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The essentials of improving self-worth for better relationships and the practices for self-love that pave the way to finding and keeping love. Jonathon Aslay is known as America's leading mid-life relationships coach and is the author of "What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway?" Jonathon sheds light on the importance of self-reflection in dating and how to become someone of worth to others. Learn: the secrets to finding the right partner in modern dating identifying deal-breakers in potential partners the mindsets for lasting love and connection how to cultivate a successful relationship mindset This conversation is a treasure trove of advice for anyone looking to enhance their dating life and build healthy, meaningful relationships. - - - Connect with Jonathan: His website - JonathonAslay.com Watch his advice -  YouTube - Jonathon Aslay - - - Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen - - - Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction 01:23 - Background 04:17 - What is self-love 07:40 - Wake-up calls are a thing 11:30 - Where humanity is being silly 13:30 - the biggest problems in relationships 17:03 - Notice self-defense 20:00 - It's not what you do, it's how you do it 24:11 - Non-violent communication 28:40 - Read books together 30:40 - Eight dates 36:30 - Earliest memory 38:00 - Kindest thing Topics: finding the right partner in modern dating mistakes to avoid in searching for love improving self-worth for better relationships practices for self-love and partner love Jonathan Aslay's approach to successful dating keys to being a valuable partner in relationships navigating the dating world with confidence the mindset for lasting love and connection identifying deal-breakers in potential partners strategies for attracting the right person the importance of self-reflection in dating transforming your love life with expert advice overcoming common dating pitfalls building a foundation for healthy relationships cultivating a successful relationship mindset Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

5 Maalis 202443min

Learn how to battle intrusive thoughts and create more peace in your mind and in your relationships. We cover the natural thinking pathways that lead to catastrophizing behaviours and how they become overused. We can then address how to start building healthier behaviours that reduce and calm our worries instead of amplifying them. This is an incredible game-changer for relationships as well as helping improve your social life and work life once you can better control your worries and fears before they control you. Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Intro 01:53 What is catastrophising 04:25 Build awareness 07:17 Magnifying and minimising 08:40 More details feels more real. 10:29 Advert - Magic Mind 11:30 Humans are story telling machines 14:17 Catastrophizing and being diagnosed with ADHD 17:03 Balancing worst and best scenarios 18:09 Social anxiety example 19:55 Write a journal 21:17 Alex Hormozi selling gym subscriptions 21:55 Want and don't want chair 24:39 4 stages of intrusive thoughts 30:03 Mitigating catastrophization 34:08 Growth mindset Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1 Maalis 202437min

Conversation drives the mechanics of love and connection. We talk with Topaz Adizes, the brilliant mind behind '12 Questions for Love' to increase the quality of our conversations. We explore the methodology behind asking the right questions to foster deeper intimacy and understanding in relationships. Topaz Azides is an Emmy award-winning film director, experience designer, and founder of Skin Deep. He shares his insights on engineering experiences that enrich our emotional bonds and the importance of a mindful approach to love. With a blend of storytelling and analysis, this conversation unveils the layers of human connection, offering listeners a unique perspective on improving their relationships. If you're curious about the science and art of love, don't miss this enlightening discussion. Topics include: How to improve communication in relationships Techniques to create spaces that enhance emotional intimacy How to craft better questions Navigating conflict with compassion and empathy Strategies for maintaining passion in long-term relationships Cultivating a growth mindset in love and life Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 Topaz Azides Experience designer and self-described story-breaker. Here are links to Topaz's best resources. Book - 12 Questions for Love Card Game - THE_AND Tik Tok - @TheSkinDeep YouTube - TheSkinDeep Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters: 00:00 Do we control our thoughts 03:50 Architecting Experiences 08:31 Finding new dimensions in our moments 11:34 What makes a brilliant question 15:23 Humans are answering machines 17:41 Advert - Magic Mind 19:07 Great questions for life 21:23 Power of being articulate 23:31 Importance of attention 25:27 Question loops 27:31 Chapters of life 31:20 Dangers of quick fixes - should a relationship be allowed to end 36:43 Cultural or regional variations 39:46 Daily practices or habits for sustaining a relationship 43:29 How to stay positive 48:17 Future projects 50:58 Reflections Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

27 Helmi 202456min

What makes you... you? How much of that can you decide? These are the big questions we tackle in this short Life Lesson bonus episode for some ideas to percolate over the weekend and take forward with us. From the attachment styles we learnt as children to our accents and even how we think about learning. These are all behaviours that are up to us if we choose to be pro-active about how we show up in life and who we want to be. We'll learn how to act consistently with compounding behaviours over time to build brick by brick the big changes we want to make. We'll build techniques to unlearn negative behaviors and utilise a Growth mindset to focus on positive development Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters: 00:00 What makes you, you? 03:05 Memory and the self 04:33 British Accents and lessons of children 06:11 Attachment and behaviour 08:13 Small Actions Compound 09:50 Advert - Magic Mind 10:43 Opening our minds 11:58 Every story has a villain 12:45 Battling the expectations in your mind 14:30 Feedback 15:57 Send Off Links: Tim Urban - Why Generation Y is Unhappy Steven Pressfield - Every story needs a villian How I write with Tim Urban - Why your writing is boring Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/growth-mindset-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

25 Helmi 202418min

We clear the complex waters of setting healthy boundaries in relationships, a masterclass designed to empower you with the tools for understanding and creating boundaries that foster freedom and respect. Join us as we navigate the nuances of recognizing and avoiding porous or rigid boundaries and understand the impact of weak boundaries on personal well-being. We explore strategies for balancing personal needs with those of others, ensuring your relationships are built on a foundation of mutual respect and understanding. Discover practical steps for identifying personal, social and value-based boundaries and learn how to communicate boundaries without feeling selfish. As a bonus we tackle the challenges of navigating work-life balance through effective boundary setting, offering insights on developing assertiveness in boundary communication. Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 10 signs of Boundary issues Difficulty making decisions Feeling selfish for saying no Frequent apologizing Uncertainty about what to share Passive aggressiveness Losing sense of self Need for external validation Resentment A constant sense of fatigue Dramatic relationships Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters: 00:00 What are boundaries 02:24 Pre-roll 02:55 Boundaries in life 05:06 Why boundaries need balance 07:15 10 signs of poor boundaries 11:30 Abusive situations 14:53 AD - MagicMind 16:41 Weak boundaries 18:48 Rigid boundaries 20:36 Why we struggle with boundaries 24:36 Creating healthy boundaries 25:05 Personal Boundaries 25:34 Social Boundaries 26:55 Mid-roll 26:58 Value-based boundaries 28:17 Communicating boundaries 29:59 Traffic light framework 33:32 The importance of independence 36:15 Book suggestions Topics: how to set healthy boundaries in relationships understanding the impact of weak boundaries on personal well-being examples of setting boundaries with family and friends communicating boundaries without feeling selfish navigating work-life balance through effective boundary setting recognizing and avoiding porous or rigid boundaries the role of cultural background in boundary setting practical steps for identifying personal vs social boundaries developing assertiveness in boundary communication dealing with boundary violations in close relationships creating stronger relationships through clear boundaries boundary setting for self-care and mental health strategies for balancing personal needs with those of others overcoming fear of conflict when setting boundaries transforming family patterns with healthy boundary practices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

23 Helmi 202439min

We explore the profound impact of attachment theory on relationship dynamics, focusing on overcoming fears of intimacy linked to avoidant attachment and the influence of childhood experiences on adult attachment styles. Discover practical tips for anxious attachers seeking relationship harmony and learn how creating a secure base in relationships encourages growth and exploration. Whether you're dealing with attachment style mismatches or seeking to enhance emotional intelligence based on attachment theory, we provide insights and strategies to navigate the complexities of love and attachment, aiming for happier, healthier partnerships. Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off code: GrowthMS20 Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters: 00:00 Importance of Attachment 03:09 Origin of Attachment Theory 04:38 Secure Attachment 05:32 Anxious Attachment 06:38 Avoidant Attachment 07:21 Disorganised Attachment 07:43 Impact on relationships 10:59 Ad - MagicMind 12:36 Common Mistakes 14:55 #1 Overgeneralize Attachment styles 15:48 #2 Forgetting Context 17:47 #3 Stigmatising Attachment styles 19:11 #4 Oversimplifying relationships 19:43 #5 Using Attachment as an excuse 20:22 #6 Ignoring potential for change 21:11 Mid-roll 21:14 Improving attachment styles 24:28 Improving Anxious attachment 27:03 Avoidant attachment traits 28:57 Improving avoidant attachment 30:20 Deeper area to explore Topics: understanding attachment theory in adult relationships overcoming anxious attachment style challenges building secure attachments in romantic partnerships strategies for dealing with avoidant attachment in partners common mistakes in interpreting attachment behaviors fostering secure attachment dynamics in long-term relationships identifying your attachment style for better relationship outcomes transforming anxious attachment into secure connections navigating avoidant attachment tendencies in relationships effective communication strategies for different attachment styles healing from insecure attachments through therapy and self-reflection the role of attachment theory in enhancing relationship satisfaction attachment style mismatches and resolving conflict developing emotional intelligence based on attachment theory attachment theory and its impact on relationship stability signs of secure attachment in couples and how to cultivate it managing relationship anxiety with insights from attachment theory attachment theory techniques for deepening emotional intimacy overcoming fears of intimacy linked to avoidant attachment the influence of childhood experiences on adult attachment styles practical tips for anxious attachers seeking relationship harmony Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

