#122: Comparison is the Death of Joy

#122: Comparison is the Death of Joy

"Comparison is the death of joy." - Mark Twain

As creators, artists, leaders, healers, connectors, and influencers there is one thing that kills our creativity and joy more than anything....comparison! Comparing ourselves to others and thinking, "Why them? Why not me?"

This zero-sum "I win you lose, you win I lose" mentality kills more dreams and desires than anything else. Comparison makes us feel inadequate, deflated, and leads to low self-esteem.

I know because I'm in it, and have been in it! And there is a better way.

By shifting our perspective to, "If they can do it, why can't I?"

In fact, other people give us permission and show us what's possible, which we can use for inspiration. This win-win mentality and abundance mindset is so much healthier and more productive.

I think of Roger Bannister running the 1st sub-4-minute mile in 1954 when experts said it couldn't be done. Since that feat, 1,497 others have also run a mile in under 4 minutes. Roger gave all these people permission, showed them what's possible, and inspired each one to accomplish their own dreams and desires.

We get to make the choice every day. "Why them? Why not me?"

OR

"If they can do it, why can't I?"

One attitude will propel you onward and upward.

The other will drive you to bitterness and despair.

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#36: Pastor Miles McPherson - The Third Option, Hope For A Racially Divided Nation

#36: Pastor Miles McPherson - The Third Option, Hope For A Racially Divided Nation

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#35: Are You Part of the Problem or Solution?

#35: Are You Part of the Problem or Solution?

With everything going on in the world, and all the noise on social media, a few questions to think about: Are you spreading love, kindness, and joy - Or are you badmouthing, gossiping, blaming, and ...

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#34: Making Amends With My Old Boss

#34: Making Amends With My Old Boss

In this episode, Andrew talks about his opportunity to make amends with his old boss - The guy who hired Andrew in 2004 and gave him his start into the corporate world - And fired him in 2011 thanks t...

2 Elo 201910min

#33: My New Website and Lessons Learned This Week

#33: My New Website and Lessons Learned This Week

This week saw a huge wave of emotions as I prepare to launch my new website - I judged myself, applied "labels", thought I was playing small and riddled with fear - Yet now I see everything worked out...

26 Heinä 20198min

#32: My last day at lululemon

#32: My last day at lululemon

In this episode, I share a story I've never told before - being filled with so much fear during my 1st interview - and what happened. I talk about the true value of community. The beauty of connectio...

23 Heinä 201910min

#31 Jay Nixon - His new book, 'The Purpose of Pain: How to Turn Tragedy into Triumph, Because Life's Not Supposed to Suck!'

#31 Jay Nixon - His new book, 'The Purpose of Pain: How to Turn Tragedy into Triumph, Because Life's Not Supposed to Suck!'

Jay Nixon - My Mentor, Coach, Confidant, and Brother. In this episode, Jay and I dig deep into his new book. New Book Details: Learn How to Turn Tragedy and Pain into a Catalyst for Growth and Succe...

12 Heinä 201946min

#30: The Tables are Turned and My Friend, Jenn, Interviews Me

#30: The Tables are Turned and My Friend, Jenn, Interviews Me

My Spiritual & Sober Sister, Jennifer Juckett, interviewed me in this episode.....Disclaimer: I had NO IDEA what the questions were ahead of time and everything was authentic and vulnerable in-the-mom...

28 Kesä 201949min

#29: Bob Newton - Playing on Nebraska 1970 National Championship Team, Life in the NFL, Addiction, and Helping Save My Dad's Life

#29: Bob Newton - Playing on Nebraska 1970 National Championship Team, Life in the NFL, Addiction, and Helping Save My Dad's Life

"Resentment can be helpful on the football field." - Bob Newton Bob Newton was an All-American football player at University of Nebraska in 1970 and helped the school win their 1st national champions...

14 Kesä 201953min

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