The Anxious Love Coach5 Kesä 2023

67: Can you heal from a breakup while in a relationship?

If you've been preoccupied with thoughts about your ex, or are comparing your relationship to your ex, or are even grieving the un-pursued romance of a crush outside your partnership, you're normal– and this episode is for you. In this episode, I share what these thoughts are really about (hint: it's not the ex), and share how to use the crush-mirror to bring ourselves back onto our own papers into wholeness. I also share a vulnerable story of how I have done this for myself.

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Time Stamps:

5:45 Seeking out chaos when we are with a stable, level-headed partner

10:00 A story about a crush I've thought about for over 10 years

19:50 Finding parts from your crush/ex that are missing in yourself

23:00 The ego would love to see someone who is unavailable become available

25:45 The dangers of putting the responsibility for your aliveness on another person

29:25 How a spiritual practice can help with anxiety

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