#244 - Dealing With a Withdrawn Partner: Communication Problems, Part 3

Have you ever caught yourself reaching for a glass of wine, scrolling endlessly, or obsessively organizing your to-do list… and thought, Wait, why am I doing this again?! You might not think of yourself as "addicted" — but what if you’re using these “fixes” to soothe something deeper? In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with the incredible Ian Morgan Cron — bestselling author, psychotherapist, and spiritual teacher — to unpack a radical idea: We’re all a little bit addicted.  Whether it’s people-pleasing, overworking, or that toxic relationship you just can't quit, we’re diving deep into why we get stuck, how the 12-step process can change your life (even if you don’t have a “capital A” addiction), and how to truly heal from the inside out. You’ll walk away with a totally new roadmap for transformation — and trust me, by the end of this episode, you’re going to feel empowered, enlightened, and ready to love yourself and your life in a whole new way. Let’s do this! Timestamps: 00:00 – Why You Keep Going Back to Your "Fix" 01:21 – Meet Ian Morgan Cron: Author, Therapist, Spiritual Teacher 01:45 – The 12 Steps: Not Just for “Addicts” Anymore 07:55 – What the Enneagram Reveals About You 11:46 – Applying the 12 Steps to Everyday Life 24:57 – The Freedom in Admitting You're Powerless 40:40 – Feeling “Not at Home” in Yourself? 41:36 – The Dangerous Myth of the "Quick Fix" 44:37 – The Paradox of Letting Go and Taking Responsibility 53:13 – Addictions, Trauma, and the Road to Compassion 56:51 – Real Stories of Radical Transformation 59:50 – You Are Not Alone: Why Community Heals 1:11:19 – Next Steps for Your Healing Journey If you found yourself nodding along today — realizing that maybe, just maybe, there’s a “fix” that’s been holding you back — I've got the perfect next step for you. Take my free What's Holding You Back? Quiz! It’s designed to help you get crystal clear on the hidden patterns, habits, or beliefs that might be quietly running the show in your life. Once you see what’s really going on beneath the surface, it becomes so much easier to break free and move forward with confidence, clarity, and strength. And if you're ready for even deeper growth, let’s talk! Schedule a free consultation with one of the talented coaches or therapists at Growing Self. We'll help you put everything you’re learning into action — so you can finally create the joyful, thriving life you deserve. Oh, and don’t forget — let's stay connected! Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube for more real talk, fresh inspiration, and plenty of support. We're in this together. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this episode — maybe a friend who’s been struggling or could just use a little love and insight — Please share this episode with them. A little encouragement can change everything.

28 Huhti 202556min

What if your anxiety, brain fog, or mood swings aren’t in your mind... but in your mitochondria? I know—that sounds wild. But in this jaw-dropping episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I’m talking with Dr. Bret Scher about something that completely changed the way I think about mental health: Metabolic Psychiatry. We dive into the cutting-edge (but surprisingly old!) science behind mind and energy psychiatry  that connects mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, ADHD, and even serious psychiatric conditions with how your body uses energy. Spoiler alert: your brain runs on fuel, and what you eat matters a lot more than we were taught in grad school. Together, Dr. Scher and I unpack how ketogenic therapy is helping people reclaim their mental clarity, lift mood disorders, and, in some cases, experience complete transformation. If you’ve been “doing the work” and still not feeling like yourself, this conversation might be the missing piece you’ve been searching for. Timestamps: 00:00 The Link Between Metabolism and Mental Health 01:17 Dr. Brett Scher and Metabolic Psychiatry 02:39 The History and Science Behind Ketogenic Therapy 10:36 Exploring the Ketogenic Diet and Its Benefits 17:59 Implementing a Ketogenic Diet 30:32 Patient Transformations and Success Stories 32:23 Impact of Ketogenic Diet on Mental Health 33:35 Inflammation and Brain Function 34:46 Ketogenic Therapy vs. Traditional Approaches 39:11 GLP-1 Drugs and Metabolic Health 42:42 Implementing Dietary Changes in Families 46:01 Ketogenic Diet for Autism Spectrum Disorders 49:27 Comparing Ketogenic and Plant-Based Diets 52:23 Resources and Final Thoughts I learned SO much from chatting with Dr. Scher. I hope you did too. If you're ready for a more personalized approach to start feeling like yourself again—clear, focused, calm, and energized—I’d love for you to check out my Clarity & Confidence Coaching. It’s a powerful way to build self-awareness and make meaningful changes in your life while getting expert support and structure from a licensed therapist trained in coaching psychology. You can book a free consultation call to take the next step. We’ll answer all of your questions and help you get started.  And hey, let’s stay connected! You can find me sharing more science-meets-heart insights over on Instagram and YouTube—where I drop fresh content every week to help you grow, thrive, and live your best life. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who’s been struggling, or who’s always trying to "fix their mindset" but nothing’s working—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.

