100 Episodes: My Top Relationship Lessons That Changed My Life

Welcome back to Episode 50 of "Breakup to Blessing" with Sylvia Suwan! In this insightful episode, Sylvia tackles a question that many individuals face after a breakup or divorce: How long does it take to get over a breakup? Sylvia begins by debunking common myths surrounding breakup recovery, emphasising that there are no set calculations or timelines for healing. Instead, she encourages listeners to set intentions for their healing journey and prioritize their emotional well-being. Drawing on her expertise as a breakup and relationship counselor, Sylvia explores the multitude of factors that influence the healing process, including the intensity of the relationship, personal resilience, and coping mechanisms. She shares valuable insights into how individuals can navigate the emotional challenges of a breakup and make intentional choices that support their healing journey. Through relatable anecdotes and practical advice, Sylvia empowers listeners to shift their focus from dwelling on the duration of the healing process to actively working towards emotional growth and resilience. She shares valuable strategies for setting goals, cultivating self-awareness, and making empowered decisions that align with long-term healing. SHOWLINKS: For 1:1 Coaching book a free 30min consult with Sylvia https://sylviasuwan.com

11 Huhti 202410min

In Episode 49, we delve into the often challenging experience of discovering that your ex has moved on. Whether through social media updates or mutual acquaintances, this realisation can trigger a whirlwind of emotions, symbolising the definitive end of a chapter and extinguishing any lingering hopes of reconciliation. As you grapple with these emotions, it's crucial to understand that your initial reactions are completely normal, regardless of the passage of time since the breakup. Even if your ex's swift transition to a new relationship catches you off guard, it's vital to recognise that their processing of the breakup likely began long before its official end. In this episode, we explore common thoughts and beliefs that may surface when faced with your ex's newfound happiness. These may include feelings of rejection, betrayal, sadness, or unworthiness. However, it's essential to remember that these thoughts do not necessarily reflect reality. Rather, they often stem from our innate tendency towards negativity bias, where we are inclined to focus more on negative experiences and emotions. To counteract negativity bias, we discuss strategies for cultivating a more balanced perspective and fostering emotional resilience. By challenging negative thoughts and focusing on constructive interpretations of your ex's actions, you can reclaim your power and propel yourself forward on the path to healing. Ultimately, coping with the news of your ex's new relationship requires a conscious effort to break free from rumination and embrace the present moment. By doing so, you can move beyond the past and create space for new opportunities and growth. Tune in to this episode for valuable insights and practical tips on navigating the complex emotions that arise when your ex has moved on. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review if you found this episode helpful! SHOW LINKS Looking for therapy or coaching? Book in a free 30min consult with Sylvia here: https://sylviasuwan.com

7 Huhti 202415min

Today, I've got something special for you— a set of affirmations designed to help you navigate through the tough moments of your breakup. I know how challenging it can be to deal with feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and uncertainty, but trust me, you're not alone in this journey. Now, I've mentioned before that I'm not a huge fan of affirmations that feel disconnected or unrealistic. But today, I'm sharing affirmations that are rooted in truth— affirmations that, with time and repetition, can truly uplift and empower you. Let's dive in: "I am strong and resilient, and I will get through this": Even if you don't feel strong right now, remember all the times you've overcome challenges in the past. You've got this. "I am not defined by my breakup. My worth is inherent": Your breakup doesn't define you. Your worth is innate, and no one can take that away from you. "I am worthy of love, respect, and kindness": You deserve love, respect, and kindness in all your relationships. Don't settle for anything less. "I am learning and growing through this experience": Every experience, even the painful ones, offers an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Embrace it. "I release any attachment to the past and embrace my future": Let go of the past and focus on the present moment. Your future is full of endless possibilities. These affirmations are here to remind you of your inner strength and resilience. They're here to guide you through the ups and downs of your breakup journey. If you want access to the complete list of 40 affirmations, click here to access the download. Feel free to come back to these affirmations whenever you need a little boost of encouragement. SHOW LINKS: Looking for 1:1 therapy or coaching? Book a free 30min session with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com Download 40 Affirmations for Healing your Heartbreak: https://sylviasuwan.com/affirmations

