Master Your Marriage31 Tammi 2024

The Power of Co-Regulation For Healing Your Relationship

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou

One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is a calm nervous system. That’s what co-regulation is: The way in which one person's nervous system influences another person's nervous system, creating a sense of safety and soothing.

Co-regulation can be medicine for an activated, stressed-out nervous system, and as a result, it can create tremendous safety in relationships.

But it’s different from codependency – we’re not just counting on our partners to control how we feel. Instead, we use the strength that co-regulation gives us to self-regulate for longer periods of time.

Tune in for practical ideas to co-regulate with your partner. Even if your partner isn’t into all of this, there are things YOU can do to improve your relationship dynamic.

“When little people are overwhelmed with big emotions, it is our job to share our calm, not join in their chaos.” L.R. Knost

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Polyvagal Theory - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3108032/#:~:text=The%20polyvagal%20theory%20proposes%20that,substrates%20for%20adaptive%20behavioral%20strategies
Recommended Reading: https://a.co/d/9sZ0gv5

MYM Resources:

8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars
Become FREE of resentment ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

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