#321 - Warding Off Emotional Vampires

Still stuck on your ex? Like, no matter what you do — they’re still there — in your head, in your heart, maybe even in your dreams? I see you. And more importantly, I understand why. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m getting real about something that so many people secretly struggle with: how do you get over your ex when it feels absolutely impossible to let go. Whether your breakup was recent or it’s been way too long and you're still stuck, this episode will help you understand what's really happening in your brain, your body, and your heart — and what to do about it. From the neuroscience of love and loss, to the emotional addiction that keeps you craving contact, I’m diving into the real reasons it’s hard to move on — and the powerful, research-backed steps you can take to finally feel free. Timestamps: 00:00 - How to Get Over Your Ex 05:05 - Understanding the Obsessive Phenomenon 06:55 - Biological Basis of Love and Addiction 11:26 - The Psychological and Emotional Basis of Obsession 13:35 - Accepting the End of a Relationship 21:06 - Strategies to Let Go and Move On 27:01 - Mindfulness and Thought Replacement Techniques 30:16 - Heal from Heartbreak If you resonated with this podcast episode, that tells me something important: You’re not just hurting — you’re trying. You’re searching for answers, hoping for relief, and longing for a way to finally stop feeling so consumed by the past. You’re already on the path forward — even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. Healing doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when you start making intentional choices — to understand yourself more deeply, to process what happened, and to take meaningful steps toward letting go. That might sound like a tall order right now, but the first step is easier than you think. 👉 Start by taking my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You?This quiz is a research-informed tool that will show you exactly where you are in your healing process and what you need to do next. Whether you're stuck in obsessive thoughts, overwhelmed with grief, or just beginning to feel ready to move on, your quiz results will give you clarity and direction.  👉 If you’re ready to talk to someone who truly gets it, schedule a free consultation with a coach on our team. Sometimes you just need a safe space to say what’s on your heart — especially when friends are tired of hearing about your ex. At Growing Self, our breakup recovery coaches are licensed therapists who specialize in helping people heal from heartbreak. We know how to guide you from this place of pain into the peace and self-confidence you deserve.  You can do this— and your next chapter starts now.  Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who is struggling to move on, I invite you to share this episode with them to remind them that they’re not alone and healing is possible.

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Today: Learn how to strengthen your relationship at the deepest level using the principles of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This evidence-based approach helps you repair your attachment bond, and actually transforms the way you both feel about each other. It's powerful stuff, and on today's episode you'll learn how to use EFT principles to stop negativity, and increase emotional connection in your relationship.  All for you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

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Do you ever struggle with self-doubt, compare yourself to others, and wish you were more confident? These feelings block growth — and damage self-confidence too. Today’s podcast is going to help you stop that, and learn a more effective way to build confidence in yourself — through building a healthy, emotionally safe and supportive relationship with… you. Self confidence through self compassion: Tune in and learn how! Your partner in growth,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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How Premarital Counseling Works Whether you’ve been married for 30 years or are just starting out, premarital counseling strategies can help you strengthen your relationship. Why? Because it’s positive: Premarital counseling works by helping couples have productive conversations proactively: before things become issues that need to be “fixed.” It’s brilliant!  You can learn how to use the principles taught in premarital counseling to strengthen your relationship — starting today. Tune in to learn how. -Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com

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If you’re feeling overdue for a personal overhaul, I’m here to help. On today’s episode of the podcast I’m doing a deep dive into the psychology of personal reinvention to give you some actionable strategies for releasing your old stuff and attaining your aspirations. We'll be discussing the secret forces that make personal reinvention easier, and the ones that will sabotage you and snap you back if you're not careful. Most of all, I'll be sharing how to use your strengths to stay motivated, and move forward — forever.  Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

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