#81 - Is Social Media Making You Sad?

#81 - Is Social Media Making You Sad?

Is social media giving you social anxiety? You're not alone. Many people feel worse about themselves and their lives after logging into Facebook or Instagram. Engagement rings, new babies, new houses, envious vacations, and tales of spouses doing eye-mistingly touching things scroll up endlessly. You should be happy for your friends, right? That their lives are so wonderful and amazing is a glorious thing, right? But it still makes your stomach tighten into a fist as you think of your own diamond-less, baby-less life. You can't help but comparing your house to theirs, your vacation to theirs, and... worst of all... your partner to theirs. Like how he surprised her with five hundred cheerios arranged on the table to say, "I love you!" and a serenade of "You Are My Sunshine" by their three young children when she walked in for breakfast -- just because! Like how she orchestrated a multi-day treasure hunt involving GPS, clues handed by anonymous "strangers" and a midnight trip on a crosstown bus cumulating in the discovery of front row concert tickets for him to see his idol live on stage, only to be met there by the two best friends she'd arranged to fly in from each coast for the event. Like how your partner can't even be bothered to pick up a cheerio off the floor and couldn't pick your best friend out of a line up -- even if you could tear him away from the Xbox. In short: More people than you'd expect feel like taking a Xanax and / or fire-bombing their lives after a ten minute Facebook session. How do I know this? Because I am a therapist and life coach, and people tell me their secrets. My clients are some of the most poised, socially savvy, outwardly successful, wealthy, and gorgeous people you'll ever meet. But they don't feel that way when they are looking at Facebook. They feel like they are failing at life, and it makes them anxious as hell. (And that's not just my opinion: Research links the use of Facebook to increased feelings of depression). Even worse, their social media and the assumptions they make about others because of it can actually create more distance and separation in their lives. Feeling anxious and self-conscious about their own life and achievements pressures people into image management. Increasingly careful about what they share they start to feel more isolated instead of more connected. The net result? They feel anxious, dissatisfied with their lives, and lonely. (And like there is something terribly wrong with them because of this). As Brene Brown so beautifully outlined for the world in her TED Talk, "The Power of Vulnerability" shame leads us to hide, and disconnect in efforts to protect ourselves. The anxiety generating machine of Facebook then, ironically, becomes the antitheses of the connection it was intended to create. How to Feel More Connected, and Less Anxious About Social Media Today on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm sharing some insights with you that will help ease your anxiety over social media and restore the connection in your life. We'll be talking about a marvelous theory posed by Tim Urban in his blog "Wait But Why" about why social media makes people unhappy, as well as how the culture of curation is eroding authenticity and vulnerability. I'll be sharing a cautionary tale from my own life about the potential for tragedy from taking Facebook at face value. Lastly, I'll be sharing some actionable ideas that will help you stop judging your own life, and restore your bond to the people you care about. Ready to change your relationship with social media? You might also enjoy this article from the Huffington Post : 7 Types Of People You Should Unfriend On Facebook ASAP Listen now: Is Social Media Making You Sad? (Episode 64 of the Love, Happiness & Success Podcast) Music Credits: Public Image, LTD, "Public Image" (And while you're there, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review -- your support means the world to me!) Now, let's get real. In the podcast, in the spirit of "radical authenticity" I shared a story about how a close friend and I became disconnected from each other during a time that we really needed each other because of the pitfalls of social media. Has there been a time in your life that social media got in the way of your connection, or made you feel "less than?" If so please share in the comments at this link: http://www.growingself.com/is-social-media-making-you-sad/ It will help others feel less alone. xo, Lisa http://www.growingself.com

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#271 - Emotional Flooding

#271 - Emotional Flooding

Have you ever wondered why you lose it sometimes, and say things you regret later? Or why you get to a certain point where you just cannot talk anymore, and shut down? These are both examples of emotional flooding: Lashing out and withdrawing are two sides of the same coin. Both can be disastrous for your relationship. On today’s episode we’re talking about the reality of emotional flooding, and how to manage it effectively when you’re “coming in hot.”  Join me! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

8 Marras 202158min

#270 - How to Stop Emotional Invalidation

#270 - How to Stop Emotional Invalidation

Feeling invalidated is at the core of communication issues. When couples fight, they're usually fighting to be heard. Feeling shut down, or bulldozed by your partner is not just frustrating — if it happens routinely it can damage your relationship. Today, learn why emotional invalidation happens and what you can do to stop it. By the end of the episode, you’ll have some actionable takeaways to help you feel heard, valued, and understood. With love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

