Why Your Dick Should Care About Social Justice with Dirty Lola Ep 6

Sex-positive psychotherapist, Kate Loree joins us to talk about managing mental health within polyamory and consensual non-monogamy -- specifically how mood and personality disorders like anxiety, depression, BPD, NPD, etc., can impact these relationships. According to NAMI one in five American adults experienced mental illness in 2020. When we combine this with consensual non-monogamy (CNM), things can become even more complex. As Kate points out, CNM tends to poke at unresolved attachment injuries more than is typical in monogamous relationships plus polyamory involves more people which means there's more to navigate. While this conversation is geared toward non-monogamous relationships, the strategies Kate discusses can be adapted to various relationship styles, including kink dynamics and monogamous relationships. Kate Loree, LMFT Bio Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities. She is also the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. In addition to her master's in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE-certified sex educator and an EMDR-certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She's been featured in Buzzfeed videos and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She's written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine, and is a frequent public speaker. Episode 208 Helpful Links & Resources Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships book https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_ZHACQ8RJHMR2R9HGHBMY Open Deeply Ep 7 "Overgivers to Change Agents" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/over-givers-to-change-agents-ep-7/id1554118799?i=1000517722705 Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny's Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 208 Sponsors & Discount Codes *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com Pleasure Podcasts Network https://www.pleasurepodcasts.com/ Sunny's On-Demand BDSM Classes & Coaching: https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/ 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY –To support American Sex Podcast/Sunny Megatron & help offset the cost of providing no-charge education: http://patreon.com/americansex --More at AmericanSexPodcast.com

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As a culture, we've come a long way in our understanding of consent. It's discussed in schools, on TV shows, and in popular media. But through this mainstreaming of consent, we've also lost some important nuance along the way. This conversation with Kitty Stryker is all about that nuance. From the complexities of consent within various power dynamics to the ways it shows up in every relationship, consent situations seem to be everywhere. Kitty lays down frameworks to help us reevaluate our personal relationships with consent and use what we learn to strengthen our bonds with friends, family, co-workers, romantic partners, and more. Kitty Stryker Bio Kitty Stryker is the author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook" and the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture", both from Thornapple Press. She was among the first to coin the term "consent culture", writing in 2010 about the radical act of defining what you want to move towards instead of just what to avoid. A queer nerd, an asexual sex worker, an anarchist journalist; Kitty is often found blurring the edges of communities to forge coalitions and welcome more people in. She aspires to be Baba Yaga when she grows up. Episode 207 Helpful Links & Resources Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook https://bookshop.org/p/books/ask-yourself-the-consent-culture-workbook-kitty-stryker/18725129 Kitty Stryker Website https://consentculture.com/ Kitty Stryker Twitter https://twitter.com/kittystryker Kitty Stryker Facebook https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker Kitty Stryker Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@kittystryker Kitty Stryker Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kitty_stryker/ Kitty Stryker Patreon https://patreon.com/kittystryker Touchy Subjects Podcast https://www.touchysubjectspodcast.com/ Sunny's Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 207 Sponsors & Discount Codes *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com Pleasure Podcasts Network https://www.pleasurepodcasts.com/ Sunny's On-Demand BDSM Classes & Coaching: https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/ 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY –To support American Sex Podcast/Sunny Megatron & help offset the cost of providing no-charge education: http://patreon.com/americansex --More at AmericanSexPodcast.com