21 Huhti 202557min

Ever feel like you’ve been in therapy forever and nothing’s actually changing? Or maybe you have a life coach that loves to just hang out and vibe instead of actually helping you reach your goals?  In this eye-opening episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on something that has been driving me absolutely bonkers for years—and might be costing you time, money, and progress. If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy, underwhelmed by coaching, or just totally confused about which path is right for your growth, this one’s for you. I’m talking about the real difference between coaching versus counseling, why one might be the wrong fit for what you actually need, and how to finally choose the right support system that gets results (without wasting another minute or dollar). Whether you're working on your relationship, your career, or your confidence, this episode will help you get clarity around your path forward. Timestamps: 00:00 Unveiling a Hidden Industry Secret 01:35 The Therapy Gap: Why Traditional Methods Fall Short 06:18 Understanding the Different Types of Therapy 23:34 The Rise of Coaching: A New Solution? 24:26 The Wild West of Coaching: Risks and Realities 34:31 Finding the Right Help: Therapy vs. Coaching 38:29 Evidence-Based Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program 45:54 Conclusion and Next Steps If you’re nodding along and thinking, “Yes, this is what I’ve been missing,” I’d love to invite you into our Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is a results-driven, action-oriented coaching experience designed for people who are ready to make real changes—not just talk about them. What makes it different? It’s led by licensed therapists who are trained in evidence-based coaching psychology—so you get both the depth and the direction. No fluff. No therapy traps. Just growth that actually sticks. Schedule a free consultation call to see if it’s a good fit. We’ll talk about what you’re working on, where you feel stuck, and how we can help you move forward with clarity and confidence. If you want to keep learning and growing, I’d love to connect with you on Instagram and  YouTube! Come hang out with me and get tons of free insights and encouragement every week. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who’s stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by coaching options, or just craving something real? Share this video with them. You might just be the reason they finally find what works.

14 Huhti 202550min

Ever feel like you're stuck in molasses with zero motivation, energy, or sparkle? Me too, friend. Let’s talk about how to get out of a slump.  In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we’re diving deep into that “meh” space we all land in from time to time. Maybe your house is a mess, your energy is flatlined, and your dinner for the third night in a row is fried takeout. Here’s the thing, slumps happen. And they are 100% resolvable. I’ll be unpacking why these slumps sneak in, what they really mean, and most importantly—how to actually get out of them. I’m sharing science-backed strategies, personal stories, and the little mindset and habit shifts that truly move the needle. By the end of this episode, you’ll have your very own slump-busting plan—and you’ll know exactly where to start, whether you need a mindset shift, a behavior reboot, or both.  Timestamps: 00:00 — Slumps are normal (but let’s not stay there) 06:18 — How to spot your personal “uh-oh” signs 10:32 — Slump vs. Depression: What you really need to know 24:44 — Why slumps happen: burnout, transitions, and mystery fogs 31:55 — Lifestyle habits that quietly wreck your vibe 33:17 — Why trying to “feel better” first doesn’t work 34:24 — What to do instead (this changes everything) 42:51 — Create your personalized slump-busting strategy 52:28 — Quick wins: tiny shifts that make a big impact 57:54 — Your next steps to get back to YOU If you’re ready for a real, lasting reset—come join me and my amazing team in the Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is where the magic happens. Together, we’ll help you reconnect with your sense of purpose, build habits that actually support the life you want, and shift the unhelpful thoughts that have been keeping you stuck. It’s not about a temporary mood boost—it’s about creating true, sustainable transformation from the inside out. Schedule your free consultation now and let’s start building your breakthrough together. And, I’d love for us to stay connected! Each week, I drop a new podcast episode and share resources to help you create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday on Instagram and Youtube to talk about the topic of the week and answer all of your questions. So check out the full podcast episode and join me on Thursday at 12pm MT / 2pm EST. I’d be so glad to see you! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com

