#229: The Best Relationship Advice You'll Hear Today with Jeff Guenther

Themes: Relationships, Dating, Red Flags, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Attachment Theory Summary: I’m super pumped to be joined by Jeff Guenther, aka @therapyjeff for today’s episode. I’ve been watching Jeff distill complex information and break down relational challenges online in such a consumable and digestible way for some time now, so to sit down with him today and go deeper into allllll things romantic relationships is an honour. Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health. Discover: Green flags to look for on a date Why knowing your own red flags is essential for a healthy relationship The best time to ask “what are we?” When it’s okay (and can actually benefit your relationship) to crush on someone else Red flags to watch for when you crush on someone else 00:00 Intro 01:48 Starting an online presence 05:05 Back to (relationship) basics 06:08 Blaming your parents 08:00 Do you need to forgive in order to heal? 11:30 Stop talking shit about your ex 13:15 Know your own red flags 16:44 Assuming good intent 20:20 Asking for reassurance 26:56 Actions vs. words 30:45 Having needs is sexy 35:21 Anxious/avoidant attachment 37:54 Having a crush on someone while in a relationship 51:07 Red flags when you have a crush 53:10 Thinking relationally Links: Website | therapyjeff.com & therapyden.com Instagram | @therapyjeff TikTok | @therapyjeff Patreon | @therapyjeff Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands