#74 Staying Steady: Managing Triggers and Shame After Betrayal with Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC

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In this episode, we are joined by Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC, who is a colleague of ours at Choose Recovery Services. She sees individual clients as well as couples. She has many specialized trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), APSATS, Full Therapeutic Disclosures, Deconstructing Gaslighting, Mindfulness Based Addiction and Trauma Treatment and more. You can read all about her and connect with her HERE.

Laura joins us as we dive deep into how to stay emotionally grounded when betrayal leaves us feeling out of control. We’ll explore what it means to stay within your window of tolerance and why it’s crucial for emotional stability and healing after infidelity. Learn how to identify when you’re being triggered, and understand how these triggers are often a subconscious bid for connection and safety.

We’ll discuss how to regulate your nervous system in those moments when shame surfaces and past hurts resurface, offering practical strategies to help you manage your reactions instead of being overwhelmed by them. Whether you’re struggling to stay present during difficult conversations or finding it hard to manage unexpected emotional waves, this episode provides tools to help you stay steady.

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Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

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Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

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