#240 - How Find a Career Path You're Passionate About

Let’s get real for a minute—have you ever found yourself thinking, "I have no sex drive," and feeling completely stuck about what to do next? You’re not alone. So many people are struggling with this exact issue, and today, I’m diving deep into why that happens, how it affects your relationship, and most importantly—what you can do about it. In this episode, I’m joined by Allison Gilbert, co-author with the iconic Dr. Ruth Westheimer on her last book "The Joy of Connections." We’ll explore how a lack of intimacy in your relationship can leave you feeling lost, but we’re also unpacking Dr. Ruth’s brilliant “menu for connection.” It’s full of ways to reignite your bond—not just in the bedroom, but through shared activities, better communication, and ultimately, deeper self-reflection. We’ll tackle some tough love truths (like the role self-love plays in intimacy), and I’ll share actionable strategies to help you reconnect with your partner, starting today. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] – Where’s the Spark? Why so many people feel disconnected from their partners—and how it happens more often than you think. [00:47] – Dr. Ruth’s Secret Sauce The first thing to check when your sex drive is gone—your relationship dynamics! [02:09] – It’s Not Them, It’s You? The surprising role self-love plays in keeping intimacy alive. [03:47] – The “Menu for Connection” Five elements Dr. Ruth swears by to build a richer, more meaningful connection with your partner. [05:47] – Fun Outside the Bedroom How activities like pickleball (yes, pickleball!) could reignite the flames of passion. [08:06] – What’s Really Going On? Digging deeper: how emotional barriers like resentment might be blocking your connection. [12:41] – Therapy or Time to Move On? When it’s time to seek help—or even consider a bigger decision. [15:41] – You Deserve Better Dr. Ruth’s empowering message: You deserve happiness, fun, and great sex—don’t settle for less. [17:16] – Let’s Wrap This Up! Final thoughts and inspiration to help you take that first step toward a better, more intimate relationship. Tune in, share your thoughts, and let’s create a life full of love, connection, and fun together!   Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby   P.S. ⭐ Ready for more? ⭐ Download my free guide, "Communication that Connects," to start having meaningful conversations that build closeness in your relationship. And don’t forget to join me for this week’s live stream on Thursday at 12 PM MT—we’ll dive even deeper into intimacy and connection. Submit your anonymous questions ahead of time right here! P. P.S: Who else in your life needs to hear this message today? Forward this episode to them and feel good about being a positive “change agent” in the lives of others. You and I are on the same mission my friend! Xo, L

23 Syys 202425min

Where did everyone go?? At some point, many/most adults look up one day to realize that all their old friends have either moved to Austin or are completely buried in #babylife or never-ending home improvement projects… and they have nobody to spontaneously get a beer with on a Tuesday night. Can you relate? It's not just you. Did you know that, on average, most people lose more friends every year than they gain? Over time, your life can become increasingly lonely unless you’re actively working to build and maintain friendships. But here’s the thing: making new friends as an adult is harder than it sounds. 😅 In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we dive deep into the complexities of adult friendships with journalist Kelly Stout, who spent a month trying to make just one new friend… and learned some important things that she’s sharing with YOU.  From the unexpected emotional hurdles to the surprising lessons about vulnerability and connection, we explore what it really takes to form meaningful relationships in adulthood. 💛 If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness, wondered why your social circle shrinks as the years go by, or just feel stuck when it comes to making new friends, this episode is for you. 🙌 Chapters 00:00 Can Happiness Really Be Found Through Friendships? 00:19 Why Your Friendships Are More Important Than You Think 00:58 Meet Kelly Stout: Her One-Month Quest to Make a New Friend 02:30 What Happens When You Set a Deadline to Make a Friend? 04:58 The Hidden Challenges of Building Friendships as an Adult 12:55 What Actually Defines a True Friendship? 15:40 Friendship Experiments: What Works and What Doesn’t 18:32 Why Opening Up to Others Feels So Scary—And Necessary 22:33 The Biggest Lessons We Learned About Friendship 25:01 When Friendships Feel Fleeting: Why It Happens 25:45 Vulnerability Hangover: Ever Felt It? Here’s Why It Happens 25:56 Turning Points: When You Realize You’re Doing Friendship All Wrong 26:33 Can You Fast-Track Emotional Intimacy? Let’s Find Out 27:18 Why We Gravitate Toward People Just Like Us—And What to Do About It 27:45 Discovering the Power of Friendships with People Who Are Different 28:19 The Comfort and Complexity of Long-Term Friendships 29:53 Bumble for Friends: Can You Really Make Friends on an App? 32:01 How Internalized Shame is Holding You Back from Friendship 34:03 The Reality of Keeping Friendships Alive as an Adult 43:57 Why We Crave Community—and How to Build One 47:01 Modern Loneliness: Why Life is Designed to Keep Us Isolated 53:44 Final Reflections: How to Create Real Friendships That Last 💡 Learn how to overcome the struggles of making friends as an adult and build a community that brings joy and connection back into your life. xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: I think you and I should be friends! Come hang out with me on a Thursday live stream! Mark your calendar right now, it's at 12pm MT / 2pm ET on my Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook. This week we're talking about friendships. If you have a question or conundrum related to this, here's the link to ask in advance: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Be sure to subscribe/follow so you get updates and recaps! P.P.S. As promised in this podcast, here's the link to grab your totally free and VAST collection of all my best articles and podcasts on the subject of healthy relationships. I made it for YOU.

