#420 Intimacy 2.0: Love and Dating in the Future

In this playful episode we talk all about what most doctors call erectile or sexual dysfunction (ED), but we prefer the term erectile control issues, and you will learn all about why we reframe it this way in this episode. Dr. Dubin also explains the statistics on erectile issues, his research with porn performers and the correlation between porn and erectile control, tips for working around this, as well as whether or not blue balls are a real thing. About our guest: Dr. Justin Dubin grew up in Wayne NJ and attended Johns Hopkins University for undergraduate school. He completed medical school at Rutgers Robert Wood Johnson and his urology residency training at the University of Miami. Currently, Dr. Dubin is completing his fellowship in Male Infertility and Sexual Medicine at Northwestern University and will be starting up as the Director of Men’s Health at Memorial Health Systems in Hollywood Florida. Dr. Dubin is passionate about men’s health and education with the goal of improving both the lives of men and their partners. He has published multiple papers on both male infertility and sexual health, has been quoted in the NY Times, Insider, and Men’s Health and is the current co-host of the men’s health podcast Man Up: A Doctor’s Guide to Men’s Health. LINKS: https://www.themanuppod.com/ https://www.instagram.com/justindubinmd/ https://twitter.com/justindubinmd https://linktr.ee/JustinDubinMD Want to join our free online Shameless Sex community on Discord (and maybe even connect with Amy and April on there from time to time? Go here: https://discord.gg/nvXqTEcBTg Other links: Get affordable online therapy now from the privacy of your own home + 10% off your first month when you go to betterhelp.com/shamelesssex Avoid the takeout temptation with ease (and yummy food that is good for you) + $40 your first shipment when you go to dailyharvest.com/shamelesssex Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

21 Kesä 20221h 8min

Layla Martin joins us once again to take back the word slut and own it as an empowering tool for becoming the ultimate sexy badass that is uniquely you in the bedroom. Whether you want to learn to worship a slut or goddess, or you want to dive deeper into that powerful part of you, Layla has plenty of juicy tips and tricks you won't want to miss. About our guest: Layla Martin is a visionary rebel who teaches on sexuality, relationships, and self-love to people across the globe. Her devoted study of Tantra for 18+ years along with her sexuality studies at Stanford University have informed her unique teaching process and the creation of her proprietary VITA™ Methodology. Her programs have taught over 12,500 women, men, and non-binary people her method of using breath, sound, movement, meditation, and energy awareness to awaken their sexuality and reclaim their power and worthiness. She is a thought leader who combines mystical practices with the most up-to-date scientific approaches to transformation to enable radical liberation, rapid change, and outrageous pleasure. Her highly effective programs, tools, and practices empower you to experience exquisite sex, shameless self-love, and incredible depths of intimacy. She’s the founder of the Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach (VITA™) and the creator of the VITA™️ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification, the VITA™ Sacred Sexuality Initiation, and other programs. She’s shared her work with over 135 million people through her YouTube channel and has a weekly email audience of 375,000+ people. If you want to experience epic sex, legendary love, and your most magnificent self, visit Layla’s website and follow her on Facebook and Instagram. Other links: Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Get 20% off of Manscaped's re-launched Ultra Smooth Package (+ free shipping!) with the code SHAMELESS at manscaped.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

14 Kesä 20221h 14min

In this episode we interview award-winning adult model, performer, sex educator and disability advocate GoAskAlex all about her experience in the adult film/porn industry. Alex got her start in 2014, and then a few years into her career she had a life-changing surgery resulting in a permanent disability. Alex shares her journey towards self-love and acceptance, as what it's like as she continues to work in adult film. More about our guest: GoAskAlex is an adult model, onscreen performer and sex educator with the distinction of being the industry’s first-ever ostomate since receiving a life-changing surgery in 2019: “my small intestine was diverted out through my abdomen, and I now wear a permanent medical device.” The auburn-haired British Columbia, Canada native - who launched her adult career in 2014 as a webcam model and online companion - has since taken the opportunity to use her high-profile platform to advocate for disabled and underrepresented bodies in adult media. GoAskAlex currently sits atop the 1% of content creators on OnlyFans, is a top attraction over at SuicideGirls.com and sells her original video clips on top sites such as ManyVids. iWantClips and Clips4sale. She has since been featured in XBIZ Magazine, posing for the cover as the trade publication’s first-ever model with an ostomy, as well as Hustler E-Magazine to promote her inspiring Disabled Sex Workers Calendar. She also won 2020’s XBIZ Cam Award for Best Inked Model and 2021’s XBIZ Best Cam Model. To learn more visit goaskalex.com Other links: Get 15% off and free shipping on the ultimate sexy Spring Box at likeakitten.com/shameless  Get up to $200 off your customized dream mattress + two free pillows at helixsleep.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

