Why You Still Want Them (The Brutal Truth About Trauma Bonding)
What does it take to finally walk away after YEARS of manipulation and abus3? In this powerful episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) sits down with Louella to discuss her harrowing and inspiring journey of surviving a long-term narcissistic relationship.Louella shares the raw truth about the "slow erode" of self-esteem, the confusion of the trauma bond, and the specific moment she realized that the person she loved was never going to change. This isn't just a story of survival; it’s a roadmap for anyone currently feeling trapped in a toxic cycle.In this interview, we dive into:The Long Game: How narcissistic manipulation evolves over the span of many years.The Turning Point: The specific "red flag" that finally broke the spell for Louella.Generational Trauma: How our pasts can sometimes lead us into the arms of a narcissist.Life After the Exit: The reality of healing, helping, and finding peace after the discard.As a self-aware narcissist, Lee provides feedback on the tactics used against Louella, offering a unique "inside look" at why her ex acted the way he did—and why her decision to leave was the ultimate power move.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
1 Tammi 1h 16min
Why Narcissists Wait for You to Reach Out First (The Power of Silence)
Why does the narcissist go silent and wait for YOU to send the first text? In this episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) breaks down the manipulation behind the silence.If you've ever felt the agonizing urge to reach out just to get some closure or stop the pain, you need to hear this. Lee explains that when a narcissist waits for you to reach out, they aren't "missing" you—they are measuring their level of control over you. Every time you break the silence, it reinforces their ego and tells them that you are still hooked.In this episode, we discuss:The Ego Boost: Why your "checking in" text is considered the ultimate validation.The Silent Treatment: How narcissists use your own anxiety against you to force a submission.Winning the Waiting Game: Why staying silent is the only way to regain your power.The Reverse Hoover: How they bait you into "hoovering" yourself.Stop playing their game by their rules. Learn how to hold your ground and understand what is actually happening on the other side of that silent phone screen.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
31 Joulu 202513min
The 3 Words Every Narcissist Fears (Why "I Am Leaving" Changes Everything)
What happens in the mind of a narcissist when they realize they’ve finally lost control? In this episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) reveals the three words that strike the most fear into a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): "I am leaving."For most people, these words signify a breakup. For a narcissist, they signify the end of a power dynamic, the loss of supply, and the onset of "narcissistic injury." Lee breaks down why this specific phrase is so terrifying and how it often triggers the most desperate "Hoovering" attempts.In this episode, we explore:The Core Fear: Why the threat of abandonment is a narcissist's "kryptonite."The Power Shift: What happens to the dynamic when you stop being a source of supply.Manipulation Tactics: How narcissists use "Future Faking" and guilt to stop you from walking out the door.The "Discard" vs. Being Left: Why it’s different when you choose to go first.If you are looking for the strength to leave or trying to understand why your exit triggered such a massive reaction, this episode provides the perspective you need to stay strong.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
29 Joulu 202513min
The Secret Thought Process of a Narcissist during an Argument
This episode explores the thought process of `narcissists` during arguments, revealing their true intentions. We discuss how they maintain `emotional control` and what runs through the `mind of a narcissist` when you're upset. Understanding this can help navigate these challenging `relationships`.Coaching and Courses available at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
26 Joulu 202512min
They Are Going To Ruin Christmas! Preparing For The Holidays With a Narcissist
Welcome to the MENTAL HEALNESS PODCAST! This episode explores how `narcissists` can impact your `christmas` experience. We discuss strategies for navigating the `narc season` and preventing them from `ruining holidays`. This is especially important if you are in a `toxic relationship` with one. Coaching and Courses available at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
24 Joulu 202512min
Why Some Narcissistic Parents Are Ashamed Of Their Own Children
Did you know that there are a lot of toxic, narcissistic parents that become ashamed of their own kids. This is the pov of a diagnosed narcissist. Coaching and Courses available at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
22 Joulu 202513min
What was it like falling in love for the first time as a narcissist
Y'all, today we're talking about What was it like falling in love for the first time as a narcissist? My first love story is a doozy. Coaching and Courses available at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
22 Joulu 202513min
I Have To Fight My Own Narcissistic Traits Everyday
Y'all, today we're discussing how I have to fight my own nature as someone with narcissistic personality disorder. Coaching and Courses available at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
21 Joulu 202512min
