The Art of Nurturing Boys :: David Thomas [Ep 119]

The Art of Nurturing Boys :: David Thomas [Ep 119]

I’m not a boy. Yet I’m raising four of them to be men.

And as much as culture tries to tell us there aren’t differences between boys and girls. My every day experience begs to differ. I truly don’t understand the “why” behind most of my boys’ choices. And it never benefits me to ask.

This week (for my own help and maybe yours too) I’ve invited David Thomas on the show. As a family therapist and director at DayStar Counseling Center in Nashville, David has lots of experience counseling families and children. Having his own set of twin boys has provided a lot of education as well.

The first book I ever read that gave me a glimpse into the mind of a boy is David’s book “Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys”**. Then I heard him speak at a DotMom event and I’ve always wanted to have him on the show.

Our conversation did not disappoint. David’s genteel manner and calm approach gave me such peace. Afterwards I felt encouraged and equipped to not only “handle” my boys but enjoy their uniqueness.

David answered a slew of questions I received on Facebook from listeners. But a theme emerged in each topic we covered: outlets and boundaries. David would point out a need boys have and how we as moms could provide a proper outlet for that need. But he also gave great instruction on how to train on boys in regulation, by setting boundaries on where and when those needs can be met.

If you are a boymom, get ready to be set free from a lot of guilt over “why your boy does that”. And given some practical ideas to help create places and times in your family’s schedule to let “boys be boys” but not allow that phrase to be an excuse for unkind or inappropriate behavior.

If you’re not a boymom, I hope this will still be an entertaining episode to help you understand your husband, nephews, friend’s son. And stay tuned because I’m working with David’s partner Sissy Goff to record a “Raising Girls” episode this fall. (Of course, feel free to share this episode with any boymom friends you have. . .they will thank you!).

What we chat about:
  • When and how to let boys rough-house/wrestle
  • How “Stage One boys” (ages 1 to 4 years old) express love with aggression.
  • Providing an outlet and training regulation and respect.
  • How to help our boys who feels things deeply (the ones often labeled as ‘sensitive’).
  • Giving boys ways to process emotions with space and physical outlets.
  • Helping boys hear our directions and respond to us.
  • Taking advantage of how boys are hardwired visually.
  • How to handle when boys talking about private parts, farting, etc.
  • 4 & 14 year old boys and their testosterone surges.
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My Kid Saw Porn, Now What? :: Mandy Majors [Ep 428]

My Kid Saw Porn, Now What? :: Mandy Majors [Ep 428]

What would you do if your kid told you they saw porn? What would you do if you discovered porn on your child’s device?  My guest this week is mom and founder of NextTalk, Mandy Majors. Her daughter was exposed to pornography at age 9 at school and she didn’t see it on a cell phone. That was a wake-up call moment for Mandy and she made it her goal to teach other parents how to talk through the quickly changing digital world.  Fast forward 10 years and NextTalk is spreading the message of fostering real relationships between parents and kids - the kind where both parties can talk about those awkward or taboo subjects freely. Mandy encourages us that if we do our best to create a safe place of open communication between us and our kids there isn’t a tech situation we can’t face together.   Connect with Mandy Majors:  Website:  https://nexttalk.org/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nextTalk  Instagram:  @nexttalkorg  Podcast: https://nexttalk.org/podcast/  Links Mentioned:   Chris McKenna and Protect Young Eyes  Kristen Jenson and Defend Young Minds Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids by Kristen A. Jenson Fight the New Drug  Related Episodes: Creating Digital Safe Spaces :: Chris McKenna [Ep 360]  Braving the Tech Landscape Through Connection :: Chris McKenna [Ep 424] Porn-Proofing Our Kids :: Kristen Jenson [Ep 256] Pornography :: Jimmy and Josh Myers of Pairadocs Podcast [Ep 162] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

11 Syys 202351min

Finding Courage to Speak Up When You’re Not OK :: Kristen Glass [Ep 427]

Finding Courage to Speak Up When You’re Not OK :: Kristen Glass [Ep 427]

