116. Is it love, or are you just attached?

116. Is it love, or are you just attached?

Love and attachment feel very similar, and it's very easy to confuse the two especially in the early stages of dating when we are overwhelmed by infatuation and the novelty of a new relationship. However, they are very different. Whilst love is a deliberate choice, mutual, selflessness, and long lasting, attachment is unconscious, can be one-sided and based on what serves our needs. Confusing these two feelings can cause us to pursue the wrong people, invest too quickly and, at times, end up hurt and disappointed. Today we're going to explore how to tell the difference, why we need to protect ourselves from getting attached too quickly, especially when we are prone to fantasy bonding or bread crumbing, and how to detach and let that bond develop slowly. We're also going to talk about the 6 questions we can use to answer the question: am I in love, or am I just attached? Listen now!

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359. How to TRULY detach

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358. Why you should decentre romance in your 20s

358. Why you should decentre romance in your 20s

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357. Why do we doomspend?

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356. How to survive a breakup in your 20s

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355. Why don't I enjoy sex that much?

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354. How to break a toxic habit

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353. The psychology of perfectionism

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352. How to deal with someone who is ALWAYS the victim

352. How to deal with someone who is ALWAYS the victim

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