Master Your Marriage29 Maalis 2023

What's the #1 Relationship Poison?

Have you ever felt put down, mocked, belittled, shamed, or called names in what you thought was a 'loving' relationship? Or have you perhaps been guilty of sarcasm, eye-rolling, and passive-aggressive communication that has slowly poisoned a relationship that you didn't mean to?

Sharla and Robert are discussing the number one predictor for a divorce: contempt. Once this poison sets in, divorce, on average, happens in about 6 years. Trust us, you're going to want to listen to this episode to the end to fix this problem and save your relationship.

Was contempt a part of the way your family communicated growing up? Do you know that you're being triggered by the person you love but feel incapable of change? Solutions are at hand in this sublime episode of Master Your Marriage that takes contempt by the scruff of its neck and empathetically shows you how to overcome those feelings with five easy steps.

"Contempt is the kiss of death for a relationship." ~ Sharla Snow

In This Episode:

- Understanding contempt as the 'sulfuric acid' of relationships

- Examples of contempt in everyday relationships

- How contempt leads to more contempt – and defensiveness

- What to do when contempt starts as an automatic reaction to an issue

- What helped Sharla overcome her contempt? A process of empathy

- Five steps to help overcome your own contempt

And so much more!

Resources:

-Overcoming Contempt Cheatsheet

- 8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage

- MYM 8-Week Coaching Program - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/MYM423

- Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

- Website: http://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/

- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/

- Facebook - http://facebook.com/masteryourmarriage

- TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

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