S2 Ep. 13: Sex Giggles, Sex Dreams, and How to Tell if Your Boyfriend is Secretly Gay
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) Sometimes when I’m in bed with my husband, I start laughing. He gets all huffy about it which makes me laugh even more. I have no idea why I do it or how to stop.2) I’m very happy with my partner of 12 years but I dream of sex with other men nearly every night. I love the dreams: they’re exciting and fun though I do feel guilty when I wake up. I sometimes wonder if this means I’d be up for cheating if someone made a move on me. I’m in my mid 40s and don’t get hit on very often. The dreams make me not trust myself: I’d like to think I’d say no, but would I? 3) Can you tell if a man is secretly gay or has bisexual tendencies? I have met a man I’m really into, but my instincts tell me something is wrong. He is curiously uninterested in having sex – especially since our relationship is new. I am always the instigator. When we do have sex, he won’t make eye contact and he cuts straight to intercourse. He doesn’t enjoy foreplay at all: there’s no interest in my breasts, he never fingers me and says he doesn’t like performing oral sex. Out of bed, he’s great and very affectionate. Though, now I think about it, he’s not into deep kissing either. Otherwise, he’s a great boyfriend and I’d like us to get serious. Am I being over paranoid? Should I ask him outright? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
5 Huhti 202221min
S2 Ep. 12: My Partner Won't Listen to What I Want in Bed, my Boyfriend's Still on Tinder, and Is There Really Such a Thing as an Aphrodisiac?
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) Is there such a thing as an aphrodisiac? Oysters, chocolate, things like that? I suspect the answer is no but I’m curious if things like ‘Spanish Fly’ ever did work?2) I have no problems asking for what I want in bed but I feel like I’m talking to myself with my new partner. It’s not easy for me to orgasm because I need very specific stimulation. (I’m a gay man, by the way, so it’s not true that all men can orgasm without issues.) I’ve explained what I need done to my boyfriend many, many times yet he still doesn’t do it. What do I do now?3) I met my partner on Tinder and, once I decided I really liked him, took myself off all the dating apps. I thought he had done the same and got a shock when I looked to see he’s still on there and was active recently. We’ve been seeing each other a month and it’s really full on. What does this mean and how do I deal with it? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
29 Maalis 202223min
S2 Ep. 11: I Don't Like How My Vulva Looks, My Friends Can't Forgive His Affair, and How to Use a Butt Plug
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I’m embarrassed about the way my vulva looks. My inner labia lips protrude and look ugly. I’ve watched porn and, for most women, the inner lips sit inside the outer lips. It makes me very nervous about sex with someone new. Is this normal?2) A year ago, my partner had an affair. We have a close group of friends, so everyone knows about it. But we’ve worked things out, I’ve forgiven him and we are back on track. The problem is our friends haven’t done the same. I feel judged by them and am constantly having to defend my decision to take him back. How do I get them to move on, like I have?3) Tracey, you often talk about using a butt plug during sex. We’ve never used one before. Can you explain, for beginners, how to use one and what type to buy? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
22 Maalis 202220min
S2 Ep. 10: Working from Home Porn Addiction, Crushes on Other Men, and What to Do When You’re Married but Haven’t Had Sex in Years
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I’m no prude and have nothing against people watching porn but I am alarmed by the amount of time my boyfriend now spends watching it on his phone. We both work from home and it’s ramped up since then. He thinks it’s funny when I catch him and doesn’t try to hide it. But it’s starting to bug me, looking over and seeing women doing degrading things to men for hours each day. Am I over-reacting? 2) I’m happily married but have a crush on one of the dads I see on the school run. We have a chat and a laugh and now and then go for a coffee. Nothing is going to happen — I’ve had crushes before and they just fade out over time — but I’m curious if this happens to other married women. How do other people handle it? Is it something I should tell my partner and have a laugh about? Or should it stay a secret? What does it say about my marriage?3) I married my wife three years ago after being together for five years. She’s never been that interested in sex but now we don’t have sex at all. It stopped when we got married. We’re in our late 30s and our kids are now at school. I love her but I’m not prepared to never have sex again. She refuses to talk about it. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
15 Maalis 202223min
S2 Ep. 9: Intercourse Orgasms, Should You Confess an Affair You Got Away With, and How to Talk Yourself into Wanting Sex
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I can’t climax during intercourse and it frustrates me. I know I’m not the only one and I know why I’m not able to orgasm but surely there are things I can try other than him using his fingers or holding a vibrator there? 2) My 8-year relationship went through a bad patch and I had a brief fling with a woman at work. It’s all over, no one ever found out, and my relationship is back on track. It happened six months ago but I still feel jumpy and nervous about it. Should I come clean or keep quiet?3) I’m 29, a straight woman, and I’d describe my libido as low to average. It's not that I don’t enjoy having sex with my partner, it’s just not my favorite thing to do. I do feel close to him afterward though and I know it makes him happy. So my question is this: how can I talk myself into wanting sex when I don’t really feel like it? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
8 Maalis 202221min
S2 Ep. 8: How Can I Speed Up Sex, Should I Be Wary of Girly Talk, and Does it Take Longer to Orgasm as You Get Older?
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) Please can you suggest a way to speed up sex with my husband? He can last up to an hour at a time. It’s boring and I get sore. He thinks it’s something to be proud of but all I can think of is how to make it end. 2) Should it take longer to have an orgasm as you get older (men and women)?3) I’m a recently divorced man (42) and have been seeing a woman for two months. All is going well but she came over one night after seeing her friends – lots of drinking involved – and confessed she’d told them all about the sex we’ve been having. I think most of it was complimentary but she also told them about an incident that didn’t go well (she found it funny and I didn’t). Am I wrong to be annoyed about this? It’s made me think twice about her. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
1 Maalis 202221min
S2 Ep. 7: When to Go and When to Stay, My Orgasms are Too Intense, and How to Talk to Men about Erection Problems
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I am in a relationship that I’d describe as ‘just OK’. Sometimes it feels perfectly fine and that I should stay. Other times, when we argue, it feels very much like I should end it. I have been ricocheting between a go/leave decision for about a year now. Any clues to help me decide? 2) My partner is 46 and has started to avoid sex. I suspect because he is having erection problems. The last few times we did attempt sex, he couldn’t get hard. We have never been good at talking about sex so I have no idea of how to address the issue with him. Can you help?3) My husband and I have been together for 12 years and have a very active sex life. I have multiple orgasms every time we have sex though never through intercourse (I’m not one of those lucky few). Sometimes my orgasm is so intense I make my husband stop immediately. We jokingly call this the "orgasm of death". I love sex and hate that I can't finish one of these very intense orgasms. A- is this normal? and B -any tips for keep the fun going through the intensity? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
22 Helmi 202216min
S2 Ep. 6: Lubes, Swallowing, and What to Do if Your Unborn Child Might Not Be Your Husband's
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) This is something I’m sure you get asked all the time but do I really need to swallow? I don’t mind giving my partner oral sex but really hate the swallowing part. He says it’s like having a hot dog without the tomato sauce. Is this true or is he making a fuss over nothing? 2) You’re always talking about how much better sex is when you use lube. But which lube should I be using? And what about things like Vaseline and baby oil? Don’t they do just as good a job?3) I've just got married and am four months pregnant. I love my husband dearly but, the week before the wedding, I met up with a man I still have feelings for. I wanted to be sure I was marrying the right person (I decided I am) but I’m ashamed to say we ended up having sex. This should be one of the happiest moments of my life but it’s not because I have no idea who is the father: it could be my ex or my husband. What should I do? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
15 Helmi 202226min
