The Skillful Podcast8 Tammi 2020

#19: What are Your Values?

Instead of making New Year's resolutions this year, think about using the momentum of the new year to make changes in your life that are aligned with your values.

Often New Year's resolutions come from a place of shame or deficiency, a place of trying to fix what's "wrong" with you. What if you made changes in your life based on what's most important to you rather than "fixing" what's wrong? This is where values come in.

The DBT skill called Accumulating Positive Emotions in the Long Term can help you experience more positive emotions more often by aligning your life with your values. In today's episode, Marielle and Ed take a deep dive into the skill.

Show Highlights

Access your Wise Mind when assessing your values
What's actually important to you vs. what you think SHOULD be important
Your values and priorities can shift as you go through different seasons in your life
This skill outlines a step by step process to make your values a reality in your life
Avoid avoiding
Pick one value to focus on at a time
Identify a few goals related to this value
Bite-size action steps
Take action!

Links & Resources

DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition

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