1084: Dad's Kindness Flows But Her Instability Grows | Feedback Friday

You cringe when you think back to the toxic, abusive person you used to be, but a traumatic experience forced you to change for the better. However, it's difficult to form close friendships or seek a relationship because you feel unworthy of connection with others. Do you deserve a second chance? If so, how do you prove it to yourself and others who know about your past? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/511 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You cringe when you think back to the toxic, abusive person you used to be, but a traumatic experience forced you to change for the better. However, it's difficult to form close friendships or seek a relationship because you feel unworthy of connection with others. Do you deserve a second chance? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!] You're a 20-something "internet personality" whose bad choices (and poor judgment of character) have led you to do things you're not proud of. Sponsors and investors are dropping off, and your livelihood is in danger with no other prospects on the horizon. More than financial ruin, you fear reputational damage from which you'll never recover. You want to take responsibility for your actions; what can you do to see light at the end of this tunnel? You and your partner have been married for 11 years and have no kids. You met at a Christian camp, you both took your faith very seriously, and you built your relationship on that faith. Fast forward 10 years, and you no longer believe in the "Christian" God. Your partner wants to raise a family, but you know you can't be the role model they have in mind without that faith. Should you work on the marriage with the possibility of greater hurt down the road, or free your partner to find someone else still aligned with their faith? You and your partner are ready to adopt a child, but you're pondering how much involvement the birth mother should be allowed to have in this child's life. Is it selfish to apply with the stipulation that contact would only be allowed after the child's 18th birthday? Would this really be fair to the child? What option is ultimately the healthiest for all parties? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Touko 202150min

Rob Reid (@Rob_Reid) is a tech entrepreneur, early-stage tech investor, author of After On: A Novel of Silicon Valley, and host of the After On Podcast. What We Discuss with Rob Reid: While COVID-19 has been devastating on a global scale, it's comparatively benign when we consider how bad it could have been with a deadlier, more transmissible virus and a decimated infrastructure without access to basic necessities. What gain of function research is, and why it's so dangerous in a world where even the most secure laboratories can leak pathogens into the general population. The death toll inflicted by society's suicidal mass murderers is limited only by the weapons they have available -- whether they're guns, knives, airplanes, or synthetically manufactured superviruses created by soon-to-be commonplace genetic manipulation technology. The steps we can take as an international community to fend off the malevolent efforts of a few bad actors by creating an infrastructure that can detect and prevent the spread of any potential future pandemic. How DNA printers with the ability to create pandemic-defying vaccines on demand may become as common in the home as smoke alarms. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/510 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Touko 20211h 25min

Sam Harris (@SamHarrisOrg) is a neuroscientist, philosopher, and author of five New York Times bestsellers. He is the host of the Making Sense podcast and his latest book is Making Sense: Conversations on Consciousness, Morality, and the Future of Humanity. What We Discuss with Sam Harris: How can someone in the public eye speak freely without worrying about being canceled? How to keep an open mind when debating someone with whom you disagree vehemently. What it really takes to get people to behave ethically. How to resist the distorting effect of social media's "funhouse mirror" on reality. Why, if you choose to participate in social media, you should make sure to follow at least some (preferably many) people who don't share your views. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/509 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Touko 20211h 10min

Your sister's (now former) boyfriend might be a legitimate psychopath, but he's definitely a stalker who's threatened her for breaking up with him after she discovered his unfaithfulness. How can she best protect herself from his deranged promises to ruin her life? We'll look for the best answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/508 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can your sister best protect herself from a stalker ex-boyfriend's deranged threats to ruin her life? [Thanks to George Grant and Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!] What are the pros and cons of working with your significant other? How can your friend protect her job and sanity against harassment from a senior co-worker? [Thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!] Your rental property has neighbors who are a nuisance to your tenants. You're losing money because your tenants don’t want the hassle of the weekend parties, and you're not on premises to document the neighbors' transgressions. What can you do? [Thanks to Brandon Turner for help with this one!] Even though there seems to finally be light at the end of the tunnel, what's the best way to network during the COVID-19 pandemic? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Touko 202153min

Robert Cialdini (@RobertCialdini) is widely regarded as the “Godfather of influence” for his groundbreaking work in ethical persuasion. An update of his bestseller that started it all, Influence, New and Expanded: The Psychology of Persuasion, is out now. What We Discuss with Robert Cialdini: Cialdini’s Universal Principles of Influence that turn you into an unstoppable persuasion machine (and allow you to defend yourself against the unethical influence of others). Why it’s a bad idea to accept a gift or favor from someone we don’t like or trust, and how we can reject such a gift or favor gracefully. How to become more likable (without being a smarmy weirdo about it). Why social proof is powerful for positive and negative outcomes and how we can leverage this. The most ideal time to disclose a negative for maximum damage control. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/507 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Touko 20211h 23min

Tim Grover is the preeminent authority on the science and art of achieving physical and mental dominance relied upon by legendary athletes like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant at the top of their game. He's also an author, and his latest book is Winning: The Unforgiving Race to Greatness. What We Discuss with Tim Grover: Putting aside inspirational Internet meme bromides, what does it really mean to be relentless? Why you can't even access the upper limits of the physical without putting the mental blocks in place first. Why the intangibles -- like commitment and resilience -- are more important than the measurable -- like strength and speed. The paradigm-shifting thought patterns that go into becoming a world-class champion. Why top performers aren't looking for motivation -- they're looking for elevation. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/506 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Touko 20211h 20min

Your adult son has Asperger Syndrome, which has contributed to his naïveté in social situations and led to others taking advantage of him. Now he's married to a woman who has served time in prison for smothering her own mother with a pillow and attempted to do the same to her ex-husband. On top of this concerning history, she also falsely accused your son of rape and assault when he tried to leave her. What can you do for your special needs son who's been seduced by this psycho siren? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/505 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your adult son with special needs has been tricked into marriage with a legitimate psycho killer and accused by her of rape and assault when he tried to end it. How can you help him pry free from this murderous harpy before it's too late? [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne, Surrounded by Psychopaths author Thomas Erikson, and clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!] How do you politely decline an offer to "catch up" with an old co-worker who doesn't seem to understand that you never particularly cared for them? After doing a payscale salary comparison, you estimate that you make $15-20k less than the median salary for your qualifications. Would it be best for you to attempt to negotiate a raise at your current job, or bite the bullet and try to find a new job with better pay? Your usually non-dramatic wife has taken to breaking into tears for seemingly no reason at least once a week or so (that you know of). Could it be due to her obsession with picture-perfect Instagram influencers making her feel bad about herself? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Touko 202152min

Lt. Col. Oliver North (@OliverLNorth) is a political commentator, military historian, and retired United States Marine Corps lieutenant colonel. He is the author of many leather-bound books, and the host of Oliver North's America and Oliver North's Real American Heroes. What We Discuss with Oliver North: An Oliver North's-eye view of the Iran–Contra affair after 30+ years in the rearview mirror. Using SMEAC (Situation, Mission, Execution, Admin and Logistics, and Command and Signal) for making decisions in high-pressure situations. Why Oliver still recalls one day as a Marine machine-gunner during the Vietnam conflict as the worst in his life. What it's like to survive an assassination attempt (and outlive its bumbling perpetrators). Why Oliver considers "servant leaders" to be the best leaders. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/504 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Touko 20211h 11min