131. Sarah #40: Doing Your Personal Best

131. Sarah #40: Doing Your Personal Best

Sarah acknowledges being in a constant battle with herself because of how she wants to hear feedback from others for things she has done. She has a hard time accepting praise; and, she doesn't mind constructive criticism if it helps her grow. Doug helps her make sense of getting comfortable without having feedback be the validation. Doug and Kenzie break down external versus internal validation and the drive to be perfect versus doing your personal best. They discuss what it is to be good enough and how "meets expectations" isn't a negative thing. Striving for perfection is about doing your best, which can be "good enough" if we allow it to be. However, many of us feel that we're not doing enough unless something is done perfectly, especially when there's a historical experience of criticism and an internal voice in our head constantly criticizing us. What does doing your personal best mean to you? Can that be good enough or does it need to be perfect? Doug's Group Therapy Practice YMB Webpage Join us on Social Media:

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78. Sarah #15: Trauma is a Radioactive Spider That Bites

78. Sarah #15: Trauma is a Radioactive Spider That Bites

We explore Sarah's conditioning from her upbringing in the Children of God cult. "Trauma is a radioactive spider that bites." It can lead you to develop powers of protection and systems of safety for ...

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77. Sarah #14: Systems of Safety

77. Sarah #14: Systems of Safety

We explore the "systems of safety" that Sarah developed as a child growing up in a cult to protect herself because no one else did. We can thank those defense mechanisms for doing such a good job of p...

6 Tammi 20221h 11min

76. Drew #69: Being in the Solo Dolo

76. Drew #69: Being in the Solo Dolo

Doug and Drew explore the idea that being solo is not just not about being alone or lonely. Drew is finding his confidence and strength in life outside of a relationship instead of making that one per...

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75. Drew #68: Smoke & Mirrors

75. Drew #68: Smoke & Mirrors

Drew explores what it means to experience life solo rather than go through his separation feeling lonely or alone. He and Doug talk about learning to balance the fairy tale, fantasy world version of l...

16 Joulu 202151min

74. Sarah #13: A Quest For Justice

74. Sarah #13: A Quest For Justice

Sarah feels righteous anger about a coworker that was let go. Doug helps her see that it's a trigger for her own traumatic past when people in power abuse that power and wrong others. When it's on som...

16 Joulu 202157min

73. Drew #67: I Never Heard of a Chocolate Milkshake Being So Deep

73. Drew #67: I Never Heard of a Chocolate Milkshake Being So Deep

Drew continues the process of individuation. He sees that sharing his life with his mom is now a function of him being proud of himself, not him looking to her for reassurance and self-worth. Drew ack...

9 Joulu 202154min

72. Sarah #12: When You Realize You're Not 30 Anymore

72. Sarah #12: When You Realize You're Not 30 Anymore

Sarah felt validated and valued at work this week after a triggering annual review last week. Doug and Sarah explore how what she calls nonsense can make perfect sense to others. They break down issue...

9 Joulu 20211h 12min

71. Drew #65-66: One Foot Out the Door

71. Drew #65-66: One Foot Out the Door

Drew got emotionally triggered after a recent funeral for a friend from back home. Then he made a surprise visit to his parents for his mom's birthday. Doug fills us in on what we missed in both Drew'...

2 Joulu 202150min

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