179. Finding Positive in Negative Emotions: Communication, Happiness & Wellbeing

A double definition of happiness — and how to cultivate both parts.

The new year gives us an opportunity to reflect on who we are and who we want to be. As we set resolutions and prepare for evolutions, this special four-part series on communication, happiness, and well-being explores practical ways to enhance our lives through better communication, deeper connections, and more meaningful choices.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to happiness, but according to Laurie Santos, everyone needs the two key components of contentment and fulfillment — or as she puts it, being happy in your life and happy with your life.

“Being happy in your life [means] your life is filled with joy,” explains Santos, a Yale psychology professor and host of The Happiness Lab podcast. This felt sense of happiness — enjoying where we are, what we do, and who we’re with — is essential, but it’s not the only piece of the puzzle. Being happy with your life, she says, is the belief that “your life is going well. Being happy with your life gets closer to things like fulfillment and purpose.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Santos joins Matt Abrahams to explore how to cultivate both sides of her happiness equation, from building deeper connections with others to transforming the ways we communicate with ourselves.

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Episode Reference Links:

• Laurie Santos
• The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos | Podcast

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Chapters:

• (00:00) - Introduction
• (02:08) - Defining Happiness
• (03:21) - The Role of Negative Emotions
• (04:54) - Balancing Negative and Positive Emotions
• (05:45) - Positive Communication
• (07:18) - Improving Self-Talk
• (09:50) - Deepening Conversations
• (11:04) - Navigating Difficult Conversations
• (12:39) - The Power of Gratitude
• (15:15) - Technology and Wellbeing
• (18:33) - The Final Three Questions
• (22:35) - Conclusion

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