4 Huhti 20246min

In today's episode, we talk about the concept of ghosting and its impact on relationships. From its origins in hip hop culture to its prevalence in modern dating, ghosting has become a common phenomenon that leaves many feeling confused and hurt. Sylvia Suwan explores the different scenarios of ghosting and offers insights on how to navigate this experience with resilience and self-reflection. Key Points: Defining Ghosting: Ghosting, popularised in the 90s, refers to abruptly ceasing communication with someone without explanation or closure. Understanding the level of relationship establishment is crucial in defining ghosting accurately. Reacting to Ghosting: Responding to ghosting involves reframing the experience and recognising that it's not a reflection of personal worth. Those who ghost are often avoiding difficult conversations, indicating emotional immaturity and a lack of respect for others. Self-Reflection Questions:  Sylvia shares powerful self-reflection questions to help listeners navigate ghosting experiences effectively. These questions facilitate personal growth, self-compassion, and understanding of relationship dynamics. Featured Questions for Self-Reflection: Did I have any expectations or assumptions about the relationship or the other person's intentions? How might these have influenced my reaction to being ghosted? Were there any signs or red flags during our interactions that I might have overlooked or ignored? And what can I learn from this experience to recognise similar patterns in the future? How did I communicate my boundaries, needs, and expectations during our interactions? Did I express myself clearly, or were there areas where I could have been more assertive? What role did I play in the dynamics of the relationship? Did I contribute to open and honest communication, or did I hold back or avoid difficult conversations? How might the other person be feeling or what circumstances might have led them to ghost me? Can I empathise with their perspective, even if I don't agree with their actions? What lessons can I take away from this experience to help me grow and navigate future relationships more effectively? How can I practice self-compassion and kindness toward myself during this challenging time? What self-care practices can I engage in to nurture my emotional well-being? Are there any patterns or beliefs about myself or relationships that this experience has brought to light? How can I challenge or reframe these beliefs to support my personal growth? What are my priorities and values in relationships, and how can I align my actions and choices with them moving forward? Closing Remarks: Understanding ghosting and its implications is crucial in fostering healthy relationships and personal growth. By reframing the experience and engaging in self-reflection, listeners can navigate ghosting with resilience and empowerment. Join Sylvia next week for more insights and discussions on relationships and personal development. SHOW LINKS: Episode 45 How To Get Closure From A Breakup Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-get-closure-from-a-breakup/id1714115799?i=1000650311128 Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5nlm7aSSISn4gxncI7P1FM?si=BJY2iSjHQuiOLSL9xomKrw Looking for Therapy or Coaching? Book in a free 30min session with Sylvia here: https://sylviasuwan.com Stay Connected: Follow us on @yourbreakuptherapist for updates and additional content. Subscribe to our podcast for weekly episodes on relationships, personal growth, and more.

1 Huhti 202414min

In this heartfelt episode, Sylvia reflects on the complexities of managing emotions amidst the demands of parenting three children at different stages of life. From confronting the necessity of reprioritisation to finding joy in simple pleasures, she shares valuable lessons learned through navigating life's transitions. Key Takeaways: Embracing change as an inevitable part of life's journey. Finding solace in moments of self-care and reflection. Cultivating resilience through adaptability and open-mindedness. Making peace with life-altering decisions and embracing the present moment. Recognizing opportunities for growth and alternative solutions. Featured Topics: Parenting challenges and the importance of flexibility. Coping strategies for navigating life's transitions. The significance of long-term decision-making in relationships. Finding balance between short-term satisfaction and long-term fulfillment. Embracing uncertainty and cultivating a positive mindset. Closing Thoughts: As you start your weekend, remember that every challenge is an opportunity for growth. By making conscious choices and staying open to alternative paths, you're planting seeds for a better future. Have a wonderful weekend, take care, and see you next week! SHOWLINKS: Book a 1:1 session with Sylvia https://sylviasuwan.com

