Make Your Damn Bed2 Maalis 2022

Day 382 || relative comparison baseline III

Day III of series. Please go back to day one if you're new here!

If you chronically feel not good enough - your baseline of comparison is probably too fucking high and unrealistic. Reevaluate and recalibrate that shit.

The grass is always greener and our brains are designed to get bored of repetition so novelty is more important than getting ‘the best of the best’.

Basically, we need to remember that comparison can be great for leading us towards our deepest wants and desires. Of course, it can also be a trap - we can often find ourselves fighting to experience shit that our friends experienced just because we saw it existed and that looked cool enough to distract us from our own goals but in reality - you will only reach true inherent success and happiness if YOU choose what creates that for you. And only you can know that.

So change your baseline of relativity to reflect what you actually want and where you are to create a more realistic and reasonable comparison window that makes you feel inspired instead of lesser than - and you’re likely to stay the course that actually brings you TRUE real lasting happiness without distracting you with other baselines that aren’t even relevant to your actual pursuit of personal success or joy.

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