7 Kesä 20221h

What does being a sub mean, and how does this show up in sex? What if someone who identifies as a sub and wants their partner to be more dominant in the bedroom, how can they approach this? How can submissive folks stay in their identity or role while still initiating sex with their partners? Master teacher and return guest Orpheus Black addresses all this and so much more. Be sure to checkout Orpheus's upcoming 3 day workshop extravaganza on June 25, July 2, July 9. It is a hybrid class to be held in LA and streamed on Zoom. Plus you get 20% off with code Shameless1. Sign up here or visit his website at orpheusblack.com Also, if you want to join our free online Shameless Sex Discord community, sign up here: discord.gg/nvXqTEcBTg About our guest: Orpheus aims to propel the intellectual and sensual evolution of masculinity both by challenging men to reconnect with its roots and by inviting them to embrace manhood in its fullness, the way strong modern men wish it to be. In this role, he shares insights, offers tools, and speaks against societal norms of shame and repression. He does it all with the earnestness of a therapist, the knowledge of a guru, and the charisma of a stage performer.  With a helpful practice steeped in spirituality and intimacy, Orpheus is a living bridge between healthy sex and enlightenment. Through a balanced integration of Afro-Buddhism, psycho-sensuality, and Taoist teachings popularized by the martial arts, his light-hearted lessons have become sought after internationally, even as counsel to the experts in his field. As a result, many today look to him as the “coach’s coach”. For groups, couples and individuals looking for a deeper exploration of self, shadow, kink, dominance and submission Orpheus Black regularly provides guided lessons at world famous staples in the S&M community and offers private coaching sessions. Other links: Get $10 off your order of $50 or more on our favorite mouth-gasmic treats at milkbarstore.com/Shameless Get 20% off of Manscaped's re-launched Ultra Smooth Package (+ free shipping!) with the code SHAMELESS at manscaped.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

31 Touko 20221h

This episode is all about how to add more hotness and newness into your relationship. From exploring non-monogamy to kink to role-play, or just adding a little spice to your monogamous lover-ship, Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey has something to teach you. About our guest: Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is a clinical psychologist, sex/intimacy coach, author, speaker and podcast host based in London. With more than 30 years helping people create and sustain meaningful and exciting relationships, Dr. Bisbey specializes in GSRD (gender, sexuality, relationship diversity), is consensual non-monogamy and kink BDSM knowledgeable and helps traumatized people to move from victim to survivor and back into life. On a mission to create an open dialogue about sex, relationships, and self-expression, Dr Lori Beth is the specialist relationship therapist guiding couples on Open House: The Great Sex Experiment (Firecracker Films, Channel 4) and the host of the popular podcast The A To Z Of Sex®.She’s also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop/retreat facilitator, and sought after expert in the media on the topics of sex, relationship style, intimacy, and trauma. Dr. Bisbey is the author of Chopping Wood, Shaping Metal & Other Erotic Stories, Dancing the Edge to Reclaiming Your Reality: Essential Life Skills for Gaslighting (and Trauma) Survivors and Dancing the Edge to Surrender: An Erotic Memoir of Trauma and Survival, and identifies as a queer consensually non-monogamous leather woman, and is in a full-time authority transfer-based relationship with her husband. To learn more, visit DrLoriBethBisbey.com. Twitter.com/drbisbey Instagram.com/drbisbey Facebook.com/drloribethbisbey TikTok.com/@loribethuk https://the-a-to-z-of-sex.captivate.fm For links to some of our favorite sponsors, click here Other links: Get 15% off and free shipping on the ultimate sexy Spring Box at likeakitten.com/shameless  Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

24 Touko 202257min

Why is monogamy so hard for so many long-term partnerships? What are the “new models” for monogamy, and how can both monogamous and non-monogamous partner/s work together to recreate the relationship as a means for better sex and connection?  For Dr. Nelson's free 40 Questions to Start Your New Monogamy Agreement, check out our blog at shamelesssex.com or click here About our guest: Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a licensed psychotherapist, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Certified Imago Relationship Therapist. She is a TEDx speaker and the host of The Trouble with Sex podcast. Her books include Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, and her latest Open Monogamy. She is executive director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute and has been a featured expert in NY Times, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, RedBook, MSNBC, Men’s Health, Woman’s Day, and has been a source for Time Magazine.  Dr. Nelson draws on her 30 years of experience as a relationship and sex therapist to provide advice and tools for finding one’s place on the “monogamy continuum,” having honest and respectful communication, making relationship agreements, and more. To learn more or buy her book go to drtammynelson.com   Want to join our free online Shameless Sex community on Discord (and maybe even connect with Amy and April on there from time to time? Go here: https://discord.gg/nvXqTEcBTg We have a Never Have I Ever__! event coming up May 24th 530-630pm PST. Not only will Amy and April be there, but we are also giving away free passes to Amy's online Orgasm 101 class. Other links: Get affordable online therapy now from the privacy of your own home + 10% off your first month when you go to betterhelp.com/shamelesssex Avoid the takeout temptation with ease (and yummy food that is good for you) + $40 your first shipment when you go to dailyharvest.com/shamelesssex Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

