#122: Comparison is the Death of Joy

#122: Comparison is the Death of Joy

"Comparison is the death of joy." - Mark Twain

As creators, artists, leaders, healers, connectors, and influencers there is one thing that kills our creativity and joy more than anything....comparison! Comparing ourselves to others and thinking, "Why them? Why not me?"

This zero-sum "I win you lose, you win I lose" mentality kills more dreams and desires than anything else. Comparison makes us feel inadequate, deflated, and leads to low self-esteem.

I know because I'm in it, and have been in it! And there is a better way.

By shifting our perspective to, "If they can do it, why can't I?"

In fact, other people give us permission and show us what's possible, which we can use for inspiration. This win-win mentality and abundance mindset is so much healthier and more productive.

I think of Roger Bannister running the 1st sub-4-minute mile in 1954 when experts said it couldn't be done. Since that feat, 1,497 others have also run a mile in under 4 minutes. Roger gave all these people permission, showed them what's possible, and inspired each one to accomplish their own dreams and desires.

We get to make the choice every day. "Why them? Why not me?"

OR

"If they can do it, why can't I?"

One attitude will propel you onward and upward.

The other will drive you to bitterness and despair.

Jaksot(170)

#125: How To Stop The War With Yourself

#125: How To Stop The War With Yourself

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#124: Breaking the Shame Cycle

#124: Breaking the Shame Cycle

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#123: Father's Day 30 Questions

#123: Father's Day 30 Questions

Happy Father's Day to all the Father's out there! I highly recommend googling, "Brendon Burchard 30 questions." These questions inspired to ask our parents before they die. An opportunity to create d...

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#121: Conscious Conversations For Men

#121: Conscious Conversations For Men

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#120: Spiritual 7 Morning Routine

#120: Spiritual 7 Morning Routine

It’s okay to not be okay. May is mental health awareness month, so I want to shine some light on mental health and the stigma that surrounds it. I create a morning routine with all my clients so they ...

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#119: From Addiction to Abundance - Celebrating 7 Years of Sobriety

#119: From Addiction to Abundance - Celebrating 7 Years of Sobriety

Seven years ago, I was at rock bottom. Now it’s my turn to help others. Today I want to share my journey with you. Now I am happy, healthy, and looking forward to my future. However, this wasn’t alwa...

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#118: Happy Mother's Day

#118: Happy Mother's Day

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