1084: Dad's Kindness Flows But Her Instability Grows | Feedback Friday

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) is a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship sage, and author of Love Skills: The Keys to Unlocking Lasting, Wholehearted Love and Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. What We Discuss with Linda Carroll: Love is a feeling that comes and goes, but loving is a skill set you can improve with practice. Why most arguments are not really about what you think you're fighting about. Is communication in relationships overrated? What the Woodpecker Syndrome is and how to avoid it. "You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else" and other cultural stereotypes and clichés about relationships that are worth less than the Hallmark cards they were printed on.  Why so many of us get locked into repeating relationship patterns that ultimately end messily. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/462 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Tammi 202149min

Erik Vance (@erikvance) is an award-winning science journalist and author of Suggestible You: The Curious Science of Your Brain's Ability to Deceive, Transform, and Heal. What We Discuss with Erik Vance: How the human tendency for patternicity can be used to inoculate ourselves against pain, but also make us believe we've been abducted by space aliens. The placebo effect vs. the nocebo effect. The power of false memories and the "Satanic Panic" phenomenon of the 1980s. How our brains twist reality to match expectations, and how it fits into our evolutionary model for survival. Why Erik paid a Mexico City witch doctor to curse him -- for science! And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/461 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Tammi 20211h 9min

When your adopted child turned 18, he immediately moved out without warning and wrote you a letter saying he left "for mental health reasons" -- and not to contact him. You're hurt, disappointed, and feel cut off; is there any way to respect his wishes while getting some clarity on why this happened and letting him know you're still unconditionally there for him? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/460 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Wisdom from Charlie Munger: Take a simple idea and take it seriously. When your adopted child turned 18, he immediately moved out and wrote you a letter saying he left "for mental health reasons" -- and not to contact him. You're hurt, disappointed, and feel cut off; is there any way to respect his wishes while getting some clarity on why this happened? You're a middle schooler who doesn't thrive with the lessened engagement of online courses, but you understandably don't feel safe going to the classroom in the middle of a pandemic. You've considered dropping out and attending a community college that offers courses for all ages and has much safer COVID-19 protocols, but you're not sure it's the right move. What would we do in your shoes? You graduated law school to become a world-changing lawyer, but you've been diagnosed with a debilitating illness that makes this a difficult proposition now. You know there are positions with a work-life balance that would be more accommodating to your condition, but they're not generally world-changing. Where should you go from here? A shady landlord is trying to sucker you into paying two months' rent against the terms of your very explicit lease, and it's having an adverse effect on your credit score. How can you legally get this creep off your back? [Thanks once again to our defense attorney friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!] You and your fiancee want your relationship to be focused on you, not the image of the relationship you convey online. But how do you balance sharing life updates with your network to provide an engagement point for weak or dormant ties (as discussed in our free Six-Minute Networking course)? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Tammi 202144min

Steve Madden (@stevenmadden) is a fashion designer and businessman, and author of The Cobbler: How I Disrupted an Industry, Fell From Grace, and Came Back Stronger Than Ever. What We Discuss with Steve Madden: How growing up as a half-Jewish, half-Irish outsider gave Steve a unique perspective and mindset that dispensed with establishment formalities. Why it's not failure that defines someone's character, but how someone responds to coming up short. In hindsight, Steve weighs the pros and cons of living by the "better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission" credo. Why knowing what you don't know can be what Steve considers "a very big gift." Why it wasn't designs or talent that made Steve's company successful; it was the cultivation of an unstoppable work ethic. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/459 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Tammi 202159min

John Brennan (@JohnBrennan) served as the Director of the CIA from 2013 to 2017, and is the author of Undaunted: My Fight Against America's Enemies, At Home and Abroad. What We Discuss with John Brennan: The mechanics of being in charge of America's spy agency and dealing with international crises on a daily basis. How CIA officers are taught to question their assumptions and overcome confirmation biases to find facts in a field of deception. Why John argued for diversity within the CIA -- not to placate a liberal agenda, as his critics asserted, but to strengthen the agency's ability to operate effectively in a diverse world. How John was able to get a job at the CIA in spite of past hashish use, lying to his mother about going to church, and voting for a communist. The challenges of operating clandestinely in the digitally rich 21st century. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/458 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Tammi 20211h 21min

You and your wife of four years have had your ups and downs, but she recently revealed her belief in a number of conspiracy theories. Now you wonder if you can continue a life together when you're living in two entirely different realities. We'll examine this rabbit hole and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/457 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your wife of four years recently revealed she's gone down a conspiracy theory rabbit hole from which she may never return. Is it possible for your marriage to continue when you're each living in your own reality? [Thanks to Justin Ramsdell for helping us with this one!] You're the top choice to run operations if your company's acquisition goes through, but your priorities have shifted toward family and you're not sure the new bosses will understand your desire for work/life balance. What’s the best way to discuss your personal plans with the team so you feel your mutual needs are being considered? [Thanks to Michelle Tillis Lederman for giving us some insight here!] How should a financially smart, successful couple entertain the idea of cohabitating when marriage is in the plans down the road, but the relationship hasn't yet passed the one-year mark? You're friends with a family who recently started hosting maskless "freedom rallies" that have drawn thousands of people into tight quarters during this global pandemic. Every reason you've expressed to them for why this is a terrible idea has been dismissed. Should you just give up? And is there even a future for your friendship even after this passes? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Tammi 202145min

Laura Nirider (@LauraNirider) is the co-director of the Center on Wrongful Convictions at Northwestern Pritzker School of Law, and the co-host of the Wrongful Conviction: False Confessions podcast. What We Discuss with Laura Nirider: Two to five percent of people currently serving time in prison have been falsely convicted. False confessions and admissions are present in 15 to 20 percent of all DNA exonerations. The United States is one of the only countries in the world that allows police to lie about evidence during interrogations. Why so many people are coerced into providing false confessions during interrogations that are gentle compared to the more "hands on" approach taken by police in decades past. How Laura is working to clean up interrogation techniques so they're still effective in solving crimes without trapping innocent people in the system. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/456 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Tammi 20211h 8min

Matthew McConaughey (@McConaughey) is an Academy Award-winning actor, producer, and author of  #1 New York Times Bestseller Greenlights. What We Discuss with Matthew McConaughey: What the sobriety of grief did for Matthew's attitude about risk when he was dealing with the loss of his father. How Matthew tries to instill the values of self-reliance in his kids. How Matthew learned to cope with imposter syndrome and get his head on straight when he became a household name seemingly overnight. The philanthropic approach to selecting roles that has guided Matthew through his career in film. How Matthew keeps criticism from affecting how he perceives himself. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/455 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Tammi 20211h 23min