Ask Uncut - Can I Date My Late Husband's Friend?

Today’s episode is one that has been so highly requested over the years, we’re surprised it’s taken this long to talk about it! We’re talking about all things skin, skincare and myths about longevity. Joining us is Dr Natasha Cook, one of Australia’s leading dermatologists and the founder of her own skincare range DrNC. Dr NC is particularly straight forward when it comes to breaking down the facts vs the fads of skin. We want to chat about the things we all want to know but are too scared to ask — like whether saunas are secretly ageing us, if collagen supplements are a waste of money, and why so many Australian companies had their sunscreens pulled from the shelves because they weren't what they said they were! We speak about: The 6 key skin concerns. Most of us want to treat more than one. Should we prioritise skincare or nutrition? Dr NC’s answer to this might surprise you How much sugar and alcohol affects skin and can cause pimples Are collagen powders or gummies worth our money? Sleep - what products and routines help our skin If you’re serious about skin, saunas/hot yoga & pilates aren’t good Skin barriers & barrier function. What’s compromising the barrier? Botox - whether you get ‘used’ to it Perception drift and ‘preventative’ botox At home devices like LED lights, rollers, gua sha etc The “SPF Australia Scandal” and how these companies are avoiding Australian testing. Dr Cook “It is deceptive and misleading conduct.” How aerosol spray sunscreens are really misleading What lasers are best and will give the best results Dr NC’s ‘non negotiables’ You can find more from DrNC at her website including her dermatologist designed skincare You can follow DrNC on instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

20 Marras 49min

Hey Lifers! Laura’s whole extended friends and family have been taken down by various bugs and we all need to calm the heck down and stop socialising. Keeshia has another neighbourly gripe but also a new hobby and we just know you’re on the edge of your seat for the updates 😂What hobby did you succeed at and then bail on? Laura and Matt have celebrated their 3rd wedding anniversary by watching the finale of the Golden Bachelor. Laura shares some BTS of how you’re told to react if the Bachelor doesn’t choose you and she wants to celebrate Janette for not acting in the way that you’re ‘supposed’ to. Perhaps being in her ‘golden’ years has made her a lot wiser and have less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to. Should you fire someone if they were found to be cheating on their partner (as their boss)?Natalie Dawson, who is a CEO, went on Diary of a CEO podcast and shared her controversial take on firing employees that were having an affair. Whilst it’s probably not legal in Australia, how much should a company’s values extend into the personal lives of employees? Would it change your opinion if it was TWO employees of yours cheating together? Can You Spot AI In Videos? Are We So Used To Seeing Fake People On The Internet That We Don’t Know What Real Ones Look Like Anymore? Body confidence content creator @em_clarkson posted a video with 9.6 million views where she is in a bikini on the beach but as the video plays out, certain parts of her body change back and forth between her actual video and the AI version. Her hips move in and out, her skin colour changes and the texture becomes softer, her boobs become bigger and more perky etc. We speak about how AI has progressed to the point that we can’t spot it and whether we are so used to seeing ‘altered’ people online that we’ve forgotten what real people look like.We also speak about an article by Mary Madigan titled ‘Baffled by natural breasts’: Men have forgotten what real boobs look like written about Millie Bobby Brown’s natural cleavage on a red carpet promoting Stranger Things. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

18 Marras 49min

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. First up, an Aussie celeb has said that he loves dogs so much, he had two of them that passed away taxidermied. They live in his current house alongside his dog that is still alive. Would you ever taxidermy your pet? What’re your thoughts about Scotty’s stuffed pets?Vibes for the week:Keeshia - @Emilydbaker Britt - Chilli and Charli PJs Then we jump into your questions! SOMEONE TOLD MY DAUGHTER THEY’RE HER HALF SISTER - HELPOk strap in for this one. A little background I have a daughter, she’s 12 and in highschool. Her dad unfortunately was murdered and passed away 8 years ago, big trauma for both of us etc.. So fast forward to this week, my daughter has a friend at school. She's known her since primary school but they’ve gotten quite close this year. My daughter came home Wednesday and told me her friend told her a big secret and not to tell me or anyone else. This friend proceeds to tell my daughter that she’s her half sister because her mum used to be with my daughters dad’s best friend and when they were trying to get pregnant he couldn’t so my daughters dad “donated sperm”. Now while this sounds insane and like an episode of home and away, there were some key facts that were too correct to ignore, for one they knew the name of my daughters dad’s best friend so at a minimum they knew each other. After doing some digging I found out that this best friend had a kid with a woman who my daughter’s dad was friends with, and it was a girl and would be around the same age as my daughter. My question is WTAF do I do? I’ve given the school my details and asked them to pass it on to the mother because they won’t give me her details. Do I ignore this and move on? But I can’t, my daughter goes to school with this child. Also if it is true me and him would have been together at the time, either pregnant with our daughter or planning it when he “donated sperm” to someone and didn’t tell me. This has severely rocked my kid (she’s in therapy) but still. Help!! UNDERWHELMING PROPOSALMy partner recently proposed, and I wasn’t expecting anything big or over the top, just something thoughtful and meaningful. But the moment felt rushed, unplanned and unromantic, and now I feel disheartened and oddly disconnected. I dread when people ask the proposal story and I find myself embellishing it. I feel shallow for feeling this way, but I can’t shake it. Am I horrible? Should I tell him how I’m feeling, or is that unfair? I would really appreciate some guidance, because I feel guilty, confused and alone sitting with this. NORMAL TO THINK ABOUT EX?I am 32 and have been with my current partner for 5 years. We have always had a solid stable relationship and have a one year old baby boy together. I love my partner - he is very kind, loyal, and reliable. I feel safe and secure with him. He is a great dad and very committed to our family. However, our relationships lack intimacy/physical connection (has since before the baby) and it often feels like we are more friends and co parents. We rarely have sex and minimal kissing/cuddling. My ex and I were together for 6 years from 19-25 (so we broke up 8 years ago). I was deeply in love with him. We had a really strong connection and were absolutely crazy about each other. We had an amicable breakup because he had to move for work and we decided to go our separate ways. As hard as I’ve tried to move on, I still think about him often after 8 years (I’m so sick of it lol)! I find myself looking back on our relationship and longing for that connection we had. As much as I love my partner and our life together, I have this niggling feeling that my ex was the one/the loml /penguin etc and it makes me sad that I’m never going to feel that way again with my partner. Is this a common feeling to have? How do I finally get over my ex? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

