116. Is it love, or are you just attached?

116. Is it love, or are you just attached?

Love and attachment feel very similar, and it's very easy to confuse the two especially in the early stages of dating when we are overwhelmed by infatuation and the novelty of a new relationship. However, they are very different. Whilst love is a deliberate choice, mutual, selflessness, and long lasting, attachment is unconscious, can be one-sided and based on what serves our needs. Confusing these two feelings can cause us to pursue the wrong people, invest too quickly and, at times, end up hurt and disappointed. Today we're going to explore how to tell the difference, why we need to protect ourselves from getting attached too quickly, especially when we are prone to fantasy bonding or bread crumbing, and how to detach and let that bond develop slowly. We're also going to talk about the 6 questions we can use to answer the question: am I in love, or am I just attached? Listen now!

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396. Homesickness

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395. Is depression just a chemical imbalance?

395. Is depression just a chemical imbalance?

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394. What is the pursuer-distancer relationship dynamic?

394. What is the pursuer-distancer relationship dynamic?

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393. The psychology of stoicism

393. The psychology of stoicism

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392. Why is whimsy so powerful

392. Why is whimsy so powerful

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391. The unconscious vs. conscious mind

391. The unconscious vs. conscious mind

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390. The psychology of serial monogamy & relationship hopping

390. The psychology of serial monogamy & relationship hopping

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389. How to experience healthy love after toxic love

389. How to experience healthy love after toxic love

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