.How money doesn't make us happy but we still chase itThat human systems mimic nature.New Model Army songs about the weather.Nature vs. NurtureHow much people can actually change.How education helps make the world more interesting and enjoyable.The inevitability of change.How it's always the ones that want to be saved that do all of the saving.Additional show notes on our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Heinä 201536min

This week we talk to Scott Gornto about the stories we tell ourselvesR. Scott Gornto, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist and Expert on Relationships and Personal Development. Scott works with Individuals, Couples, Families, Groups and Businesses. His recent book is called: The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Stop Jumping to Conclusions. Free Yourself from Anxiety. Transform Your Relationships Our sponsor this week is Casper Mattress. Click here to get $50 off (use promo code: oneyoufeed) For more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Heinä 201538min

Brigid Schulte is an award-winning journalist for the Washington Post and Washington Post magazine. She was part of a team that won the Pulitzer Prize. She is also a fellow at the New America Foundation. She is a regular contributor to the She The People blog and has written for Style, Outlook, and other outlets.She writes about work-life issues and poverty, seeking to understand what it takes to live The Good Life across race, class and gender.Her recent book is called Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the TimeIn This Interview Brigid and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How being overwhelmed never goes away.What "The Overwhelm" is.How it's not the amount of stress but how we feel about it.Busyness as a badge of honor.For more show notes see our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Heinä 201546min

image by Filip Cedarholm[powerpress] This week we talk to Bob Proctor about thought and actionBob Proctor is an author, lecturer, counselor, business consultant, entrepreneur, and teacher  of positive thinking, self-motivation and maximizing human potential. In that endeavor, he follows in the footsteps of such motivational giants as Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale and Wallace D. Wattles.He is the author on numerous book including the international best-seller You Were Born Rich, his latest book is called The ABC's of Success.He was prominently featured in the book and movie, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.In This Interview Bob and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.The paradigm that feeds the bad wolf.His feeling on the movie The Secret.The Law of Vibration is the primary law over the Law of Attraction.That positive thinking alone does not deliver.The belief that we get what we think about it is a myth.How a little bit of knowledge is dangerous.How whatever we impress on our mind, we express outwardly.That we must have discipline as our most basic attribute.Being able to give ourselves a command and then following it.That the real problem is that we do not understand ourselves.Changing the core paradigm.His view on psychotherapy and psychoanalysis.How we never learn about who we are in the formal education system.Whether there is more to a spiritual life than desire and wanting.That humans are creative beings.The two good reasons to want money.The devil's best tool.The damaging power of discouragement.Rising Above our circumstances.How we either react to life or respond.The space between stimulus and response.That when we re-act, the other person is in charge.Dealing with our emotions in a conscious fashion.The value of reading biographies of famous people.The room of windows versus the room of mirrors.Avoiding the obligation mindset.Dissatisfaction as a creative state.That grandma was wrong.The power of persistence. Bob Proctor LinksBob Proctor HomepageBob Proctor FacebookBob Proctor Twitter Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Kesä 201551min

This week we talk to Dr. Rick Hanson about hardwiring happiness into our brainRick Hanson, Ph.D., is a neuropsychologist and author of Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence as well as Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love  and Wisdom and Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time.He is the Founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and an Affiliate of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, he's been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centers worldwide.An authority on self-directed neuroplasticity, Dr. Hanson's work has been featured on the BBC, NPR, CBC, Fox Business, Consumer Reports Health, U.S. News and World Report, and O Magazine, and his articles have appeared in Tricycle Magazine, Insight Journal, and Inquiring Mind.In This Interview Rick and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.His latest book: Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence.That feeding the good wolf is a daily habit.How it's our responsibility to feed our good wolf- no one can do it for us.How frequently our brain changes.Experience-dependent neuroplasticity.That our brains are like velcro for the bad and Teflon for the good.Deciding what we cultivate and what do you restrain.   For more show notes visit our webite  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Kesä 201548min

This week we talk to Jackie Warner about using exercise and food to improve low moodJackie Warner is best known as the star of Bravo’s “Work Out” and “Thintervention”Jackie is one of the world’s most sought-after fitness experts. She wrote two New York Times Bestsellers, This is Why You’re Fat (and How to Get Thin Forever), and 10 Pounds in 10 Days. Her new is book This is Why You’re Sick and Tired. Jackie has contributed to over thousands of articles, making her the among the most quoted fitness authorities globally. She also stars in several best-selling DVDs. Our Sponsor This Week is Aloha- Try their new Plant Based Superfood Smoothie Kit. Enter GETFIT20 for 20% off your order.  In This Interview Jackie and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHer new book: This is Why You Are Sick and TiredMonitoring whether our energy brings happiness or sadness to others.Using food and exercise to improve depression.The prevalence of toxicity in our cells.For additional show notes visit our website    Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Kesä 201545min

Mini Episode: The Elephant and The RiderOne of my favorite books is The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt.In it, Haidt poses several "Great Ideas" on happiness espoused by thinkers of the past - Plato, Buddha, Jesus and others - and examines them in the light of contemporary psychological research, extracting from them any lessons that still apply to our modern lives. Central to the book are the concepts of virtue, happiness, fulfillment, and meaning.He uses a metaphor of a rider on the back of an elephant in which the conscious mind is the rider and the unconscious mind is the elephant. The rider is unable to control the elephant by force: this explains many puzzles about our mental life, particularly why we have such trouble with weakness of will. Learning how to train the elephant is the secret of self-improvement. Visit our website Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Kesä 20157min