17 Touko 202254min

Why is it so common for vulva-owners to experience pain during penetrative sex, and what are some of the solutions? What about hemorrhoids? Can people with hemorrhoids still explore and enjoy anal sex? And if so, what can they do to make it more pleasurable?  Trigger warning: We talk a lot about bowel movements AKA poop in this episode. But hey, everybody poops, right?  To learn more about our guest: Dr. Meredith Brezinski is a pelvic health and orthopedic physical therapist located in Portland, Oregon. Meredith provides one-on-one, in home, concierge physical therapy services which eliminates the stress of commuting to an appointment, hiring childcare, and worrying about sharing the intimate details of your story with an entire clinic. Dr. Meredith knows that every person has a story to share and having time with your provider is often the piece that is lacking in our traditional healthcare system. Meredith will help you determine the root cause of your symptoms, develop a plan for relief, and help you get back to what is most important - living your best life! Meredith also serves as the Director of Pelvic Health for Concierge Physical Therapists, a nationwide company, that offers all in home services to their clients. We have therapists in 14 different states in the US and continue to grow to more locations. If you are interested in finding a therapist near you, you can find out more info at www.conciergephysicaltherapists.com. Meredith received her Doctorate of Physical Therapy at University of Colorado Anschutz Medical Campus in 2016 following her Bachelor of Science in Exercises Physiology at West Virginia University in 2013. She has completed numerous courses specific to pelvic health through Herman and Wallace Pelvic Rehabilitation Institute.  Meredith loves everything outdoors and can be found hiking, backpacking, on the water, or hanging out with her dogs Luke and Leia. She lives with her husband Will in Portland Oregon. If you would like to contact Dr. Meredith, you can reach out with these links below! Website: www.drmeredithbrezinskipt.com Instagram: @dr.meredithbrezinskipt   Other links: Get 15% off and free shipping on the ultimate sexy Spring Box at likeakitten.com/shameless  Get 20% off of Manscaped's re-launched Ultra Smooth Package (+ free shipping!) with the code [SHAMELESS] at manscaped.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

10 Touko 20221h 3min

In this fun in-person recording we collaborate with two badass women - Natasha Root, the creator of the successful Fan's Utopia site where she sells porn performers used panties, sex toys and more - as well as Kenna James, an award winning adult star and model, as well 2016’s Penthouse Magazine Pet of the Year. While our main intention was to focus on the porn industry as well this lucrative business Natasha has created, we also somehow end up getting a free Anal 101 lesson as well. Enjoy! About our guests: Natasha Root is a Los Angeles Native and fashion executive-turned-entrepreneur. She is currently the Owner of the popular platform, Fans Utopia, which connects fans with their idols on a deeper level, while also enabling adult talent to earn the money they deserve. She began working nearly two decades ago at her dads autobody shop, which instilled her the go-getter attitude that has led her to where she is today. Prior to starting Fans Utopia, Natasha was a model, and held positions at Capitol Records, designing clothes for band’s tours, and a cobbler company where she repaired high-end fashion goods. As a former director of a cobbler company, she handled all business operations and quickly learned the ins-and-outs of product design and fashion. At 34 years old and nearly two decades of work experience, her unique background and go-getter attitude lead her to create her own ecommerce platform, Fans Utopia. She was no stranger to the porn industry, having grown up and lived in LA her whole life. Once she had an idea to start a platform to bring together their fans and idols there was no looking back. She brings to Fans Utopia decades of experience working in client service, fashion, and entertainment to the company. She turned what started out as a local, LA-based startup into an international company in no time. As the Owner of the company, she continues to lead all business operations and works closely with adult talent worldwide. She’s been featured in several times in Goop and well-known fashion blogs. To learn more visit https://fansutopia.com/   Kenna James is an award winning adult star and model, as well 2016’s Penthouse Magazine Pet of the Year. You can purchase items from her most famous scenes and live streams at fansutopia.com, and to see all of Kenna’s work visit kennasjoint.com. For her social links visit:  twitter.com/kennajames21 instagram.com/realkennajames   Other links: Get up to $200 off your customized dream mattress + two free pillows at helixsleep.com/shameless Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

3 Touko 20221h 11min