#89 - Parenting Without Losing Your Mind... or Your Marriage
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby6 Kesä 2016

#89 - Parenting Without Losing Your Mind... or Your Marriage

Becoming a Family: The Greatest Adventure of All Nothing can quite prepare you for the realities of parenthood. Life with babies and small children is, for most couples, a total shock to the system. As joyful and meaningful as this stage of life is, it can be very difficult. If you aren't thoughtful and intentional about what you're doing, parenthood can quickly become a chaotic, frustrating experience -- and take a huge toll on your marriage. As a marriage counselor, I'm always thrilled when smart, proactive couples show up for premarital counseling. My only wish is that more would show up for "pre-baby counseling." Because having a baby is a much bigger deal, emotionally and relationally, than getting hitched. Unfortunately, there is no such thing. Do a quick google search and about the only thing you find about "preparing for a baby" has to do with fitness, nutrition, and the ocean of baby-gear that you could acquire. Having kids changes everything, but it's hard to imagine what those changes will be until you actually do it. Most couples experience challenges that never occurred to them were even possible, while they were spending leisurely days shopping for baby furniture and talking about how much fun family fishing trips will be. (Or were consumed with riding the rollercoaster of protracted infertility). From the first day that little bundle is home, they are both faced with needing to make major changes around everything from they way they communicate, to expectations about what should be happening, to a higher need for teamwork, to establishing new systems so everything runs smoothly, to what role they each take with each other and as parents. Sprinkle in some anxiety, post part depression, sleep deprivation, no game plan, and a screaming baby and it can get tense pretty fast. It's a major life transition, and a lot to deal with. And if you just let it go, and hope for the best it's quite possible to become a statistical average and not enjoy the experience that that much. Research on marital satisfaction over the family life cycle has shown that there is a trend towards lower enjoyment of married life after having kids. Here's the depressing graph: www.growingself.com/parenting-without-losing-your-mind-yourself-or-your-marriage Parenting Together CAN Be Joyful That graph does not have to be YOUR reality. You are not a statistical average. You are a person with free will, choices, and you're already taking control over the situation by educating yourself. You get to be in charge of your life, and your family experience. I'm here as a wife, mom, and marriage and family therapist to tell you that life with kids doesn't have to be difficult, and it does not need to negatively impact your marriage. In fact, if you put even half as much time into figuring out your post-baby game plan (and your own personal growth opportunities) as you do into childbirth preparation classes you can avoid many of the most common pitfalls of new parents. Embracing the opportunities to grow that this phase of life offers will expand you. Parenthood is truly a vehicle to personal evolution. Even more importantly, when you intentionally grow skills in a few key areas you can cultivate a stronger marriage than you had pre-baby: You can have better communication, stronger agreement, more teamwork, and more fun than ever before. Except that it can be even more meaningful, important, and love drenched -- and probably messier -- that you ever imagined. On this edition of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm going to be sharing some tips about where to where to start if you want to have a peaceful home, a strong marriage, great communication, easy kids, be on the same page with your partner, and have a shared vision for your family that is rooted in your core values. All the best, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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#295 - Building Confidence in Dating

#295 - Building Confidence in Dating

Confidence is sexy. But when you're dating —and dealing with the rejection modern dating involves — it takes a toll on your confidence. Oh the irony. Fortunately, building confidence in dating is possible, if you know how. On this episode, we’re discussing how to build your self-confidence, bounce back from rejection, and continue to put yourself out there until you find the love you want and deserve. All for you,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

2 Touko 202252min

#294 - Change Your Story, Change Your Life

#294 - Change Your Story, Change Your Life

We all use stories to make sense of the world and our place in it. But what happens when the stories we tell ourselves hold us back, make us feel bad about ourselves, or force us into boxes that don’t fit who we truly are?  When you change your story, you change your life. In this episode, you'll learn how to tap into your unconscious narratives, challenge them, and then rewrite your story to create the life you want. Here's to your empowerment! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

25 Huhti 20221h 1min

#293 - Signs of a Healthy Relationship

#293 - Signs of a Healthy Relationship

A happy, loving, healthy relationship is the most valuable thing you can have. But so many people struggle in this area, and without understanding the signs of a healthy relationship, it’s hard to know how to begin making it better. This podcast will teach you all about the fundamentals of healthy relationships. FYI, this comes in two parts: First, listen to the podcast. Then, take the "How Healthy is Your Relationship" quiz, to discover the strengths and growth opportunities in yours. All the best,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

18 Huhti 20221h 6min

#292 - Dealing with Commitment Issues

#292 - Dealing with Commitment Issues

Commitment: I know the word alone is enough to send a shiver up the spine of many a listener. And for the partners of the commitment-adverse, it’s not any easier. If commitment issues are present in your relationship, it’s likely to become a sore subject. You’re probably feeling a bit rejected, and you may be wondering if there’s any way forward. On today’s episode of the podcast, we’re going to be exploring the path of dealing with commitment issues, so you can get unstuck! xoxo, Dr. Lisa GrowingSelf.com

11 Huhti 202248min

#291 - How to Stop Procrastinating Right Now

#291 - How to Stop Procrastinating Right Now

We all know that procrastination is a recipe for disaster leading to stress, rushing around, and disappointing people (including yourself.) Yet the little voice that says “let’s do it later” can be hard to resist.    On today’s show I’m sharing new ideas and a fresh perspective that will help you use your natural strengths to focus on (and do!) the most important things… and stop beating yourself up about the rest.    Stop procrastinating! Listen now! ;)  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

4 Huhti 202242min

#290 - How to Stop Dating Jerks

#290 - How to Stop Dating Jerks

If you find yourself with partners who mistreat you again and again, it’s time to explore that pattern, so you can find a healthy relationship. On today’s episode of the podcast, we’re talking about why you keep dating jerks, and the steps you can take to break free from bad relationships and find real, healthy love. You deserve it! xo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

28 Maalis 20221h 13min

#289 - What Happy Couples Know — with Director Roger Nygard

#289 - What Happy Couples Know — with Director Roger Nygard

Wonderful, healthy and fun relationships can seem magical. But the truth is that awesome relationships don't happen "magically." Not at all. Long-term couples who love their relationships are simply reaping the rewards of the intentional effort they've put in to their partnerships. Sounds easy, right? In theory, it is. But here's the issue: No one teaches you how to have a fantastic relationship. So even though many people would love to have a stronger, more satisfying connection with their partner and would be very happy to do the working of making their good relationship great... they literally do not know what, exactly, to do differently. The intention is there, but the knowledge is not. To fill this knowledge gap, award-winning documentary film director Roger Nygard spent over seven years sitting down with the thought leaders in the fields of marriage counseling and couples therapy to get ALL THE ANSWERS.  The result is his film, The Truth About Marriage. And he's here on the podcast with me today to share all his insights and discoveries with YOU. For love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

22 Maalis 20221h 7min

#288 - Navigating a Quarter-Life Crisis

#288 - Navigating a Quarter-Life Crisis

Recognizing that the life you’ve created is not the one you actually want is an uncomfortable experience. But, believe it or not — it’s good. Why? It allows you to reflect, and recalibrate. Whether you're in your 20s or your 30s having a “quarter-life crisis” is your chance to reconnect with who you are now, reimagine your future, and pivot in the direction of the life you want. On this episode of the podcast, we’re talking about how you can use a quarter-life crisis as a launchpad for a new chapter of growth and success. Here's to you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

14 Maalis 202248min

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