7 Huhti 202558min

Ever leave a conversation feeling like your brain’s been scrambled and you’re not sure why? Maybe you’re suddenly questioning your own reality, feeling guilty, or bending over backwards for someone who... let’s be real, might not deserve it? If that sounds familiar, pull up a chair, my friend. Today, we’re pulling back the curtain on manipulation—not to teach you these tactics (please don’t use them!), but so you can spot them, disarm them, and never get played again. In this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’m breaking down the five most common manipulative tactics, why they work so well, and how to protect yourself—with confidence, clarity, and maybe even a little compassion. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Welcome to the dark side (just kidding... kind of) 01:28 – Why manipulation works on good people 04:51 – Awareness is your superpower 06:01 – Guilt-tripping 101: How they hook you 09:07 – How to disarm a guilt trip like a boss 18:03 – Playing the victim: When empathy is used against you 31:36 – Love bombing: It’s not just for dating apps 33:01 – Healthy relationships take time (and boundaries) 36:55 – Narcissists, splitting, and people who come on way too strong 43:22 – Withdrawal + passive aggression = manipulation in disguise 54:11 – Let’s talk about gaslighting (finally!) 01:01:18 – What to do if you have vulnerabilities that get you caught in this stuff If you’re realizing that certain relationships in your life are way more complicated than they should be—or if you’ve been stuck in a cycle of guilt, confusion, or second-guessing yourself—you don’t have to stay there. You deserve support. You deserve clarity. You deserve healthy connections. Come connect with me and my amazing team at Growing Self and schedule your free consultation. Whether you’re looking for therapy or coaching, we’re here to help you break free from toxic patterns and build the life and relationships you actually want. And hey—don’t be a stranger! You can find me on Instagram and YouTube for even more real-talk, tools, and live Q&A sessions. Let’s grow together. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who’s been struggling with manipulation in their relationships? Be a good friend—share this with them. It might be the lightbulb moment they’ve been waiting for. 💡❤️

31 Maalis 20251h 7min

Tired of being your own worst critic? What if I told you that positivity isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn? ✨ In this powerful episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton of the Anti-Fragile Academy to explore how to be a more positive person—without ignoring your difficult emotions or pretending everything is fine when it’s not. Because here’s the truth: toxic positivity isn’t helpful, and sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is feel your feelings and grow from them. We’re diving deep into the science of positive psychology, how to stop gaslighting yourself with "just think positive" advice, and practical mindset-shifting tools that can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and yes—more joyful, too. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why ‘just be positive’ backfires 01:12 – Meet Dr. Nick Holton 03:18 – What positive psychology actually is 04:38 – The real role of emotions in your wellbeing 06:33 – How to start changing your mindset 08:09 – Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets 10:32 – Why acceptance is the missing piece in positivity 21:25 – The power of gratitude 31:24 – You don’t control performance (and why that’s great news) 33:10 – Visualizing failure? Yep—it’s a secret to resilience 34:41 – What elite athletes know about mindset that you should too 40:16 – Turning trauma into growth: How to bounce forward 42:51 – Want to feel better? Expand your emotional vocabulary 48:32 – What passion + perseverance have to do with great relationships 54:20 – Access real growth tools If you're craving more clarity, joy, and empowerment in your life—or if you’re just feeling a little stuck and unsure how to shift your mindset—this episode is filled with practical wisdom that can help.  And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’re here for you. Book a free consultation at Growing Self, and we’ll help you get matched with the right therapist or coach for you. Whether you want to work on your mindset, your relationships, your career, or all of the above, our team of warm, experienced experts can help you start moving forward with confidence and clarity. I’d also love to connect with you beyond the podcast! Subscribe to my channel on YouTube for weekly videos packed with insights on love, happiness, and success—and follow me on Instagram for expert advice, bite-size interviews, and daily encouragement. We’re building a community of growth-minded, big-hearted humans, and you belong with us. Thanks for being here with me today. Sending you so much love—and I’ll see you in the next one! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use a positivity boost today, send this episode over to them. Let’s help each other grow. 🌱

