Ep. 152 - Perfectionism & People Pleasing

Today’s episode of Expanded is all about two themes that most of us navigate every day: perfectionism and people pleasing! These are two common forms of programming, and they’re deeply intertwined with the manifestation process. Our host Jessica Gill is joined by TBM Coach Salwa Kyobe to go over the energetics behind them with some teachings from Lacy as well!

They cover how to recognize perfectionist and people-pleasing tendencies in yourself, where you picked them up, and most importantly how to reprogram those blocks. This episode is such a great reminder to not put your self-worth in the hands of others, and to give yourself the space to be your most authentic self!

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In This Episode We Talk About:

• A Motivational Manifestation story from a Pathway member!
• The definitions of perfectionism and people-pleasing, how they relate to manifestation
• Perfectionism vs. healthy self-improvement
• The danger of putting validation in the opinions of others
• Reprogramming the “badge of honor” energetic of perfectionism
• How race plays into these themes and trying to project a perfect image
• Life paralysis and fear of failure
• Why we people please and how to reprogram it
• How childhood memories can affect you today
• Growing and learning through difficult experiences
• The magnetic power of saying “No” and setting boundaries

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HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips

(with exercises by Jessica Gill)

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The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM’s Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.

At TBM, we’ve redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.

Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you’ll learn how to:
– Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth
– Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work
– Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth
– Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true self

With over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you’re meant to live.

Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest.

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