S14 Ep. 2: Hot-Husbanding, the Silent Sex Saboteur, and Why Doesn't De Do The 'New Thing' I Like?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I followed your advice and asked my partner for something I'd like him to do in bed. He did it, and all was good. But now he doesn’t do it anymore and I’m tired of asking nicely and dropping hints. What now?2) You’ve talked about ‘hot-wifing,’ but what about ‘hot husbanding'? Do women get turned on watching their husbands with another woman in the same way men get off on watching their wives with another man? I suppose it’s every man’s fantasy for their wife to want that in a way. Cheating with permission! I’m curious if it’s a thing.3) My wife and I are in our mid 60s, still in love, and having sex. But intercourse is increasingly painful for her. She’s seen a very sympathetic female GP and tried HRT and other things, but nothing has worked. Any suggestions on what might be the issue and how to continue having sex? Toys don’t do it for her, and she’s gone off giving and receiving oral sex.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
20 Elo 22min
S14 Ep. 1: The CAT Technique, Weight Loss Jabs and Libido, and Glass Dildos
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’ve listened to enough of your podcasts to know that women don’t often orgasm through intercourse alone. But, is there anything a man can do to make that more possible, apart from holding a vibrator on her clitoris while he is inside her? My penis is starting to get a complex!2) I’ve recently lost a lot of weight through the weight loss jab. I’m thrilled with the results—except for the effect on my sex life. My husband and I stopped having sex years ago because I felt too fat. I don’t think he found me sexually attractive at that weight, anyway. He’s thrilled that I’m back to the same weight I was when we met and clearly expects us to resume having sex. The thing is, I don’t want to. I never did enjoy sex much, but I have zero interest now. Not sure if that’s a side effect of the drug? I look sexier, but don’t feel it. What do I do?3) How safe are glass dildos? I’m tempted to buy one but worry they’ll break inside me. Are they okay for anal play (assuming they have a flared base)? I’m a man and we are not famous for being gentle, especially when we are playing solo.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
13 Elo 28min
S13 Ep. 10: How to Take the Lead in Bed, a Neighborly Fling, and How Do I Stop My Parents' Open Marriage from Affecting My Relationship?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m 28 and been with my partner for four years. He’s always been the one to initiate sex and I thought he liked it that way. But, now he’s told me he’s sick of it and wants me to take the lead—not just with initiating, but during sex as well. I have no idea how to do this. Can you help?2) I had a bit of a thing with my neighbor. We’re both single, but have teenage children and didn’t want them to know anything was going on. Two months in, we got busted by my daughter and now it’s in the open. The kids are delighted—but I’m not interested anymore. I liked the excitement of sneaking around and having hot sex. I never did want a relationship, but now feel like it’s expected. What do I do?3) I grew up with parents who had an open relationship and were very open about sex. I’m now 24 and want to settle down with my girlfriend, but she doesn’t trust me because of my parents’ attitude toward sex. They’ve made it plain they think I’m too young to marry and should be having fun. How do I convince her I’m not like them and want to live a normal, stable married life?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
11 Kesä 25min
S13 Ep. 9: His Needs Come First, Post-Menopause Male Loneliness, and How Important is Smell?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m a woman who has no problem having an orgasm on her own, but it happens rarely with my partner. I’ve told him how I want to be stimulated, but sex always feels like something that’s done to satisfy his needs and mine are an afterthought. He knows I don’t orgasm through intercourse, but still asks me every single time if I have. When I say no, he begrudgingly gives me oral sex or uses his fingers, but it’s half-hearted because he’s had his orgasm. I’m feeling increasingly resentful. How do I tackle this?2) My wife and I are in our late 60s, fit and healthy, and have been happily married for 40 years. Sex has always been a small part of our marriage, but it was adventurous and good. Since menopause, which she seemed to sail through, both sex and intimacy have disappeared. We talk about it now and then, but nothing happens. I don't necessarily want penetrative sex, I just miss holding her and showing her I love her rather than just saying it. I feel lonely.3) I'm a straight woman in my 30s and recently met an amazing guy. I ended it because of his smell. He doesn’t smell bad, just like he has a different chemistry to me. My gut said not to go there. Am I right to pay attention to this? Is it something that you can work with or get past, and how?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
4 Kesä 21min
S13 Ep. 8: No Strings Sex, Secret Turn Ons, and Suspiciously Raised Libidos
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m a 25-year-old straight woman and am not interested in a relationship right now. But, I do want sex. How and when do I bring this up with people I date—and do I have to?2) My boyfriend of four years is suddenly doing new things in bed which is making me suspicious. I’ve always been the higher libido one; now he’s the one initiating sex and wanting to try new things. I feel like maybe he’s attracted to someone else and this is what’s firing him up. I don’t want to ask because I don’t want to know, but it’s making me uneasy. What should I do?3) My wife and I went to a remote beach in Greece while on holiday last year. It was just us on the beach, but then another couple turned up, stripped off and, in full sight of us, had sex. We both pretended not to look, but obviously did. That night we had the most amazing sex. But whenever I try to talk about it with my wife, she blocks discussion and called me a pervert for bringing it up. I felt the whole experience unlocked a moment of sexual magic. Should I drop it, or try to talk about it again in the hope of having better sex? To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
28 Touko 20min
S13 Ep. 7: Porn, Desire Dilemmas, and My Wife Has Left Me for Another Woman
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) How do I make myself desire sex more? I’ve tried everything to turn myself on but nothing seems to work. I have never had a high sex drive and probably never will. But I would like to get to the point where sex is remotely appealing. Do you have any advice I won’t have already heard?2) I know my husband watches porn—we’ve always had a laugh about it. But I was surprised to see the kind of porn he watches. I couldn’t resist checking his history—I did it on a whim—and now wish I hadn’t. There was some weird stuff on there. Is this something to worry about? I figured he just watched "normal" porn.3) My wife of 23 years has just left me—for another woman. She’s been straight the whole of her life and we have two children. I am obviously upset, but not sure how seriously to take this. My male friends tell me to hang in there and that she will come back. She says she’s not lesbian but fell in love with a person. Is it more likely she will change her mind because it’s a woman not a man and this is not her usual thing? It’s been six months now.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
21 Touko 22min
S13 Ep. 6: Sex Alfresco, Sex After an Affair, and Will She Want Sex More Once We Marry?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My wife and I have had sex in our garden, but she wants to try it in semi-public. We want the thrill of thinking we might be caught, but not actually get caught. Do you have any tips on how to go about this?2) I’m 27 and just got engaged to my girlfriend of seven years. At the start, we had sex once or twice a week, but now we barely touch each other. We have discussed this many times and agree to prioritize sex, but it never happens. Once every 1-2 months we masturbate each other but that’s it, and it’s not enough for me (though it is for her). Is this how it’s going to be when we marry? I love her, but I’m frustrated.3) My wife had an affair six months ago. We’ve been to therapy and are doing well, but haven’t attempted to have sex yet. I feel like I can forgive her, but I’m worried images of the two of them together will haunt me when we get physical. How should we tackle this?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
14 Touko 20min
S13 Ep. 5: A Beginner's Guide to Whipping, Prostates, and Perpetual Problems
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’d really like to try using a whip as a sex toy. My partner is up for it, but can you advise on what’s best to buy for a beginner and how to incorporate it into sex?2) Our relationship is really good but my wife and I argue about sex a lot. Do sex-life problems suggest there are problems elsewhere in the relationship? It’s a perpetual problem that never seems to get solved.3) Can you give me any advice on massaging my husband’s prostate during sex? I’d never done it before, but we're both keen to try.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
7 Touko 23min
