160: What If He Secretly Returns to Pornography? How She Can Know, And 5 Ways He Can Rebuild Security

In the traditional way of overcoming addiction and restoring a marriage, the husbands is often seen as the bad guy. The message is that he is the problem, there’s something wrong with him, he’s in a one-down position and is less-than. When he gets that message, he often feels discouraged, not good enough, and always in the hole, never able to heal and move forward. His wife often feels disconnected from him, very unsafe, and unable to bring her wall down. There’s a much more empowering and effective way to see pornography addiction recovery, healing trauma, and restoring the marriage. In this episode I share with you some specific examples that can help you see and experience interactions with your spouse differently, which can help you to move forward and beyond the pain instead of feeling manipulated, not good enough, and unloved. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

10 Tammi 202225min

So many people struggle with feeling low self-worth and the depression / anxiety that accompanies it.  In this episode I share some powerful strategies to help you increase your self-worth and how to experience feeling more love for yourself.  For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

23 Joulu 202132min

So many women I work tell me that almost everything can be a trigger – the movies, tv shows, going out to eat, women in the grocery story, billboards, you name it.  It’s overwhelming to constantly feel on guard and anxious because any of these triggers sends her into fear and uncertainty, and sadly, so often their husbands don’t know how to respond to help her. In this episode I share one of the most common triggers that women experience and exactly how to diffuse it, and how her husband can help in the process. The more involved he is, not only does it help her work through the triggers faster, but it strengthens her trust in him and increases the safety and connection they both feel. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

17 Joulu 202126min

When people are working through the process of overcoming pornography addiction, healing from betrayal trauma, and restoring their marriage, there are obviously ups and downs. It’s easy for couple to fall back into old patterns of arguments and fighting, lack of trust, and issues with their sexual relationship, so in this episode I shared the strategy and approach to addressing these three common situations that are barriers to creating a fulfilling relationship.  For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

3 Joulu 202126min

When working to repair your relationship after the effects of porn addiction, learning how to stop fights and diffuse them is critical. The more couples fight, the more alone and disconnected they feel, and if you don’t know how to effectively come back together, the relationship continues to suffer. In this episode I share exactly how to diffuse a fight (every time) and prevent things from escalating. Learning this one skill will help you not only have a strong relationship together, but will open the door to resolving each of the problems that you experience in your marriage and work through them effectively. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

18 Marras 202127min

I was a teenager and had a hard time feeling love - from family, friends, and from God. I believed they loved me, I knew intellectually they did, but I had a hard time feeling it. For many people I work with who are affected by a pornography addiction, they have a hard time feeling and experiencing love because they don't feel worthy, have low self-esteem, or have a hard time feeling in general. In this episode, I share exactly how to increase your ability to feel love so you can more fully feel satisfaction and fulfillment as a result of deeper connection with God and your loved ones. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

4 Marras 202128min

Many couples get the advice (or consider for themselves) that they should separate for a number of reasons.. Maybe there is too much hurt, betrayal, dishonesty, or fighting? But separation can have unintended harmful effects on an individual and a marriage, so in this episode I share the most important considerations before you decide about how to approach a separation.

22 Loka 202132min

As men are learning how to quit porn, one of the most helpful things in their process is their ability to avoid slips. It's such a discouraging experience for both people when he ends up slipping back into old patterns. It affects the trust she has in him, it affects his confidence, and it feels like a big disappointment overall. In this episode I share with you my proven framework to instantly reduce the rate of slip ups. I also share how this framework applies to any other goal that someone wants to achieve, whether it's to become a better parent, progress spiritually, heal the pain of betrayal, and anything else someone is striving to accomplish. Pornography addiction can be overcome by getting the tools necessary to resolve it, and in this episode I share 2 effective strategies that will help.   Porn addiction recovery is

7 Loka 202126min