S9 Ep. 8: Should You Stay if Your Partner Has No Interest in Making Sex Good, What to Do if He Orgasms Too Quickly, and Why Did my New Trick Backfire?

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My husband and I are each other’s first loves. We’re now twenty years on, 10 years married with a child and I feel at a loss. Our sex life is robotic and boring, once or twice a month. Same foreplay, same position. I have repeatedly suggested trying new things, but it’s always met with resistance, no willingness to talk or try anything. Frankly, he has no clue how to make me orgasm. I can count on one hand how many times that’s happened. I have shown and guided him, he’s just not interested. He expects oral sex, but has never and is not willing to give it. He’s a great dad. I love him, but that is reducing all the time. Sometimes I dread it when he kisses me. Our child is growing up and less dependent. I’m entering mid-life in a loveless, sexless marriage. The appeal of meeting someone who would want to have more meaningful sex and experiment is huge. How on earth do we get a sex life and nearer to where I want it to be?

2) I am a 28-year-old straight man and I orgasm so fast, it’s humiliating. It’s barely a minute between when I penetrate and orgasm. I’m so embarrassed I haven’t had sex for six months. What can I do to overcome this? I’ve tried a delay spray and it did nothing.

3) I love your podcast and you’ve encouraged me to try new things with my partner of four years. But it backfired on me. I thought he’d be impressed by my new trick (it was an oral sex technique) but it had the opposite effect to what I intended: he lost his erection! He seemed annoyed that I’d done something different than the norm rather than impressed. Why? I’m completely demoralized and annoyed with him, and now don’t feel like making an effort at all.

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