28 Maalis 202410min

Today, we're diving into a topic that resonates with so many of us: closure. Whether it's from a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a family dynamic, the need for closure is universal. Join me as we explore how to find closure independently, regardless of the type of relationship you're navigating. From understanding the importance of closure to practical steps for achieving it, this episode offers valuable insights and guidance for anyone seeking peace and acceptance after a breakup or loss. Highlights: Understanding the significance of closure and its role in making sense of relationships. Exploring the complexities of seeking closure when faced with one-sided breakups or unanswered questions. Reflecting on the importance of self-reflection and understanding our own role in relationships. Sharing a personal anecdote of learning and growth through seeking closure. Offering practical steps for finding closure independently, including decision-making, reflection, and learning from past experiences. Emphasizing the value of gaining insights for future relationships and personal growth. Expressing gratitude for listeners' support and inviting them to subscribe to the podcast. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we navigate the path to closure together. If you haven't already, hit the subscribe button to stay updated on future episodes. Your support means the world to me! Wishing you a wonderful week ahead, and I'll see you on the next episode. 🎧✨ SHOWLINKS Book a 1:1 session with Sylvia https://sylviasuwan.com

25 Maalis 202416min

In this episode, we delve into the intriguing question: Have you ever had an ex come back, and did it actually work out? Join us as we explore the scenarios where reconciliation is highly unlikely, when it could possibly happen, and what needs to change for it to succeed. Drawing from real-life examples and personal experiences, we unravel the complexities of post-breakup dynamics and the importance of self-reflection and growth. Whether you're hoping for a reunion or striving to move forward, this episode offers valuable insights into relationships, healing, and self-worth. Highlights: Exploring the common motivations behind the question of exes coming back. Analyzing scenarios where reconciliation is improbable, including instances of false hope. Reflecting on the need to detach from the situation and embrace personal growth. Identifying key factors for a successful reunion, such as unresolved feelings and mutual willingness to evolve. Sharing a personal story of reconciliation and the transformative power of self-healing. Emphasising the significance of self-worth and not relying on validation from others. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the dynamics of exes returning and discover insights to navigate your own relationship journey. Join us as we unpack the complexities of love, loss, and personal growth. Thank you for listening, and we'll catch you next week for more heartfelt discussions. Have a beautiful weekend! 🎧❤️ SHOW LINKS: Work with Sylvia book in a free 30min session https://sylviasuwan.com

22 Maalis 202414min

In today's episode of Breakup to Blessing, we delved into the intricate dynamics of relationships and explored the most common reasons why they fail. We discussed several significant factors, including the absence of trust, lack of compatibility, insufficient intimacy, financial strain, commitment issues, waning attraction, and the overarching importance of effective communication. We highlighted how trust serves as the bedrock of any healthy relationship and how breaches in trust, whether through betrayal or dishonesty, can severely strain the bond between partners. Moreover, we explored the significance of compatibility, emphasizing the importance of shared interests, values, and goals in fostering a lasting connection. Our discussion also touched upon the crucial role of intimacy, encompassing both physical and emotional aspects, and how discrepancies in intimacy preferences can lead to dissatisfaction in relationships. Financial conflicts were identified as another common source of strain, often resulting from differing attitudes and behaviors toward money. We examined the detrimental impact of a lack of commitment, particularly in the age of dating apps, where the fear of missing out on better opportunities undermines the willingness to invest fully in a relationship. Additionally, we addressed the complexities of attraction, emphasizing that it encompasses more than just physical appearance and how supporting one's partner through challenges can reignite attraction. Finally, we underscored the paramount importance of effective communication in navigating relationship challenges and fostering mutual understanding, respect, and empathy. We highlighted the key components of effective communication, including active listening, clarity, openness, honesty, and empathy, emphasizing their role in building and sustaining healthy relationships. Ultimately, we concluded that while relationships may encounter various challenges, cultivating effective communication serves as the cornerstone for addressing and overcoming these obstacles. By fostering open and honest dialogue, respecting each other's perspectives, and prioritizing mutual understanding and empathy, couples can cultivate stronger, more fulfilling relationships built on a foundation of love and respect. SHOW LINKS: Book a free 30min session with Sylvia https://sylviasuwan.com

17 Maalis 202413min