24 Maalis 202557min

Ever wonder why your relationship with money feels so complicated? It’s more than just dollars and cents—it’s emotional, it’s psychological, and it deeply affects your life and relationships. Today, I'm talking with a marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy, Jillian Knight. We're diving into why understanding your relationship with money can be a total game-changer for your finances, career, and relationships. From unconscious money beliefs to how your upbringing shapes your financial habits, we cover it all. Whether you're struggling with debt, feeling anxious about spending, or having money-related conflicts with your partner, this conversation is for YOU. In this episode, we’ll discuss: What happens when we’re not self-aware about our relationship with money How money scripts influence our behaviors and decisions Why it’s crucial to approach money with empathy—not shame And most importantly, how to shift your money mindset to build a healthier, more balanced financial life Timestamps: 00:00 – Exploring Your Relationship with Money 00:49 – Introducing Jillian Knight: Financial Therapy Expert 01:21 – Understanding the Impact of Money Beliefs 04:49 – The Cultural Ideals of Financial Management 06:39 – Challenging Authoritarian Financial Advice 08:07 – Personal Stories and Financial Therapy Insights 10:53 – The Importance of Compassion in Financial Health 19:31 – Identifying Your Money Scripts 23:13 – Exploring the Enneagram and Money 24:46 – Couples and Money Dynamics 28:39 – Understanding Money Stories 33:30 – Identifying Core Needs and Triggers 36:55 – Building Bridges and Shared Goals 42:12 – Conclusion and Resources I know talking about money can feel uncomfortable. That’s why conversations like this one are so important! I also created something to help you navigate those tough financial conversations with love, empathy, and understanding—without the stress or conflict.. Check out my Communication That Connects 2-part training. You’ll learn how to approach money talks in a way that strengthens your relationships, rather than creating distance. I hope you check it out! Also, let’s connect on Instagram and Youtube! I drop a new podcast every week with interviews just like this one so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms. I chat about the topic of the week and answer any questions you might have live. This week, I’ll be digging into your relationship to money!  Let’s break free from old financial patterns together and build a future where money feels like a source of freedom, not stress. See you there! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com P.S. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a friend or family member who could use the info too!

17 Maalis 202547min

Ever wonder why your child melts down over the tiniest thing—or how to actually help them navigate big emotions? Today, we’re diving into the world of Child-Centered Play Therapy, an evidence-based approach that helps kids build confidence, self-regulation, and emotional resilience… all through PLAY. I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Brenna Hicks, a specialist in helping parents use these techniques at home to create a happier, calmer family environment. Whether you have a preschooler, a strong-willed school-age kid, or a moody teen, this conversation will give you powerful tools to understand your child’s emotional world—and strengthen your bond in the process. We’re covering: What makes Child-Centered Play Therapy different from other approaches How play can help kids process emotions (even when words fail!) What really causes tantrums and dysregulation Simple therapist-approved parenting strategies you can start using today How to know if your child might need therapy—and how to find the right therapist Timestamps: 03:29 - What is Child-Centered Play Therapy (and why does it work?) 09:27 - The parent’s role in play therapy (and why it’s a game-changer!) 16:03 - Why kids “act out” and what’s really going on 23:09 - The surprising science behind play as therapy 34:41 - How therapy transforms kids from anxious to confident 36:27 - What to do if your child is struggling emotionally 43:20 - How to tell if a therapist is actually qualified to help your child 47:58 - Parenting tips: What to say (and what not to say) to your kid 53:11 - When to seek professional help & what to look for in a therapist 01:02:49 - Resources, next steps & final thoughts I know how much you love your child and want the absolute best for them. Parenting is one of the most rewarding—and challenging—jobs in the world, and sometimes, we all need a little extra guidance and encouragement. That’s why I created the Happy Families Collection—a curated set of expert tips, strategies, and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more connected, and emotionally healthy family. ✨ 👉 Access the Happy Families Collection here! And if you loved this episode, let’s stay connected! Find me on Instagram for daily inspiration and expert-backed advice, and don’t forget to subscribe on YouTube for even more deep-dive conversations so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m so honored to be on this journey with you! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know a parent who could benefit from this episode, share it with them! I know personally that us parents really appreciate the love and support.

10 Maalis 20251h 1min