20 Helmi 202432min

Join us on a journey through the labyrinth of love and the 15 keys to crafting harmony in romance and life. This episode tackles the subtle nuances that make or break relationships, including the importance of open communication, respecting privacy, and the art of compromise. Discover how to strike the perfect balance between giving and receiving, the significance of shared values, and the critical role of empathy and understanding. With stories that illustrate the beauty and challenges of love, this episode is a guide for anyone looking to enrich their romantic relationships and build lasting bonds. - - Sponsor - Better Help Online therapy can boost you toward being your best self. 10% off at Betterhelp.com/GROWTHMINDSET - - Sponsor - LinkedIn Jobs Advertise your job to the world's largest pool of professionals, for free! Linked.com/Growth - - Growth Mindset podSam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen - - Chapters: 00:00 Strength through vulnerability 02:04 The closest cuts are the Deepest 03:26 Disgusting is Delightful 04:36 Craving for attention vs. repulsing against it 06:16 Distance breeds Closeness 07:06 Unity Needs Conflict 07:57 Accepting vs Growing a partner 09:38 Imperfect is perfect 10:37 Reality vs Expectations 12:18 Equality and diversity 14:07 Ad - BetterHelp 15:19 Ad - Linked In 16:31 Relationships are not easy 17:22 Selfishness to be altruistic 18:58 Nurture Transparency and Privacy 20:28 Paradox of Commitment for Freedom 21:26 Comfort vs passion 22:33 Independence vs Interdependence 23:39 Life is beautiful but cruel Topics: Emotional openness in relationships The closest people can hurt us the most Alain De Botton on unspoken needs in love Disgusting-delightful paradox of intimacy Craving versus repulsing attention in romance Navigating sexual attention and consent Confidence in approaching potential partners Distance and closeness in relationships Conflict as a catalyst for unity Accepting partners versus encouraging growth Embracing imperfections in love Reality versus expectations in relationships Strengths and weaknesses in partners Equality through celebrating differences Effort and ease in maintaining relationships Selfishness-altruism paradox in partnerships Balancing transparency and privacy Freedom within commitment paradox Predictability versus spontaneity in love Independence and interdependence in relationships Balance in relationships and life insights Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

16 Helmi 202425min

Explore the dynamic interplay between solitude and connection in our latest episode on the Loneliness Paradox. This episode provides insights into overcoming the fear of loneliness, and creating a more peaceful self-assured independence and self-awareness to foster stronger emotional intimacy. Through discussions on the psychology of understanding love and the benefits of independence in love, we offer listeners a guide to cultivating fulfilling relationships that thrive on both togetherness and individuality. Instead of fearing loneliness, we can turn solitude into a strength. We’ll use core growth mindset strategies to work on our relationship with ourselves to then employ strategies to work on our relationships with others. - - - Sponsor - Better Help Online therapy can boost you on your way to being your best self. 10% off at Betterhelp.com/GROWTHMINDSET - - - Sponsor - LinkedIn Jobs Advertise your job to the world's largest pool of professionals, for free! Linked.com/Growth - - - Growth mindset podcastHost Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) - - - Title: The Loneliness Paradox: Why Independence is Key to Connection Chapters:00:00 The dichotomy of friendship 02:49 Fear of loneliness problems 03:34 Poor choices 04:00 Compunding small problems 04:30 Weakness in asserting our needs 04:53 Learned helplessness 05:26 Loss of freedom 05:45 Disconnection from ourself 06:06 Acceptance of mediocrity 07:10 Forgiveness and evolution in friendships 09:03 Bearing witness 10:21 Ad - BetterHelp 11:34 Ad - Linked In 12:46 Adopting a growth mindset 18:05 How to build healthy long-term relationships 18:37 Communication strategies 20:03 Express appreciation more often 20:46 Deepening our understanding 22:30 Creating shared experiences 24:21 Trust yourself and take that leap forward Topics:benefits of independence in love embracing solitude for personal growth active listening techniques for couples expressing gratitude in romantic relationships shared experiences that bond partners deep conversations with your partner tips how to be vulnerable with loved ones creating meaningful traditions in relationships importance of friendship in marriage overcoming the fear of loneliness growth mindset in romantic relationships psychology of building strong connections navigating the balance between independence and intimacy strengthening relationships through self-awareness the role of psychology in understanding love cultivating a healthy relationship with oneself ways to enhance emotional intimacy strategies for effective communication in love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

13 Helmi 202424min