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jessica drake joins us for an International Masturbation Month chat about mutual self-pleasure. In this conversation, we unpack the shame surrounding both solo and mutual masturbation. Plus, jessica gives tips for: Getting out of your head & into your body Prioritizing our own pleasure Building bedroom confidence Fantasy sharing & dirty talk Introducing toys & porn Compassionate & validating communication with partners Sunny & jessica go well beyond the basics, sharing important revelations gleaned from their own self-exploration and offering practical info for people anywhere on their sexual journey. jessica drake Bio Award-winning Performer, Sex Worker, Sex Educator, and the creator and producer of jessica drake's Guide to Wicked Sex, an award-winning educational series that delivers shame-free, consent-based Sex Ed. She has been in the adult industry for 20 years and uses her real-life experience to advocate for sex worker rights. jd (she, her) also occupies board positions with two non-profits, Feed The Streets and Tending The Garden. She is currently emerging from a three-year cocoon and is redefining her core purpose and mission, discovering the freedom that comes from possessing less fucks. Episode 206 Helpful Links & Resources jessica drake Twitter https://twitter.com/thejessicadrake jessica drake Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicadrake/ jessica drake Onlyfans Onlyfans.com/jessicadrake Wicked Sensual Care Website https://wickedsensualcare.com/ jessica drake's Guide to Wicked Sex Website https://www.guidetowickedsex.com/ Holly Randall Unfiltered Removed from Youtube https://www.xbiz.com/news/273912/youtube-censors-holly-randall-podcast-episode-debunking-anti-sex-work-myths Dr. Joycelyn Elders on American Sex Podcast https://sunnymegatron.com/joycelyn-elders-interview-podcast/ Open Deeply Podcast with Kate Loree & Sunny Megatron https://open.spotify.com/show/2EJ8sBRVdCLH6p9eOpnVAc Sunny's Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 205 Sponsors & Discount Codes *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 50% off Beducated's yearly pass during the month of May (and 40% the other months of the year) https://beducate.me/pd2317-sunny and use code SUNNY Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com Go to http://GreenChef.com/sunny60 and use code sunny60 to get 60% off plus free shipping Pleasure Podcasts Network https://www.pleasurepodcasts.com/ Sunny's On-Demand BDSM Classes & Coaching: https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/ 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY –To support American Sex Podcast/Sunny Megatron & help offset the cost of providing no-charge education: http://patreon.com/americansex --More at AmericanSexPodcast.com

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In this bonus mini-episode, we're previewing Double Teamed with Cami & Niki. Here the twins talk about their recent journeys with kink & power exchange. Hope you enjoy! Get more at http://doubleteamedpodcast.com

25 Touko 202312min

Most of us know how important things like self-care, self-compassion, and self-love are. But knowing and doing can sometimes be two different things. Lee Harrington not only talks about why these things are so vital but also teaches us HOW to do them. Lee walks us through forging the path to self-forgiveness, compassion, care, healthy boundary setting, and becoming our own beloved through self-courtship and deepening our most important relationship -- the one we're in with ourselves. As a bonus for kinky folks, the tools Lee lays out can easily be adapted to your self-collaring journey too. And as a bonus for everyone, this process not only helps strengthen your relationship with yourself, it can help you become a better friend or partner to others too. Lee Harrington Bio Lee Harrington (he/they) is an internationally known spirituality, identity, relationships, and personal authenticity author and educator. He brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience, having taught classes, shared presentations, and delivered keynotes worldwide for over twenty years. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his many books include "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," "Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame," and "Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys." He has been blogging online since 1998 and has been teaching since 2001. You can check out Lee's adventures, as well as his podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos, and more, over at PassionAndSoul.com. Episode 205 Helpful Links & Resources Become Your Own Beloved: A Guide to Delighting in Self-Connection by Lee Harrington https://a.co/d/hk8Sw63 Lee Harrington Website http://www.PassionAndSoul.com Lee Harrington Twitter http://twitter.com/PassionAndSoul Lee Harrington YouTube http://www.youtube.com/user/passionandsoul Lee Harrington Patreon http://www.Patreon.com/PassionAndSoul Lee Harrington Instagram https://www.instagram.com/passionandsoul/ Lee Harrington Facebook http://www.facebook.com/pages/Lee-Harrington/62534792160 Lee Harrington Fetlife http://fetlife.com/users/24336/ Passion And Soul Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passion-soul-podcast-by-lee/id840372122 Sunny's Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 205 Sponsors & Discount Codes *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com Holly Randall Unfiltered Podcast https://www.hollyrandallunfiltered.com/ Pleasure Podcasts Network https://www.pleasurepodcasts.com/ Sunny's On-Demand BDSM Classes & Coaching: https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/ 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY –To support American Sex Podcast/Sunny Megatron & help offset the cost of providing no-charge education: http://patreon.com/americansex --More at AmericanSexPodcast.com

