Why Do We Destroy Our Own Happiness?
In this episode of the Narcissism Decoder, we explore the complex reasons why some individuals struggle to accept positive experiences, such as love, comfort, and success. We delve into the psychological concept of splitting, where early life experiences, like critical caregiving, can lead to an internalized negative self-view. Through a case study, we discuss how this self-criticism manifests and why it becomes difficult for some to embrace supportive voices or good opportunities. We also to...
4 Syys 202426min
How Splitting Affects Your Relationships!
In this episode we are joined by a listener of the podcast who raised very important questions about episode 14 “Why do I think and act in such extremes.” Celeste and I discuss the concept of splitting, which is thinking in extremes. We explore a case study of a patient who struggles with over-confidence and insecurities, depending on his different environments. He feels disconnected and lacks a sense of belonging. This split world is linked to his split representations of the two most ...
28 Elo 202431min
The One Trick to Help Motivate Your Child!
In this episode we are joined by a long-time listener of the podcast who has insightful questions about narcissism. This interview effectively illustrates the complexity of narcissism, the challenges of parenting, the importance of self-awareness and how Jim is inadvertently reenacting a part of his childhood relationship with his father. Jim's interest in learning and improving his relationship with his daughter is palpable, he is open and honest about everyday parental challenge...
21 Elo 202430min
Relating to the Covert Narcissist: Tools That Work– Part 2
In this episode, we continue our exploration of covert narcissism by delving into practical tools and techniques for managing relationships with individuals who exhibit these traits. Building on the foundations laid in episode 37, we discuss the limitations of common recommendations. Emphasis is placed on the importance of understanding the origins of covert narcissistic traits and the need for emotion reunion and validation. Through clinical examples, practical strategies for maintaini...
14 Elo 202427min
Relating to the Covert Narcissist: Why Most Recommendations are Limited Part 1
In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores how to relate to someone with covert narcissistic traits. He cautions against common tools and techniques that are often ineffective, such as establishing boundaries and keeping conversations brief. Dr. Mazzella explains that these approaches limit meaningful communication and erode trust and intimacy. He highlights the importance of understanding the defining characteristics of covert narcissism, including sensitivity to criticism, emotional man...
7 Elo 202430min
Why Leaving an Abusive Relationship is Hard: Trauma Bonds Explained in an Interview
In this episode, you will hear the final piece of the live interview I had with Tami from the Ageless 50+ community. In this part of the interview, the focus is on dealing with trauma bonded relationships. Trauma bonds are explained as intense emotional connections that often form in abusive relationships, making it difficult for individuals to leave despite the harm they endure. An example is given of a woman who couldn't emotionally separate from her abusive mother, leading her to repeat si...
31 Heinä 202424min
Managing Narcissistic Rage: Effective Strategies and Tips for Reducing Conflict -Live Interview 2
In this episode, you will again hear a live interview I had with Tami from Ageless 50+. In this part of the interview, the focus is on dealing with individuals who exhibit narcissistic traits, particularly when they have low self-esteem. Also, through a spontaneous role play, I try to demonstrate how to talk to an angry dysregulated person in your life. The main points include the importance of helping such individuals become aware of their reactions and responses without inflaming the situat...
24 Heinä 202421min
Can A Narcissist Change? A Segment of a Live Interview
In this episode, I had a live interview with Tami from Ageless, the 50+ community, where we discussed the definition of narcissism, the concept of a narcissist revising history, and whether narcissists can change. We delved into various therapeutic approaches to help individuals with narcissistic traits become more tolerant and increase their frustration tolerance. I also reviewed the core features of a grandiose sense of self, including exaggerated self-importance, entitlement, need for admi...
17 Heinä 202422min
