Weaponized Vulnerability: Why They Cry to Control You
In this episode, Lee Hammock exposes a sophisticated manipulation tactic: Weaponized Vulnerability. As a self-aware narcissist, Lee explains why "tears" are often used as a defense mechanism to create F.O.G. (Fear, Obligation, and Guilt), effectively turning the victim into the villain.Key Takeaways:The Reverse Gaslight: How shifting the focus to their past trauma stops you from holding them accountable today.Insight Without Accountability: Why "knowing" they are toxic doesn't mean they intend to change.The 3 Red Flags: How to tell the difference between real pain and a calculated "tear trap".Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
24 Tammi 28min
The "Hive Mind": Understanding Collective Narcissism & Cult Energy
It’s not just one person—it’s the whole group. When a group believes they are superior to everyone else and constantly victimized by the outside world, you are dealing with Collective Narcissism.Lee Hammock breaks down the psychology behind this "cult energy" from a self-aware perspective. Learn why narcissists thrive in these environments and how to spot the signs before the group turns on you.Key Takeaways:Defining the Beast: The difference between healthy group pride and toxic collective narcissism.The 4 Red Flags: Threat sensitivity, out-group aggression, internal policing, and the constant need for validation.The Smear Campaign: How the group mobilizes to destroy the reputation of anyone who leaves.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
23 Tammi 12min
Does Narcissism Run In Families?
Is it possible for narcissism to run in families or is it more likely to be a 'one off' type of situation? Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
22 Tammi 13min
The One-Question Narcissism Test: Does It Really Work?
Can you spot a narcissist with just one question? Lee Hammock breaks down the science-backed "SINS" test and why narcissists often admit the truth.In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock dives into the Single Item Narcissism Scale (SINS)—a research-backed method from Ohio State University that claims a single question is nearly as accurate as a 40-question clinical inventory.As a self-aware narcissist, Lee explains why this question works on a psychological level and why many narcissists view their traits as a source of pride rather than shame.Key Takeaways:The SINS Methodology: How researchers compared the one-question test to the Narcissistic Personality Inventory.Why Narcissists Admit It: The "low social desirability" factor and why being called a narcissist can feel like a compliment to some.The Trap of Awareness: Why a "yes" answer isn't an invitation to fix them, but a warning for you to stay away.Grandiose vs. Vulnerable: Why this test fails on covert narcissists.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
21 Tammi 14min
Objects of Desire: The Narcissist-Porn Addiction Connection
In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock explores the complex and often devastating relationship between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and pornography addiction.We dive into the concept of Object Constancy—the inability to maintain an emotional connection when a partner isn't physically present—and how this drives narcissists toward the instant, low-effort supply found in digital adult content.Key Discussion Points:Why porn provides a 'safe' space for narcissists who fear true intimacy.The role of Splitting in addiction: The 'Perfect' digital image vs. the 'Flawed' real-life partner.How this addiction manifests as a form of covert betrayal and gaslighting within the home.Steps toward awareness and breaking the cycle of objectification.Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
19 Tammi 13min
Decoding the Implosion: The Science of Narcissistic Collapse
What happens when a narcissist’s world finally catches up to them? In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, we go deep into the mechanics of a narcissistic collapse—the intense emotional and behavioral crisis triggered by a blow to a narcissist's sense of superiority.Unlike a typical breakdown, a collapse is a desperate attempt to protect a fragile ego that has been exposed. We explore why this state often looks like severe depression or explosive rage, and how it differs from genuine remorse or self-reflection.Key topics discussed:The psychological 'mortification' of being exposed.How overt vs. covert narcissists handle a collapse differently.Why they often engage in self-destructive or vindictive behaviors during this time.Setting boundaries during the 'extinction burst'.Whether you are witnessing a collapse or trying to heal from the aftermath, this episode provides the clarity you need to stay grounded.Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
17 Tammi 14min
Decoding the Smear Campaign: The 3 Phases of Character Assassination
Why does the narcissist start telling your story before you even realize the relationship is over? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock pulls back the curtain on the most devastating phase of the discard: The Smear Campaign.A smear campaign isn't just "gossip"—it is a coordinated, three-phase attack designed to isolate you, discredit your truth, and protect the narcissist’s public image at all costs.In this episode, we explore:Phase 1: The Pre-emptive Strike – How they start "planting seeds" of doubt with your friends and family months before the breakup actually happens.Phase 2: The Flying Monkey Recruitment – Why your "loyal" friends suddenly start acting like spies and messengers for the narcissist.Phase 3: The Narrative Swap – How they take their own abusive behaviors and "project" them onto you, making you look like the unstable one.Survival Strategy: Why the urge to "clear your name" is actually a trap, and how to use silence to regain your power.You cannot win a war of words with someone who is willing to lie. You win by surviving the storm.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
15 Tammi 13min
Overcoming the Shame of Loving a Narcissist | Forgiving Your "Survival Self"
Why is the shame of staying often heavier than the pain of the abuse itself? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explores the deep, internalized shame that survivors carry long after the relationship ends.If you find yourself thinking, "How did I let this happen?" or "I’m embarrassed by how I acted," this session is for you. Lee pulls back the curtain on why narcissists intentionally use shame as a weapon to keep you isolated and why your "reactive abuse" wasn't a reflection of your character—it was a survival mechanism.In this episode, we break down:The "How Could I?" Trap: Why smart, strong people are often the primary targets for narcissistic manipulation.Reactive Abuse vs. Who You Are: Understanding why you yelled, cursed, or "acted crazy" and why you need to stop blaming yourself for it.The Isolation Effect: How the narcissist cuts you off from your support system so that shame becomes your only company.Forgiving the "Past You": Practical steps to stop the self-inflicted mental beatdown and start the self-love journey.Breaking the Secret: Why speaking your truth is the only way to kill the shame the narcissist planted in you.You didn't choose the abuse, but you can choose to stop punishing yourself for surviving it.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
14 Tammi 14min
