The Exact Age A "Hot Mess" Is No Longer Cute
Mamamia Out Loud14 Helmi 2025

The Exact Age A "Hot Mess" Is No Longer Cute

Is it time we retired the 'loveable disaster' trope? With Bridget Jones returning to our screens — still chaotic as ever — we're asking why society gets uncomfortable when women don't grow out of their Hot Mess Era. When does burning the spag bol stop being endearing and start being... annoying?

Plus:

📚 Your next great read: Mia and Jessie share the books you'll want to add to your bedside table.
📺 Holly's comfort TV recco for when you need to switch off.

And in Best & Worst: Red carpet drama, epic tantrums, and a heated debate about Bunnings' sausage sizzle etiquette. 🌭

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