270. The psychology of male-female friendships

Dr David Rosmarin is an Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School and the founder of the Centre for Anxiety. Today he joins us on the podcast to discuss how we are getting anxiety WRONG as we break down a new approach to managing our anxiety, rather than approaching it with fear. For anyone who is anxious or has battled anxiety in their 20s and beyond, join us for a vulnerable conversation of how anxiety may actually be your superpower and how it has even created stronger relationships for me, personally. Listen now.  Buy Thriving With Anxiety, Dr Rosmarin's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Thriving-Anxiety-Tools-Make-Your/dp/1400327857/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1698370899&refinements=p_27%3ADavid+H.+Rosmarin&s=books&sr=1-1  Follow Dr Rosmarin: https://www.instagram.com/dhrosmarin/  Follow The Psychology of your 20s: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

27 Loka 202336min

Today we're having a candid chat about how I'm going. How I'm really going! We discuss imposter syndrome, why I've been putting way too much pressure on myself as of late and in the lead up to 2024 and why that has manifested in some serious burnout and illness (don't mind my Covid voice). I also break down my struggles with being disliked, particularly online and how we can manage and redirect the opinions of others to ensure they do not interrupt our journey to being our most authentic selves. Listen now for a candid catch up, all my love, Jem x  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

24 Loka 202335min

Putting off a task to the last minute might feel good in the moment, but it often leads to a lot of long term consequences and stress. In today's episode we discuss the psychology behind why we procrastinate. Procrastination is often confused with laziness and poor time management, but its so much more than that. Many of us are chronic procrastinators because of factors like:  Boredom Perfectionism and overthinking  Poor impulse control  The pleasure principle Anxiety regulation Enjoying the urgency, adrenaline and pressure of doing things last minute  We break down all those causes of procrastination, alongside my SIX crucial tips for managing your chronic procrastination, from chunking, to the 80/20 rule, self imposed deadlines and using social accountability. Listen now!  Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Follow Jemma on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Loka 202335min

Our relationship with food is so much more psychological then it appears to be, and the evidence for that can be seen with emotional eating. Sometimes we eat as a way to process or regulate our emotions, rather than from actual hunger. This can disrupt our relationship with food and lead us to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms. In today's episode, we discuss:  The psychology behind emotional eating Why we emotionally eat The impact of our hormones and stress response  How diet culture is putting food in control  The truth about intuitive eating  Tips to manage your emotional eating And more!  I also share my own journey with emotional eating and how my relationship with food has evolved in my 20s. Listen now. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Follow me on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s  For help: https://butterfly.org.au/?gclid=CjwKCAjwvrOpBhBdEiwAR58-3AO4fboC3MOLarMlVv5a-GZOaOwWQVSLDtvuPrq4qOLM0zJwFiWt2xoCsHQQAvD_BwE       See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Loka 202342min

You're dating someone new and suddenly, they show up to a date wearing crocs, or wear goggles to the beach and you get the ick. You immediately lose all attraction to them, you feel the immediate need to end the relationship, why is that? In this episode we break down some of the surprising psychology behind the ick, including the links to our intuition, emotional unavailability, rejection sensitivity and more, but also why the ick isn't always a death sentence. We also discuss why we voluntarily give ourselves the ick towards the people we're interested in and how we can use it to detach from people who may not be good for us. All of that and more! Listen now.  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

13 Loka 202332min

The post graduation blues can leave us feeling incredibly anxious, aimless and stuck, battling with the question of 'what next'? We are faced with a number of significant changes and transitions such as increasing distance between us and our friends, financial anxiety and having to make significant career decisions. All of this can culminate is a sense of choice overload and paralysis, but also a overwhelming sense of nostalgia to return back to the 'good old days'. In this episode, we break down exactly why you may be feeling lost after university and how to find a sense of meaning and purpose when it comes to post graduation life, and manage the career anxiety that comes with our 20s. Listen now!  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

10 Loka 202339min

Taylor Swift is possibly the most famous person in the world right now, beloved by millions, streamed by billions, her eras tour may have even saved the US economy. What is it about her as an artist, a celebrity and a person that is so uniquely captivating? How has she continued to reach new heights, new fans and achieve such career longevity? And why do so many of us feel an emotional connection to her and her music, despite never having met her?  In this episode we discuss all of the underlying psychology behind the success and obsession with Taylor Swift; not just as a musician, but as a brand and a business, maybe even a friend, including:  Parasocial relationships and celebrity worship syndrome The power of escapism and story telling  The psychology behind our music preferences  The formula for celebrity relatability and authenticity  In group and out groups  The impact of her 'eras' and use of easter eggs for creating novelty and newness for her fans, and Why we are so obsessed with celebrity gossip Taylor Swift is more than an artist. For many swifities, she is a lifestyle and an idol whose music has been a part of our lives since we were kids or teenagers, bookmarking certain chapters and milestones as we have grown up alongside her. Today, let's break down the psychology behind everything we love, and sometimes dislike about Taylor Swift.  Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/  Support my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5 Loka 202347min

We have all had that experience of feeling bored with our everyday life, whereby we look around and our daily experiences have lost some of the colour and excitement. Why is that the case? Psychology can provide some explanations including:  A lack of novelty and new experiences Seasonal affective disorder  Overstimulation from our phones and social media  Social comparison  The benefits of a dopamine detox We discuss all these reasons and more, as well as what we can do to change that! How can we break out of this boredom cycle and feel like our lives and everyday experiences are meaningful by embracing the beauty of an anti-routine, challenging ourselves to try new things once a week, keeping ourselves open to opportunities (even ones that are scary) or even trying a dopamine detox. Listen now for when life feels boring! Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  Our Patreon if you want to support the show: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

3 Loka 202332min