270. The psychology of male-female friendships

When we experience healthy love for the first time after years of unsettling, unhealthy, toxic relationships, one of the first reactions we can have is "why does this feel so boring?" Often we confuse safety with a lack of passion, or assume that just because this person doesn't activate our nervous system, we are missing the spark. This is often left over from past relationships where we have confused anxiety with excitement.  In this episode, we bring on Sarah Yudkin, the founder of You Love and You Learn to break down the relationship anxiety that comes with experiencing healthy love for the first time and how to dissect your relationship OCD, the unconscious ways we sabotage relationships and all that comes with it. Listen now.    Sarah's website: https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/  Follow Sarah on Instagram: @youloveandyoulearn Follow the Podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

22 Joulu 202341min

As the holiday season approaches so does the expectation to start seeing family, including difficult family members who you would rather avoid. In today's episode we are joined by Alexis Fernandez, the host of the show Do You F***ing Mind, to gain a better understanding of how we can navigate those who we may be related to by blood but have a hard time being around, including:  Narcissistic parents and in laws Jealous family members  Family members with political differences  Depressed parents Compulsive liars and gossips Critical and judgemental family members  The argument starters and energy vampires We also provide tips for setting boundaries and actually sticking with them, the courage to stand up for yourself, how to have difficult conversations, knowing when enough is enough and how to walk away, alongside much more. As the holiday season approaches, we are sending you love and strength.   Listen to Do You F*cking Mind with Alexis Fernandez https://bit.ly/dyfm-pod . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow The Psychology of your 20s: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Joulu 202345min

Impulse shopping in an experience we've all had, the feeling of buying something you know you don't really need, but you want it desperately in the moment. Often during this decade we begin earning "adult money" for the first time and that means we can begin spending as a way to emotional regulate. Had a bad day? Buy a new pair of shoes. Been through a breakup? Shopping spree. There are so many ways that companies encourage this behaviour through flash sales and low stock sales, creating a sense of urgency and getting us to spend. So, in today's episode we break down the psychology behind impulse shopping and retail therapy.  We are joined by Alex from the hit podcast, Two Broke Chicks, to provide us with the dos and don'ts of shopping and overspending in our 20s, breaking down the emotions behind buyers remorse, and how to be wiser with your money during this decade.  Follow Two Broke Chicks: https://www.instagram.com/twobrokechicks/?hl=en  Follow Alex: https://www.instagram.com/alexhourigan/?hl=en  Listen to Two Broke Chicks: https://open.spotify.com/show/3d4z5FXeXAtmmP6DPhkpzw?si=aefc278962e64b1b  Follow The Psychology of your 20s: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow Jemma: @jemmasbeg   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Joulu 202356min

We all know the feeling of going on a few dates with someone and, suddenly, you're unable to stop checking your phone for messages, wondering when they're free, imagining the wedding, your future kids. And then we are left depleted, ghosted or disappointed. This is what happens when we romanticise the idea of someone, engage in fantasy bonding and it can often end up sabotaging the relationship. In today's episode we are joined by the wonderful Lyss Boss, host of the Date Yourself Instead podcast to break down how we can take things slow and not get caught up in the idea of someone before we truly know them. Listen now.    Follow Lyss: @lyss Listen to Date Yourself Instead here: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ie2ywivlNvFCO8LLJYgo7?si=7f7b358f090c4c28  Follow me: @jemmasbeg Follow us on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Joulu 202345min

Often when we think about sex, we only think about the physical. We only think about the other person's enjoyment or what sex should  look like rather than what it could look like. Many of us have a very outdated understanding of what good, even great sex feels like and even less of an idea around how to achieve greater levels of pleasure and intimacy. In today's episode, we bring on the incredible Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio erotica app, Dipsea to discuss how we can use story telling, fantasy, self exploration and mental imagery to have better sex in our 20s. We uncover the psychology behind why we love romance novels, how libido and desire changes (and improves) as we reach our 30s and some of the outdated, misconceptions about sex that we need to debunk. Listen now!    For 30 days of Dipsea for FREE follow this link: https://www.dipseastories.com/PSYCH20  Download Dipsea here: https://www.dipseastories.com/  Follow The Psychology of your 20s: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/       See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

8 Joulu 202350min

Confidence truly is the secret to a better life: better friendships, better self esteem, better dates, better romance, better career success. Today, we are joined by the iconic, Tiff Baira known best for her show "Street Hearts NYC", her role as a matchmaker and model, as we explore how having certainty in your worth is the key to your dream life.  We break down the equation for true, undeniable confidence, treating confidence as a skill you can strengthen and train, the truth behind "fake it till you make it", learning to reject those who aren't capable of seeing your value and the changes you will begin to notice in your life. Listen now!  Follow Tiff on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffbaira/?hl=en  Follow Tiff on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tiffbaira?lang=en  Follow The Psychology of your 20s: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/       See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5 Joulu 202340min

In 2021, Ellie Middelton received a diagnosis of ADHD and autism at the age of 23. It was one of the best things that happened to her. Today, she joins us to discuss why neurodivergence is typically overlooked in women, the misconceptions we have about ADHD and autism, unmasking and how to navigate a diagnosis later in life. She also discusses how to manage neurodivergence in our 20s, why self diagnosis is valid, and why the path people want you to take, may not always be the one for you. Listen now!  Follow Ellie here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemidds/?hl=en  Purchase Ellie's book, Unmasked: https://www.amazon.com.au/Unmasked-Ultimate-Guide-Autism-Neurodivergence/dp/0241651980  Follow The Psychology of your 20s here: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1 Joulu 202351min

Do you ever feel like you need to be perfect, that you are responsible for the emotions of others, you’re the organiser in the friendship group, highly self reliant, an overachiever, constantly being told your mature for your age? I would make a good guess that you are the eldest daughter.  In today's episode we break down the psychology behind 'eldest daughter syndrome' and how birth order and gender combines to create a certain personality profile and way of behaving and seeing the world. We explore ideas around:  Birth order theory Parentification  The mental load  Friendships between first borns and last borns Delayed teenage rebellion  Role modelling theory  Daughtering  We also share tips for healing and taking care of yourself as the eldest daughter, especially in our 20s. Listen now.  Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg  For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

28 Marras 202342min