How Do I Stop Comparing Myself To My Boyfriend’s Ex?

J&J are back in the studio so nature is healing. Jared talks “peacocking” and shares deets on the commitment he dove into after a weekend in Aspen. Then, Jordana dishes on decision-making with her husband and the tactics that they’re using to get through their home renovations. Next, we receive an email from a male listener who isn’t having much luck making it to date #2. Is there a right way to ask what went wrong? The next email is a listener mid-spiral after her fiancé confessed to a digital affair. Then, the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a weird house quality, downgraded dinner plans, and lying about age on the apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Huhti 20241h 39min

Mercury is in retrograde, J&J are out of studio, and existential thoughts are filling the distance between them today. Still reeling from the earthquake and solar eclipse, Jared and Jordana are getting deep into fears, oblivion, and mental health. Then, they dive into an email that doubles as a "Petty or Prudent?" submission. Our listener was dumped by her fiancé after footing most of the bills in preparation of their wedding, but she still has his grandmother's engagement ring. Should she give it back, or is it only fair that she sells it to pay off the debt incurred? She gets into the details of what's transpired since he called the wedding off to let J&J decide where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Huhti 202441min

Lovers of long intros, buckle up! J&J are jumping in virtually today, so they do a little catch-up from Aspen and Long Island before diving into the episode. Then, our first email is questioning a man's alleged heartbreak. Our listener's friend broke up with a guy, but she's not sure how to take his reaction. Was he really just romantic, or was his reaction the subtle sign of a player? The Awkward Encounter is the accidental sext situation without the ick. The next email comes from a confused listener after her ex reached out wanting to be "all in" only to change his mind 3 days later. J&J discuss WTF happened and how you can avoid situations like this, then they end the episode with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about an odd joke, a last-minute change of plans, and privacy screens.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Huhti 20241h 38min

Weddings are on our minds today! After a few listeners sent invitations to their upcoming “I do’s,” J&J thought about the ideal wedding experience if they could attend one. Then, Jordana needs context on “the chair” text exchange from Jared’s Instagram Story coverage of his brother’s wedding. The “Icky or Picky?” is about having sex with someone who shares the same name as a family member. Then, we hear from a listener whose boyfriend’s mom disapproves so much that she emailed a list of her deal breakers. Should his mom’s behavior be a reason to see herself out of this relationship, or can they work through it? J&J discuss the balancing act between a parent and a partner when everyone isn’t aligned. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Huhti 202435min

Before we dive into another peak dating season, it’s time to ask yourself what you want and why you need it. In today’s episode, we hear from a few listeners going through frustration and anxiety, but first, you’ll never guess what Jordana has to do. Then, J&J hear from a 32-year-old listener who is convinced that at this point, she and other women are doomed in today’s dating society. Jared levels with her, but before we let her take everyone down too, our hosts discuss the importance of what you want your story to be. The Awkward Encounter is a confusing situation phoned into our hotline. Aligned with second-guessing from the previous two, our next emailer is dating someone, but she’s not sure she made the right call backing out of a date if it would mean meeting some of his family members. Does that mean they were taking the next step, or is she making a movie night more than he meant it to be? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a third-wheeling puppy, revealing a potential deal breaker before the date, and lifestyle changes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Huhti 20241h 28min

Can a couple be successful in a professional and personal relationship? We’re finding out with this Sunday Special’s guests Nick and Elyse Oleksak, known for bringing their business Bantam Bagels to Shark Tank and selling for millions. The episode starts with learning how our guests came to know Jared, then J&J delve into their success and how the inner workings of their business played a role in their relationship. How do they turn off work mode and incorporate date nights? Has business been beneficial to their marriage dynamics? And what the f*ck happens if they were to split? Nick and Elyse open up about the personal elements behind the personas that made a life-changing deal. For more about our guests, read “A Shark Ate My Bagel,” by Elyse Oleksak (@elyseoleksakofficial), available here: https://amzn.to/3QaN6PR Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Huhti 202443min

Spring is here, but while we’re waiting for the weather to catch up, we’re discussing early dating to get you back out there. An email from last week about accidental sexts reenters the chat when our first email asks about strange messages from men on dating apps. Are there really that many creeps out there, or is she doing something to attract them? The Awkward Encounter is more of a reassurance ask about where a situation left off. The next email comes from a man who met a woman IRL. He’s not attracted to her now, but she seems cool and he saw an old pic of her, so would it be wrong to date her with a secret mission of turning her into his physical type? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about first date convenience, refollowing an ex on IG, and body counts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Huhti 20241h 34min

Spring cleaning time is here, so we’re heading into April ready to clean out, refresh, and reinvigorate our mindsets with the help of one of our listeners! Jeannette Cieszykowski, Feng Shui consultant and owner of Elemental Clarity, reached out to Jared after hearing a Benefits episode about how his apartment was holding back his dating life. This Sunday Special, she joins J&J to talk about feng shui, the energies we hold in our homes, and how simple changes could help us succeed in our dating intentions. Learn more about Jeannette's work at elementalclarity.com or follow her on Instagram @elementalclarity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Maalis 202452min