Embracing Perfectionism with Katherine Morgan Schafler

To summarize and simplify a little bit, one of the major focuses of this podcast is the “how” of happiness – what we can actually do in our lives, practically speaking, to increase our natural foundation of happiness and well-being. There’s endless advice out there about how to become happier, but most of it is anecdotal in nature. That’s why we're so happy to be being joined today by one of the leading researchers on the scientific study of human happiness: Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Timestamps: 01:06: The “pie chart” of happiness. 04:52: What push-back have you received on your work? 06:49: What has a big role in the 40% of our happiness we control? 12:34: What can we do to handle “back-fre” effects? 14:26: Building the trait of happiness. 21:35: A message to your younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Kesä 201926min

Today we’re going to continue our series on “Who Am I” by looking at one of the most well-known personality disorders: sociopathy. We’ll explore what it is, where it comes from, and what we can do to interact more skillfully with people who possess it. We also spend a little time investigating how we can work with our own tendencies in that direction if we happen to possess them. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Timestamps: 01:05: Dr. Hanson's new online program: *Neurodharma*. 05:34: What are the attributes of anti-social personality disorder? 10:26: What does a person, showing a little bit of sociopathy, look like day-to-day? 18:12: Where does sociopathy comes from? 30:16: What can we do when in a relationship with a sociopathic person? 36:37: What can we do to make our relationships with "5% sociopaths" more positive? 44:30: Recap. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Kesä 201942min

We made it to episode 101! On today's special episode, Forrest talks with Dr. Rick Hanson about his personal journey. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Timestamps: 01:30: What inspired you to become a psychologist? 05:34: What was it like to live through the hight of the human potential movement? 13:13: The influence of contemplative practice. 17:12: Becoming an author, and the process of writing Buddha's Brain. 24:02: What parts of your work are particularly exciting to you these days? 32:09: What have you found in your experience, on a day-to-day level, really makes the greatest difference? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11 Kesä 201942min

We are so busy these days that it’s great to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Dr. Daniel Goleman and Michele Nevarez share the most important thing they do, each day, for their own happiness. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Kesä 20195min

Today we’re exploring one of the most important topics when it comes to our personal happiness, achievement, and general social functioning: Emotional Intelligence. And we have the absolute pleasure of speaking with one of the most influential people in that very important field. Today we’re joined by two special guests: Dr. Daniel Goleman and Michele Nevarez. You can put Dr. Goleman's expertise into practice with one of his flexible online courses. Want to become more emotionally intelligent? Learn more about getting coached here! Are you interested in becoming certified as an emotional intelligence coach? Follow the link here to learn more about Dr. Goleman's certification program! Timestamps: 01:07: What is the definition of “emotional intelligence,” and how is it different from IQ? 05:55: What are the key things that people can do to develop EQ in general? 10:31: A practice a day for greater EQ. 12:15: Why do you think it so effectivefor personal development to practice warm-heartedness? 14:19: How can we help these virtuous practices have more of an impact over the next 25 years? 18:11: What’s something that parents or adults can do to help their children, or young people in general, learn emotional intelligence skills? 23:23: If you could speak to everyone in the world and tell them one thing, what would you say? 28:35: If you had the opportunity to go back in time and talk to your younger self, what would you say? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Kesä 201936min

We all have tendencies in our relationships, and particularly our important ones. Some of these are good, while others can be destructive. And sometimes we might find ourselves in cycles where the trajectory of all our important relationships tends to look the same. Today we’re continuing our series on “Who Am I” by taking a look at where those tendencies come from, and how we can work inside ourselves to relate to them and others more effectively. Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3 Timestamps: 01:48: Do we have repetitive patterns in our relationships? 10:12: Social learning and object relations. 21:16: What can we do to be more aware of those damaging patterns? 24:18: Once we’ve recognized those damaging patterns, how do we change? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Touko 201936min

In the second part of their conversation with Dr. Kristin Neff, Forrest and Dr. Hanson speak with her about how we can be compassionate under challenging circumstances. Particularly, how can we bring strength to compassion without tipping into anger? Learn more about Dr. Neff's Mindful Self-Compassion program here. Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3 Timestamps: 01:52: Can we have too much mindfulness? And what do we need in addition to mindfulness to support self-compassion? 06:30: Is there a gender bias in the material on self-compassion? How do people of different genders respond to it differently? 12:22: How can a person be both forceful and compassionate? 16:31: So if you had the opportunity to go back and talk to yourself as a child or young adult, what is something that you would want to say to that person? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

23 Touko 201920min

We all have a negative voice that lives inside our heads, and it’s very challenging to perform at our best when we’re not kind and supportive of ourselves. Dr. Hanson and I began our book Resilient with a chapter dedicated to compassion, and particularly self-compassion. It’s the fundamental building block on which our personal growth rests. On this episode, Dr. Hanson and I are joined by one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion, Dr. Kristin Neff. Dr. Neff is the Associate Professor of Human Development and Culture in the Educational Psychology Department at the University of Texas at Austin, and she was the first to operationally define and measure the construct over a decade ago. In addition to her pioneering research into self-compassion, she’s developed a program to teach self-compassion skills in daily life, co-created with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer. In the first part of our conversation, we explore the nature of self-compassion, including why it's such an essential skill for personal growth. Learn more about Dr. Neff's Mindful Self-Compassion program here. Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3 Timestamps: 01:18: What lead you from communications to self-compassion? 03:37:How do you define self-compassion differently from how we do casually? 10:08: Why is self-compassion so important? 12:19: How can people grow their self-compassion? 15:23: How do you give yourself self compassion naturally in the course of a day? 17:06: A practice of self-compassion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Touko 201920min