Who do you call when it feels like your world is falling apart? Do you share your struggles with trusted friends or is it hard to open up about what is going on in your life?  Toward the end of her first marriage Kristen Glass broke a habit she’d had for years - struggling silently. For years she suffered alone, carrying shame for her actions and circumstances that left her feeling condemned and isolated. All that changed one weekend in Utah when she found the courage to tell a friend her story. That simple act of speaking up freed her to see the truth of who God made her to be and His great love for her. Join me for her story that has dark times and places but is also filled with the hope of redemption and restoration that only God can bring.  Connect with Kristen Glass:  Email:  gypsysoulinteriors@gmail.com  Related Episodes: Walking Through Divorce :: Lara Williams [Ep 324] Forgiving What You Can’t Forget :: Lysa TerKeurst [Ep 304] Good Boundaries and Goodbyes :: Lysa TerKeurst [Ep 387] Coping Mechanisms, Recovery, and Codependency :: Taylor Bashta [Ep 275] Sinners Married to Sinners - How God Refines Us :: Cheryl Scruggs and Jae Carpenter [Ep 195] Rebuilding From an Abusive Marriage :: Jeni B [Ep 246] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

4 Syys 202354min

Sidetracked with Cynthia and Heather [Ep 426]

Sidetracked with Cynthia and Heather [Ep 426]

Is Back-to-School time a mini fresh-start for you? With all the fresh supplies we get a chance to think again about who we want to be and what our daily life can look like.  Get sidetracked with Cynthia and me this week as we discuss rhythms we are creating for the fall. Cynthia discovers AI and we talk habits, opening our homes for connection, scrapbooking for our younger selves, and new business ventures!  Connect with Cynthia Yanof:  Website:  https://cynthiayanof.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cynthia.yanof  Instagram:  @cynthiayanof  Links Mentioned:   Book a Mahjong training party with Heather and Amber  @Mad4Mahj  Leanne Morgan  Nate Bargatze  Kevin James  Related Episodes: Previous episodes with Heather and Cynthia Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

1 Syys 202343min

Cultivating a Healthy Relationship with Tech :: Joey Odom [Ep 425]

Cultivating a Healthy Relationship with Tech :: Joey Odom [Ep 425]

Maybe you’ve wondered if you are addicted to your phone? Or if your kids are addicted to their devices? Is addicted the right word to use?  Between work and school and life it is nearly impossible to live without some screen interaction, but what if we could change our relationship with our screens? What if they are not something we are powerless against, but something we can put in their proper places?  My guest this week is dad and entrepreneur, Joey Odom. His own missed moments as a dad served as the impetus for changing his relationship with his phone and creating a system to help us do the same. His encouragement and creativity help us give ourselves (and our spouses and kids) grace and tools to shape our time spent with and away from screens.  Connect with Joey Odom:  Website:  https://www.goaro.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/goaronow/  Instagram:  @goaronow  Links Mentioned:   Troomi Phone    Related Episodes: The Screen Struggle is Real :: Arlene Pellicane [Ep 331] Time and Space for Flourishing in a Tech World :: Andy Crouch [Ep 208]  Creating Digital Safe Spaces :: Chris McKenna [Ep 360]  Braving the Tech Landscape Through Connection :: Chris McKenna [Ep 424]  Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

28 Elo 202342min

Braving the Tech Landscape Through Connection :: Chris McKenna [Ep 424]

Braving the Tech Landscape Through Connection :: Chris McKenna [Ep 424]

