The Anxious Love Coach10 Huhti 2023

60: "I am so controlling of my partner but I don't know how to stop. Help!"

If you experience relationship anxiety, you might be familiar with the urge to try to change your partner so that you can feel better about your decision to be with them, and stop doubting the relationship so much! You're not alone. It can be so hard to change this pattern, but I believe it can be done with some determination, patience, and humility. This episode can help you trust your partner (and your decisions) more, restore intimacy and closeness, and start moving you in the direction of the relationship you desire.

Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026. Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that HERE.

Email me at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com for any questions.

5:42- Keeping your eyes on your paper and cleaning up your side of the street

6:30 -Feeling like you picked the wrong partner

10:00 - The three things I thought I could do to change my partner

16:30 - My desire for my partner to change

19:05 - Moving into the future and making empowering changes for yourself

20:25 - Your partner will not change if you try to change them

21:43 - Developing self-trust by overcoming adversity

23:00 - Imagine your inner controller who wants to control everything

24:00 - What are you afraid would happen if you stopped trying to control your partner?

26:00 - Some of the different methods of control that we use to control our partners

36:19 - The power of letting your partner make clean up their own messes

43:04 - "I will criticize my partner when I have stopped doing XYZ"

45:50 - The difference between wanting to delight you and not disappointing you

50:35 - Starting the Anxious Love Coach Patreon Fam

57:30 - Email me for more info on my Austria retreats in June and September

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