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How do you live your authentic kink life when your needs don't match up with the BDSM community status quo? In part 1 (ep 203) Mollena Williams-Haas told us how returning to the leather community after parting ways sparked an unexpected journey of healing and growth. In this discussion, Mollena shares practical advice for digging past the stereotypical BDSM "supposed to's" in order to identify your needs and honor them. D/s relationships are about making life better for both doms and subs -- but how exactly do we go about that? Mollena has some helpful answers … Mollena Williams-Haas Bio Mollena is a writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller, sobriety fiend since March 2007, and Award-Winning Executive Pervert. Owned & collared by renowned contemporary composer Georg Friedrich Haas, she serves as his beloved slave, submissive, wife, servant, and Muse. February 2016 saw a groundbreaking piece about their relationship featured in the New York Times. They are also both the subject of the documentary The Artist and The Pervert. As a two-time leather title holder and kink educator, Mollena's viewpoints on Kink-related issues are frequently sought after by sources like The New York Times, Newsweek, Essence, Ebony, etc. A frequent guest expert on Dan Savage's "Savage Lovecast," Tristan Taormino's "Sex Out Loud", and Margaret Cho's "Monsters of Talk" podcast, she's even spoken about Kink at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton. Mollena is also the co-author of the "Toybag Guide: Taboo Play" and "Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities". A professional stage performer since age 5, Mollena's credits include The Wiz and co-starring with Danny Bonaduce in underground cult-classic America's Deadliest Home Video. Her short film, IMPACT, won "Cinekink's Best Experimental Film." Mollena's latest performance piece and movie is Hyena, a collaboration with her husband. Mollena also appeared on Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime. Her latest endeavor is The Kink Doula. (Mollena's Full Bio: http://www.mollena.com/about/ ) Episode 204 Helpful Links & Resources Part 1 of this discussion, Episode 203 https://sunnymegatron.com/mollena-williams-haas-bdsm-leather-community/ All That and Mo, Podcast hosted by Mollena Lee Williams Haas https://allthatandmo.com/ Kink Doula https://kinkdoula.com/ Mollena Lee Williams Haas Website http://www.mollena.com/ Mollena Lee Williams Haas Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mollena Mollena Lee Williams Haas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/ Mollena Lee Williams Haas Twitter https://twitter.com/mollena Mollena Lee Williams Haas Patreon https://www.patreon.com/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaas Mollena on RISK! Episode 442 "Slave" https://soundcloud.com/riskshow/slave-by-mollena-williams-from-episode-442-slave Hyena Teaser Trailer https://youtu.be/UrAJji7qdwk The Artist and the Pervert Trailer https://youtu.be/ko_6bGeADGU The Artist and the Pervert Documentary on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Artist-Pervert-Georg-Friedrich-Haas/dp/B08NC5C1PK The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text ResistBot https://resist.bot/petitions Find & Contact your Legislators https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/118/s686/comment Chat GPT https://chat.openai.com/chat Sunny's Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 204 Sponsors & Discount Codes *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 40% off Beducated's yearly pass https://beducate.me/pd2317-sunny and use code SUNNY Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com Go to http://GreenChef.com/sunny60 and use code sunny60 to get 60% off plus free shipping Pleasure Podcasts Network https://www.pleasurepodcasts.com/ Sunny's On-Demand BDSM Classes & Coaching: https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/ 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY –To support American Sex Podcast/Sunny Megatron & help offset the cost of providing no-charge education: http://patreon.com/americansex

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Today we are sharing a preview from one of our favorite podcasts that we think you'll enjoy. On Sluts and Scholars, therapist and sexologist Nicoletta Heidegger talks with diverse professionals about all things pleasure and sexuality. In this preview, strap in for some strap on information with Sex and Pleasure Educator Luna Matatas. Nicoletta and Luna talk about pegging, anal play, and why it is so hard to just receive pleasure. Join these slutty scholars as they help to make your sex smarter, and your smarts sexier. Listen to Sluts and Scholars at https://www.slutsandscholars.com/ and follow them on Insta @slutsandscholars

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Today we're sharing a preview of a new podcast we're enjoying and we think you will too! On this episode of the Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast, Dr. Dom and Terri have a deep conversation about the truth of gaslighting, red flags, and manipulation. Maybe you've heard these terms recently, but do you really know what they mean? Accessing the language around these pieces of the cycles of abuse can help you create a toolkit that can help you identify them earlier in your relationships. Knowing these terms can also help you identify when you have been the initiator of potentially harmful behavior. Listen to this episode with your journal and a ton of grace and self-compassion. Terri and Dr. Dom clearly lay out the signs so that you can see them early and make decisions from a centered place. Listen to Cultivating H.E.R. Space at https://herspacepodcast.com/ Enjoy!

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