084. Taner Hassan | Sex Addiction, Pornography & Adultery

In this episode, Jonny Lawrence interviews Taner Hassan, an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist specialising in sex and porn addiction, compulsive behaviour, and psychosexual issues. They discuss the importance of authenticity in therapy and the need for accurate information in the field.

Taner shares his personal journey of self-love and acceptance, highlighting the transformative power of receiving love from others. He emphasises the importance of resonating with oneself and others in relationships. In this part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss the challenges of trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted. They share assuming stories of trying to change their accents and personas to please others.

Taner reflects on embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously. They also explore the emotions of anger and resentment and the need to acknowledge one's own part in conflicts. Taner emphasises the importance of feeling and processing emotions rather than avoiding them. In this final part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss addictive behaviour, the dangers of sex and pornography addiction, and the impact of cheating on relationships.

Taner emphasises the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour and the need to challenge the behaviour itself. He also highlights the distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender. Taner encourages people to take risks, learn from failures, and visualise their goals. He also mentions his involvement in the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' and invites listeners to watch it.

Takeaways

• Working for oneself requires self-motivation and organisational skills.
• Authenticity is crucial in therapy and allows for a deeper connection with clients.
• Accurate information is essential in the field of therapy to provide effective help.
• Self-love and acceptance are transformative and require personal growth and reflection.
• Resonating with oneself and others is important in building meaningful relationships. Trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted is exhausting and can lead to a loss of self-identity.
• Embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously can lead to greater happiness and fulfilment.
• Anger is often a secondary emotion that masks underlying fear or other emotions.
• Resentment is toxic and can be resolved by acknowledging one's own part in conflicts.
• It is important to feel and process emotions rather than avoiding them. Understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour is crucial in addressing and challenging the behaviour itself.
• There is a distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender.
• Taking risks, learning from failures, and visualising goals are important for self-development.
• Relationships can recover from the betrayal of cheating, but it requires understanding the story and addressing the underlying issues.
• Taner invites listeners to watch the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' in which he has a role.

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Instagram: @tanertherapy

Website: https://www.taner-hassan.com/

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