1 Marras 20211h 9min

#269 - The Devil Inside: Self-Limiting Beliefs

#269 - The Devil Inside: Self-Limiting Beliefs

What you believe about yourself holds so much power. You have the power to create a really wonderful life for yourself. Or, you can be tricked into believing the devil inside: Your self-limiting beliefs. Self-limiting beliefs are so dangerous because they often masquerade as "truth." But buying into them only creates pain, and damages your self-esteem, your career, and your relationships. On this episode of the podcast, I'm teaching you how to identify your limiting beliefs and overcome them, so you can get back in control.  Happy Halloween!  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

25 Loka 20211h

#268 - Mind Body Connection

#268 - Mind Body Connection

Your mind-body connection is powerful. Sometimes the most direct path to improving your emotional wellbeing isn't through therapy — it’s through lifestyle changes. Other times your physical health suffers because of the way you’re thinking or feeling. The way you think, feel emotionally, and your physical wellness are all interconnected.  Tune in today to gain insight into your mind-body connection, and get actionable strategies to support every aspect of your wellness. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

18 Loka 202152min

#267 - How to Appreciate The Partner You Have

#267 - How to Appreciate The Partner You Have

It's great to work on your relationship, but sometimes people can get so over-focused on relationship problems they stop appreciating their partner’s positive qualities... to the detriment of the dynamic. In contrast, feeling love and appreciation for your partner — as they are — is the royal road to growth and happiness for both of you.  When do you advocate for change? When do you lean into “appreciative acceptance?” That’s what we’re discussing on today’s episode!  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

11 Loka 202151min

#266 - Love Your Body

#266 - Love Your Body

How to love your body? Although your body is a miraculous engine of life that supports everything you do, it’s easy to get judgy about the way your body looks. Or whether or not it’s as “good” or worthy of love as someone else’s body.  These unhelpful ideas crush your self-esteem, and can lead to truly unhealthy diet and exercise habits.  Let’s all stop. Today, learn how to stop feeling bad about your body, and start moving towards self-compassion, appreciation for your body, and health at any size.  Join me! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

4 Loka 202145min

#265 - How to Deal With Stress at Work

#265 - How to Deal With Stress at Work

Dealing with stress at work? Whether you’re working from home or back in the office, burnout and career ambivalence are rampant right now. Help is here: On today's episode I’m visiting with an expert career coach who can help you advocate for yourself, set healthy boundaries on the job, manage work related stress and anxiety, make empowered career decisions, and, if you’re an employer, learn how to keep your people happy and healthy.  All for you!  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

27 Syys 202156min

#264 How Do You Get Over Your Ex? Psychology-Backed Strategies That Work

#264 How Do You Get Over Your Ex? Psychology-Backed Strategies That Work

Still stuck on your ex? Like, no matter what you do — they’re still there — in your head, in your heart, maybe even in your dreams? I see you. And more importantly, I understand why. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m getting real about something that so many people secretly struggle with: how do you get over your ex when it feels absolutely impossible to let go. Whether your breakup was recent or it’s been way too long and you're still stuck, this episode will help you understand what's really happening in your brain, your body, and your heart — and what to do about it. From the neuroscience of love and loss, to the emotional addiction that keeps you craving contact, I’m diving into the real reasons it’s hard to move on — and the powerful, research-backed steps you can take to finally feel free. Timestamps: 00:00 - How to Get Over Your Ex 05:05 - Understanding the Obsessive Phenomenon 06:55 - Biological Basis of Love and Addiction 11:26 - The Psychological and Emotional Basis of Obsession 13:35 - Accepting the End of a Relationship 21:06 - Strategies to Let Go and Move On 27:01 - Mindfulness and Thought Replacement Techniques 30:16 - Heal from Heartbreak If you resonated with this podcast episode, that tells me something important: You’re not just hurting — you’re trying. You’re searching for answers, hoping for relief, and longing for a way to finally stop feeling so consumed by the past. You’re already on the path forward — even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. Healing doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when you start making intentional choices — to understand yourself more deeply, to process what happened, and to take meaningful steps toward letting go. That might sound like a tall order right now, but the first step is easier than you think. 👉 Start by taking my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You?This quiz is a research-informed tool that will show you exactly where you are in your healing process and what you need to do next. Whether you're stuck in obsessive thoughts, overwhelmed with grief, or just beginning to feel ready to move on, your quiz results will give you clarity and direction.  👉 If you’re ready to talk to someone who truly gets it, schedule a free consultation with a coach on our team. Sometimes you just need a safe space to say what’s on your heart — especially when friends are tired of hearing about your ex. At Growing Self, our breakup recovery coaches are licensed therapists who specialize in helping people heal from heartbreak. We know how to guide you from this place of pain into the peace and self-confidence you deserve.  You can do this— and your next chapter starts now.  Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who is struggling to move on, I invite you to share this episode with them to remind them that they’re not alone and healing is possible.

20 Syys 202134min

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