138. Drew #102: I Don't Want to Become My Mom

We explore Sarah's conditioning from her upbringing in the Children of God cult. "Trauma is a radioactive spider that bites." It can lead you to develop powers of protection and systems of safety for ...

13 Tammi 20221h 5min

We explore the "systems of safety" that Sarah developed as a child growing up in a cult to protect herself because no one else did. We can thank those defense mechanisms for doing such a good job of p...

6 Tammi 20221h 11min

Doug and Drew explore the idea that being solo is not just not about being alone or lonely. Drew is finding his confidence and strength in life outside of a relationship instead of making that one per...

27 Joulu 202156min

Drew explores what it means to experience life solo rather than go through his separation feeling lonely or alone. He and Doug talk about learning to balance the fairy tale, fantasy world version of l...

16 Joulu 202151min

Sarah feels righteous anger about a coworker that was let go. Doug helps her see that it's a trigger for her own traumatic past when people in power abuse that power and wrong others. When it's on som...

16 Joulu 202157min

Drew continues the process of individuation. He sees that sharing his life with his mom is now a function of him being proud of himself, not him looking to her for reassurance and self-worth. Drew ack...

9 Joulu 202154min

Sarah felt validated and valued at work this week after a triggering annual review last week. Doug and Sarah explore how what she calls nonsense can make perfect sense to others. They break down issue...

9 Joulu 20211h 12min

Drew got emotionally triggered after a recent funeral for a friend from back home. Then he made a surprise visit to his parents for his mom's birthday. Doug fills us in on what we missed in both Drew'...

2 Joulu 202150min