Terri Cole: How to Stop People Pleasing and Actually Set Boundaries

In this episode of Biohacking Bestie, I’m joined by Terri Cole, who shares the importance of personal boundaries for maintaining healthy relationships and self-respect, the significant role that our boundary blueprint plays in how we relate to others, and the necessity of setting and effectively communicating boundaries in relationships to establish emotional trust and deeper connections.

We also discuss ​​the pitfalls of being a people-pleaser, how our upbringing and societal expectations can influence our boundary setting, and how to recognize when our boundaries have been violated. Terri shares insights on how to navigate from childhood mistakes to healthier boundaries in our adult relationships.

Our discussion then moves to the complexities of codependency and its link to boundary issues. We also explore the concept of over-explaining and its relation to boundaries and self-respect. Lastly, we touch on the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and effectively communicating them to ensure mutual respect and understanding.

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. For two decades, Terri has worked with some of the world's most well-known personalities, from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs. Terri’s mission is to teach you how to attain and sustain vibrant mental health and become empowered in all of your relationships.

Access Terri’s 20 minute video and PDF to understand where you are on the codependency scale and where you need help at https://www.boundaries.me/aggie

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What we discuss:

(0:01:11) - How personal boundaries are our own individual rules of engagement, shaped by our preferences, desires, limits, and deal breakers

(0:05:43) - The concept of our boundary blueprint and how it is influenced by our family, society, and personality

(0:16:10) - How to provide context when setting boundaries, and the importance of honoring our intuition.

(0:25:40) - The importance of developing boundaries and how having boundaries makes us emotionally trustworthy

(0:32:56) - The complexities of codependency and its relation to boundary issues

(0:42:16) - The importance of setting boundaries in relationships and how to communicate them effectively

(0:54:46) - The power of setting boundaries and how it can provide a sense of freedom

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