1010: Participation Trophies | Skeptical Sunday

Steven Hassan (@CultExpert) has helped thousands of individuals and families recover from undue influence (authoritarian control). With over 40 years of experience, he is sought after as one of the foremost authorities on undue influence and controlling groups and individuals. He is the founder of the Freedom of Mind Resource Center, and a founding collaborator of the #iGotOut movement. What We Discuss with Steven Hassan: How a disinformation crusade like QAnon takes root and thrives in the politically polarized petri dish of modern America (with a little help from its outside adversaries). Why the trope of non-human elites ritualistically sustaining themselves on the essence of innocent children should seem familiar -- because this blood libel has been most famously used to normalize the persecution of Jews from the Middle Ages to the Holocaust and beyond. How QAnon appeals not only to the predictable dumber-than-a-box-of-rocks demographic, but a surprising number of seemingly otherwise intelligent people who are counterintuitively more susceptible to its influence than most. How Steven’s BITE model applies to QAnon's manipulation of behavior, information, thought, and emotion among its followers to show it for what it is: a destructive cult with elements of psyops thrown in for good measure. What we can and should do when people we care about have been sucked down the QAnon rabbit hole and we want to see them safely tethered back to reality. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/471 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Helmi 20211h 34min

Bruce Sackman (@bts1811) is a renowned investigator specializing in tracking down medical serial killers. He is the co-author of Behind the Murder Curtain: Special Agent Bruce Sackman Hunts Doctors and Nurses Who Kill Our Veterans. What We Discuss with Bruce Sackman: How Bruce first became aware of the MSKs (medical serial killers) who were operating for years, undetected, in our veterans hospitals. Why it's so difficult -- even for medical professionals -- to spot their colleagues who kill in a hospital environment (and why it's often covered up when they do). How the monstrously prolific body count of a quietly efficient MSK makes the serial killers who wind up famous as household names and true crime documentary subjects seem like amateurs in comparison. What motivates an MSK to murder the people who trust and rely on them for care? How Bruce's experience with tracking, exposing, and catching MSKs have helped investigators and forensic nurses throughout the world put a stop to these formerly unchecked murder sprees. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/470 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Helmi 20211h 27min

Should a cheater get a second chance? Like most of us, you probably have an instant answer to that question. But what if the cheater happened to be you? Should the ex you cheated on give you a second chance? We'll tackle this timeless question and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/469 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: A listener shares their own false confession story after hearing episode 456 with Laura Nirider, and Corbin Payne reminds us why we should never talk to the police without an attorney present whether or not we're guilty. Should a cheater get a second chance? What if you're the cheater? Does that change your answer? Should the ex you cheated on give you a second chance? Your idealist sibling can't seem to get his life together unless the "perfect" opportunities present themselves, and your family has had enough. How can you gently nudge him toward the path of progress he needs to take? Your former boss turned hostile when you gave your two-week notice, and now you're worried she'll give you a bad reference as you seek employment elsewhere. How do you prepare for this possibility as you interview for future positions? Your grandma's struggles with seasonal depression are exacerbated by her quarantine-era hobby of doomscrolling the news and posting on Facebook. What can you do to help her get unstuck from her own gloomy thoughts during this time? What systems do we have in place to ensure we answer all the messages that come our way? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Helmi 202147min

Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Truth Detector: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide for Getting People to Reveal the Truth. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!]  What We Discuss with Jack Schafer: Elicitation versus interrogation: why one is usually more effective in extracting truth than the other. How the elicitation techniques used by the FBI to uncover secrets from foreign spies can be applied to buying used cars, negotiating better salaries, and finding out if your teenager is throwing parties when you're out of town. Three friend signals we display when we want to establish rapport and trust with someone we've just met (and might be used against us by con artists and other disreputable types). How presumptive statements can be used to play upon our insecurities and get us to easily reveal truths we'd otherwise keep guarded -- and what we can do to avoid spilling the beans when they're used against us. How to use a third-party perspective to discover what people are really thinking. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/468 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Helmi 202150min

Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Truth Detector: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide for Getting People to Reveal the Truth. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!] What We Discuss with Jack Schafer: Elicitation versus interrogation: why one is usually more effective in extracting truth than the other. How the elicitation techniques used by the FBI to uncover secrets from foreign spies can be applied to buying used cars, negotiating better salaries, and finding out if your teenager is throwing parties when you're out of town. Three friend signals we display when we want to establish rapport and trust with someone we've just met (and might be used against us by con artists and other disreputable types). How presumptive statements can be used to play upon our insecurities and get us to easily reveal truths we'd otherwise keep guarded -- and what we can do to avoid spilling the beans when they're used against us. How to use a third-party perspective to discover what people are really thinking. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/467 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Helmi 202149min

In order to preserve your own sanity, you cut off all contact with your covert narcissist mom a few years ago. But now that she's dying, you wonder if you should reconcile for the short time she has left -- or regret not doing so once it's too late. What's the right thing to do here? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/466 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: In order to preserve your own sanity, you cut off all contact with your covert narcissist mom a few years ago. But now she's dying and you wonder if you should reconcile for the short time she has left -- or regret not doing so once it's too late. You've become a perpetual shoulder to cry on for someone who never follows your advice no matter how much time you devote to trying to help them. How do you gently quit the job of being this person's informal (and free) therapist? You've been at your current job for seven years with no advancement in your pay or position in spite of exceeding expectations and never receiving a negative performance review. Your boss promised a raise two and a half years ago, but it still hasn't surfaced. What should you do? You're 50 years old and have worked in the same industry for most of your adult life. You're interested in transitioning to a different career, but you're starting to wonder if your age is a help or a hindrance. When you show up to interviews with grey hair, does it communicate "experienced and reliable" or "old and obsolete?" Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Helmi 202138min

Thomas Erikson is a behavioral expert, active lecturer, and bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots and Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business. What We Discuss with Thomas Erikson: Not all narcissists are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are narcissists. So how can you identify the psychopaths in your life who don't act like the ones you see in slasher flicks and psychological thrillers? What psychopaths have to gain from manipulating and destroying other people. The insidious tactics psychopaths use to sow doubt and reap chaos in others. How you can resist these tactics before they're used to ruin your life. What to do if you suspect that you might be a psychopath. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/465 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!Thomas Erikson is a behavioral expert, active lecturer, and bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots and Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business. What We Discuss with Thomas Erikson: Not all narcissists are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are narcissists. So how can you identify the psychopaths in your life who don't act like the ones you see in slasher flicks and psychological thrillers? What psychopaths have to gain from manipulating and destroying other people. The insidious tactics psychopaths use to sow doubt and reap chaos in others. How you can resist these tactics before they're... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Helmi 20211h 21min

Ramit Sethi (@ramit) is the bestselling author of I Will Teach You to Be Rich: No Guilt. No Excuses. No B.S. Just a 6-Week Program That Works, and now he's applied the same no-nonsense approach to his latest program, Find Your Dream Job. What We Discuss with Ramit Sethi: Many people are underpaid, often by $10,000 per year. How can you make sure you're not one of them? What hiring managers are really looking for in job candidates, and how to refrain from disqualifying yourself before you've even applied simply because you lack a prerequisite mentioned in the listing. Throwing your resume on a stack with the rest of the candidates and hoping for the best is probably a wasted effort -- because most of the best jobs are filled through backdoor introductions, often before they're ever made public. By the time you've been granted an interview, the hiring manager doesn't want a generic rehash of your credentials -- they're more interested in knowing how well you'll fit in with the team and if you can be counted on under pressure. The three parts of the negotiation power dynamics framework that will help you maximize the outcome of your negotiations by understanding your leverage. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/464 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 Helmi 20211h 6min