S10 Ep. 6: Male Bi-Curiosity, I Hate Long-Term Sex, and Why Doesn't My Husband Desire Me Now that I'm Slim?

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I’ve lost a lot of weight using Ozempic and am delighted with how my body looks. I feel brand new and—at last—sexy and desirable. After years of complaining that I never initiate sex and accusing me of not even liking sex, I thought my husband would be pleased with my newfound confidence. I’m now super keen to try new things and have sex more often. I thought he would be happy with all these changes, but he just seems nervous about it all. He says he finds it "weird" that I’m the one now wanting sex. I’m confused and hurt.

2) I’m a 27-year-old man and very much in love with my girlfriend of five years. Even though I’m essentially straight, I’ve always wanted to experiment sexually with another man. I have no desire to live as a gay man—I’m just curious what it would be like to sleep with one. I find it unfair that bi-curiosity is encouraged with women but not with men. My girlfriend has no idea I feel this way. I want to tell her and ask if we could explore this somehow, but I don’t want to lose her.

3) I’m 46 and it’s finally dawned on me that, as much as I love sex, I don’t love sex in long-term relationships. I enjoy the power sex gives me over men. I love the game you both play at the start, and the moment when you first, finally, consummate all that pent-up lust. The first two months are fantastic but then, quickly, I lose interest in sex with that person completely. I kept searching for that magic person or relationship when the switch wouldn’t go off, but it’s never happened and never will happen. My question now is: what are my options? I can’t be the only one who feels like this. What do other people do?

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