16 Syys 20241h 1min

Could you be accidentally and unintentionally DESTROYING your relationship? Pro tip from a marriage counselor: Many, many people are... and literally have no idea.  I think I know why. Everyone with an Instagram account is posting things about what they think you should do to have a great relationship—communication tips, romantic date ideas, etc.—but let’s be real... sometimes, it's more important to know what NOT to do! And nobody talks about that!!  That’s why today, we’re flipping the script on the usual relationship advice you hear. 💥 In this episode, we’re breaking down the 12 Most Effective Ways to Destroy Your Relationship (so you can avoid them like the plague). Trust me, as a marriage counselor, I’ve seen it all. Whether it’s neglecting your partner or constantly blaming your “issues” when you behave badly, even the strongest couples can unknowingly make these mistakes. But don’t worry, I’m not here to throw shade—I'm here to help you laugh, learn, and most importantly, grow! 🌱 By the end of this, you’ll not only recognize these pitfalls, but also walk away with actionable tips to make sure you’re NOT sabotaging your love life. 🙌 Here's what you'll learn: ⏱️ 00:00 Intro: The 12 Biggest Relationship Mistakes 02:36 Mistake #12: Making the Relationship ALL About You 04:36 Mistake #11: Blaming Everything on Your Issues 08:26 Mistake #10: Neglecting Your Partner (The Silent Killer) 11:20 Mistake #9: Too Much Togetherness (Yikes!) And all the way down... to the number one biggest relationship killer!  💬 Let’s talk: Have you fallen into any of these traps? What’s one mistake you’re guilty of? Drop a comment on Instagram @drlisamariebobby —I’d love to hear from you! AND if you want to get my perspective on some not-so-fantastic things that might be happening in your relationship (and how to make it stop) join me on Thursday for a live stream on this topic! Use this link to ask your Q and get reminders to join on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET. https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa If you're feeling like, "uh oh" after hearing this... you're not alone! I’ve helped thousands of couples turn things around, and you can too. 🌟 Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 💡 PS: If you're ready to start working on some positive new communication tools after hearing about the not great ones, check out my FREE training, “Communication That Connects” — it’s packed with tools to help you strengthen your connection and communicate like a pro!

9 Syys 202451min

🎧 Forget Everything You Knew About Anxiety – This Changes Everything! 🎧 Ever feel like anxiety has a grip on your life? Here’s the game-changing truth: You can heal anxietyy, not just manage the symptoms. 💥 In this transformative episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Nicole Cain, a holistic anxiety expert and author of the upcoming book Panic Proof, to discuss a revolutionary approach to healing anxiety from the inside out. 🌱 👉 Imagine freeing yourself from anxiety by nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Together, we dive into practical strategies that blend psychology and holistic medicine to uncover the root causes of anxiety and address them at the deepest level. We even explore how anxiety shows up in relationships and, yes, even in the bedroom! 💡 What You'll Learn Today:  00:00 The Truth About Healing Anxiety, Naturally  00:18 Dr. Nicole's Story 12:28 Understanding Anxiety and Its Roots  19:22 Esme’s Story: A Powerful Case Study  33:54 Anxiety in Relationships & Sexuality  42:43 Dr. Nicole's Three-Minute Hack for Instant Anxiety Relief  50:39 How the Salience Network Impacts Anxiety  54:30 VERY Generous Offer from Dr. Nicole! ✨ And... I'm so thrilled to share that Dr. Nicole will be my guest host on this week's live stream, and available to answer YOUR questions. Join us Thursday 9/5 at 12 PM MT on my YouTube, Instagram, or Facebook. Want a reminder or to ask a Q in advance? Get that set up right here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.  🙌 If you missed the chance to hop on with us LIVE you can catch the recap video right here starting 9/6: https://www.growingself.com/natural-anxiety-relief 🎥 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone you know who’s struggling with anxiety—this could be the breakthrough they’ve been waiting for! Your partner in growth,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

