#187: On Loneliness & Suffering with Author & Mental Health Counselor, Dr. Mark Mayfield

Bullied, attempted suicide.

Became a Youth Minister.

Got his Masters In Counseling

Worked in the Inner City w/Gangs & people w/substance abuse

Earned his PhD in Clinical Counseling & Mental Health

Founder of Mayfield Cousnling Centers

Author of The Path Out of Loneliness book

https://www.amazon.com/Path-out-Loneliness-Fostering-Connection/dp/1641583398

He discussed:

Avoidance

Attunement

Attachment

Learning how to be old friends w/your emotions.

His book discusses a combination of mind-body-spirit.

Loneliness can feel like not being seen, known, valued, or loved.

Feeling like we have no safe people around us.

There has been a 15.7% increase in deaths relating to "relational diseases".

Our veins are more constricted when we're stressed.

People getting out of the ICU quicker, had people by their bedside in the hospital.

Our body systems need each other.

RECOMMENDATIONS:

Important to have someone further along in the journey than you.

🔥Dr. Irving Gallum

Sometimes it's ok to have a paid friend.

Mental health IS emotional health.

Counseling session maybe 6 - 8 weeks. Maybe it's longer.

Emotions like Christmas lights bundled. Takes time to untangle.

Definition of loneliness comes from our experience with it.

Language creates culture.

Loneliness: State of being unseen mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually,

The path out of loneliness starts w/taking ownership.

Jesus let us sit w/the tension.

Science is finally catching up w/the Bible.

Narcism.

Power

Control

Church should be a triage unit of care for the lost & the hurting.

How do we suffer better?

Where did language creep in that suffering & pain is bad / negative?

There are not "good" & "bad" emotions.

The only way we can grow is through suffering.

Pain & suffering provides clarity & priorities.

How old are they emotionally?

What you see is NOT what you get.

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