What are your digital fears? What are the things you are afraid will happen if your child interacts with technology regularly?  We all have digital fears to varying degrees, but anxiety isn’t our friend when it comes to strategies to keep our kids safe in the digital landscape. My guest this week is CPA turned tech expert Chris McKenna, founder of Protect Young Eyes, an organization devoted to keeping kids safe in digital spaces. Chris has a great set of tools to help us protect our kids in their digital spaces and it all starts with connection with them. He encourages us to be transparent and honest with our children regarding tech as well as giving us concrete steps and tools that help us stay informed and create protective layers for our kids.  Connect with Chris McKenna:  Website:  https://protectyoungeyes.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/protectyoungeyes/  Instagram:  @protectyoungeyes  Links Mentioned:   Bone Marrow Registration Drive---Aug 27th 9:30 to 3pm Park Cities Baptist Church (activities building) 3933 Northwest Pkwy.  Gryphon Router  Bark Digital Parental Controls and Phone Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability  Gabb Phones use code DMALONE Protect Young Eyes Ultimate Guide to YouTube for Caregivers   Related Episodes: Creating Digital Safe Spaces :: Chris McKenna [Ep 360] Time and Space for Flourishing in a Tech World :: Andy Crouch [Ep 208] A Lil Help with Boys and  Screen Time :: David Thomas [bonus] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

21 Elo 202349min

Beating Expectations :: Cynthia and Heather [Ep 423]

Beating Expectations :: Cynthia and Heather [Ep 423]

We’re baaaaaack! How was your summer? Maybe you're like us...a little laughing, crying and even vacation freak-outs. Around here you're never alone. Listen in for a fun conversation with our friend Cynthia Yanof as we chat about summer adventures and the transition to Fall.  We’re talking about expectations as moms. How sometimes things turn out better than expected and other times we grieve the loss of what we thought would be. We discuss surrendering long-held family traditions to embrace what God has next for your family. And, listen closely for a special announcement for Fridays in the fall!  Connect with Cynthia Yanof:  Website:  https://cynthiayanof.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cynthia.yanof  Instagram:  @cynthiayanof  Podcast: MESSmerized  Links Mentioned:   Essential Bob Ross Videos (to calm your kids down!) Lahaina GoFund Me  Heather’s ideas for free experiences in Maui Cynthia’s husband flipping of his bike after going up a ramp Related Episodes: Summer of Mentorship series with Cynthia Yanof

18 Elo 202339min

Back-to-School & Tech Toolkit  :: Dr. Kelly Jameson [Ep 422]

Back-to-School & Tech Toolkit :: Dr. Kelly Jameson [Ep 422]

What helped you feel ready for a new school year as a kid? All the supplies purchased and organized? The perfect first-day outfit?  What helps you feel ready for school now, as a mom? How can you advocate for your kids and support their teachers? My guest this week is Dallas-based therapist and speaker Dr. Kelly Jameson. She shares a great set of tools to help us advocate for our children and interact well with teachers and school staff. She also shares her wisdom and experience on how to parent well through our ever-changing technology landscape.  Connect with Dr. Kelly Jameson:  Website: https://drkellyjameson.com/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kellyjamesonPhD/  Instagram:  @DrKellyJameson  Links Mentioned:    Accommodations Sheet Template  Donation for aid to Lahaina Families Related Episodes: How to Stay Calm With School Stress :: Kirk Martin [Ep 88]  Supporting Students with Dyslexia :: Kerri Irvin [Ep 317] Creating Digital Safe Spaces :: Chris McKenna [Ep 360] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

14 Elo 202349min

The Worry-Free Parent :: Sissy Goff [Ep 421]

The Worry-Free Parent :: Sissy Goff [Ep 421]

What percentage of the anxiety you feel comes from parenting?  We are often most anxious about the things we care most about. That is normal! We love our kids and want to nurture and protect them, but we know anxiety isn’t helping us. My guest this week is counselor and parenting expert Sissy Goff. Her new book,  The Worry-Free Parent, is designed to help us recognize how anxiety makes its way into our everyday lives,  process it in healthy ways rather than passing it along to our kids, and connect more deeply and more freely with our kids.   Connect with Sissy Goff:  Website:  https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisingboysandgirls/?ref=hl  Instagram:  @raisingboysandgirls  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@raisingboysandgirls  Podcast: Raising Girls and Boys Podcast  Links Mentioned:    The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff  Related Episodes: Getting Brave About Anxiety :: Sissy Goff [Ep 311] Raising Emotionally Strong Boys :: David Thomas [Ep 368] The Window of Tolerance :: Charissa Fry [Ep 260] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

7 Elo 202345min

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