2 Syys 20241h 3min

Wondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, we’re diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth.  In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m pulling back the curtain on some of the “weird” things therapists do (like, why won’t they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actually super important for your healing journey. We’ll also break down the difference between therapy and coaching, why therapists never give direct advice, and how these boundaries create a safe, effective space for you to thrive. Plus, I’m sharing insights that will help you build a strong, healthy relationship with your therapist. If you're in therapy, you’ll walk away with some major a-ha moments! Timestamps: 00:00 - Let’s Get Real: Why Do Therapists Have Such Weird Boundaries? 02:25 - The Surprising Power of Therapist Boundaries 06:43 - Why Your Therapist Won’t Steer the Conversation (Hint: It’s for YOU) 09:10 - Therapist vs. Coach: Which One Do You Really Need? 12:35 - The Ethics Behind the Scenes: How Good Therapists Keep You Safe 24:25 - Why Your Therapist Stays Neutral (Even When It Feels Weird) 31:55 - Session Time Limits & Contact Rules—What’s Up with That? 35:51 - The Secret to a Healthy Therapist-Client Relationship 45:44 - Wrap Up: Final Thoughts and Takeaways Wanna Learn More? Signs You Have a Bad Therapist How to Find a Good Therapist Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode on all things therapy, coaching, and personal growth! Let’s keep this conversation going! 💖

26 Elo 202450min

Ready to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think. On today’s podcast you’ll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, I’m sharing why confidence isn’t just a feeling you magically have—it’s something you build through consistent, value-driven actions.  Together, we’ll explore practical ways to develop self-respect, trust your judgment, and foster a deep-rooted belief in your worth. Whether you're looking to overcome self-doubt or grow into the confident person you aspire to be, this episode offers steps you can start taking today. Here’s what you’ll learn: 00:00 Introduction to Authentic Confidence 01:43 Understanding Authentic Confidence 04:23 Building Confidence Through Actions 06:12 Overcoming Misconceptions About Confidence 07:53 Identifying and Aligning with Your Values 13:26 Personal Story: The Journey to Self-Respect 17:10 Developing a Growth Mindset 34:50 Practical Tips for Exuding Confidence 44:42 Conclusion and Free Resources Want more guidance? Join me LIVE on Thursday for a Q&A, where I’ll answer your questions about building confidence and self-esteem. Submit your questions in advance through https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa for personalized advice! Don’t forget to take our free "How Healthy Is Your Self-Esteem?" quiz at https://www.growingself.com/self-esteem-test/ to see where you stand and discover next steps for boosting your self-worth. See you there! 👏💪 #Confidence #SelfEsteem #ExudeConfidence #PersonalGrowth #LiveQandA #GrowingSelf

19 Elo 202451min

Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve.  In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' we’re not just talking about managing anger in relationships—we’re transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, I’ve got some incredible free resources for you! 00:00 Introduction  01:58 Roots of Anger  08:36 Communication Strategies  18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence  28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts   Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now! 💬❤️ #LoveHappinessSuccess #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipGoals #TransformYourLove Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby   PS: Grab that FREE two part “Communication That Connects”  training right here!  P.P.S. I’m going LIVE this Thursday to answer your relationship questions. Want to submit your question in advance and/or get a recap of this video? Here’s the link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Otherwise, set a reminder and I’ll see you soon!

12 Elo 202435min

Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? 😔💸 Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being.  In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. 🚀✨  Specifically, we’re discussing:  00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs 00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You 05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights 08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychological Costs 14:26 Conquering Fears: How to Tackle Anxiety and Doubt 32:06 Roadmap to Freedom: Practical Steps for a Career Transition 46:36 Your Next Chapter: Actionable Takeaways and Final Thoughts  It's time to escape the golden cage and design a life that truly makes you happy! Don't miss this transformative journey—hit play now! 🎥🔓 #GoldenHandcuffs #CareerChange #FindYourPassion #WorkLifeBalance   Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com    P.S. Want MORE expert career advice to help you move forward with clarity and confidence? I have so much for you! Sign up to get access to my ENTIRE “Career Clarity” content collection, full of articles and a curated podcast playlist featuring the best advice from the world-class career counselors of Growing Self. Totally free, all for you! Get it here...

5 Elo 202445min