Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 504 Helmi 2025

The App That’s Saving Relationships (and Spicing Up Bedrooms) | Ep 81

Let’s cut to the chase: relationships are hard. And let’s be honest, keeping the spark alive? Even harder. Between work, life, and the endless to-do list, intimacy often takes a backseat. But what if there was a way to flip the script? A way to not just save your relationship but make it hotter, deeper, and more exciting than ever?

In this episode, I sit down with Nicholas Velotta, head of research at Couples Wellness for the app Arya.fyi and a PhD student at the University of Washington. We dive into the world of Arya.fyi, this incredible couples' wellness platform that’s all about helping partners explore and deepen their connection. Nicholas shares how Arya.fyi combines entertainment with education, offering everything from playful quizzes and customizable erotica to expert-led videos on topics like sensory play and even the history of kink. We also talk about how the app uses a mix of AI and human experts to guide users through personalized experiences. Ever felt nervous about bringing up a new idea with your partner? Or maybe you’ve struggled to find the right words to talk about what you want? Arya.fyi’s got your back, making those conversations easier and way less awkward.

So, why is this app the talk of the town? And could it be the missing piece your relationship has been waiting for? Let’s just say, your bedroom might thank you later. Let's dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) Introduction to Nicholas Velotta
(00:01:22) What is the Arya.fyi app?
(00:02:55) How couples find Arya.fyi
(00:06:18) The AI and human concierge
(00:07:34) Fun and educational activities on Arya.fyi
(00:10:57) 80% of users seek relationship advice
(00:12:47) Can technology enhance intimacy?
(00:14:36) The future of intimacy and technology
(00:17:42) Sensory play is the #1 request
(00:20:43) Sexual confidence and exploration
(00:21:49) The importance of safety in relationships
(00:23:31) AI in relationships: friend or foe?
(00:25:22) What is sex, really?
(00:26:34) The future of AI and human interaction

About the Guest:

Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist whose work examines the intersection of technology and IRL intimate relationships. As the Head of Relationship Research at one of the world's first "relationship wellness" apps, Arya, Nicholas develops psychological profiles of our intimate and erotic selves using a vast archive of user data. In addition to investigating the nuances of intimate relationships using never-before-available data, he crafts AI-enhanced algorithms to curate digital content and physical goodies that increase relationship satisfaction. Nicholas is also a Ph.D. student at the University of Washington who, somehow, finds time to post explainer videos on social media...as well as the occasional meme. :)

You can find Nicholas here:

Website

Arya: Intimacy Concierge for Couples' Connection

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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