16 Marras 48min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Marras 32min

Today’s guest is someone who defined an entire generation.As one-fifth of the most iconic girl group in history, the Spice Girls, she helped shape pop culture, redefine girl power, and influence how millions of young women saw themselves. Melanie C or Sporty Spice as many of us first knew her is a dancer, singer, songwriter, author, and performer whose career spans nearly three decades. Today we wanted to chat with Melanie about what that journey was really like behind the scenes, how she carved out her own path with her solo career, the various things she is doing now and what it meant to her to have such an impact on our culture.We chat: Mel being recognised during a medical appointment Recording her 9th studio album here in Australia Why Melanie feels connected to the Australian culture How Mel met her Aussie boyfriend How the Spice Girls started The brutality of the UK media and all of their phones being hacked How being so young in the public eye affected Mel and contributed to her having an eating disorder How the Spice Girls didn’t choose their own nicknames They love like sisters and bicker like sisters How Geri choosing to leave affected them all differently The Spice Girl that Melanie is now closest to Starting her solo career Whether they could all live off of royalties now and if they ‘choose’ to work You can find everything from Melanie including her new song ‘Sweat’ at her website You can follow Melanie on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

13 Marras 58min

Hey Lifers,Britt is struggling today. She’s come down with an illness and we are rolling the dice today.Laura’s on her first outing without Poppy at 6 weeks old and she’s learnt that she’s not the most considered or prepared parent. Laura and Keeshia have both been sent beautiful cards from listeners and we truly do have the best listeners in the world. However, Britt has checked with reception and nothing. No deliveries for Britt 😂 Britt had a sleepover at Keeshia’s house and has used products that were not meant for her.Is Oasis men’s Taylor Swift? The whole team was meant to go to the concert on the weekend but Keeshia ended up being the only one to make it and she’s never seen more affection or love be shared between millennial/Gen X men and she’s even been to football grand finals! The other day Britt shared how a friend of hers had accidentally text the guy she had been briefly dating instead of her friend telling him that there were "no hot men on the plane" and that she was disappointed. We asked what you accidentally sent and your stories did not disappoint! Shay Mitchell has launched a new children’s skincare brand called Rini that makes products like sheet masks for… 3 year olds. Shay has said that it was inspired by her own girls wanting to do ‘what mummy does’ with her face masks and that “Rini isn’t about beauty it’s about self-care.”We speak about whether we are living in the final stage of capitalism where children’s unblemished skin is an untapped market and the conditioning of beauty standards in kids. At what age do you think kids should be introduced to skincare beyond sunscreen and gentle cleanser? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Marras 48min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions! Britt wants Laura’s take on the now viral ‘fart’ response that our friend received after letting a date down. Laura’s been gifted something so beautiful from a lifer but they’ve left no info for her to be able to say thank you! Vibes for the week:Britt - Watching You on Stan Laura - DoHonest Baby Car Camera Then we jump into your questions! I’M NOT IN HIS HYPOTHETICAL FUTUREHey guys, just want your opinion on whether I'm reading too much into this! I've been with my bf for 10 months now. We met on Hinge and we're both in our early 30s. He is 2 years younger than me but we are both committed to a serious relationship. I've noticed that whenever he talks about future hypotheticals, he doesn't include me in them and often references a hypothetical woman in his future. For example, we were talking about my friend's upcoming wedding and he said "I think I would enjoy planning my wedding, I like being able to decide on things." I would've thought he would say "planning *our* wedding" since it would sound so much sweeter? Another example, we were talking about whether we wanted children and he said "I like the idea of kids but if hypothetically, I find out that my future wife is unable to have kids then I wouldn't be upset by it as I choose her over my desire for kids". Meanwhile I'm thinking so I'm not your future wife?? I'm worried that he doesn't see long term potential with me and hence doesn't include me in future scenarios. Am I overthinking this? I FOUND OUT MY BF IS SECRETLY WRITING A BOOK BASED ON OUR RELATIONSHIP AND I’M THE VILLAINI was looking on my bf’s laptop recently for some old photos and I saw a file titled ‘Novel’. I was curious, so I obvs looked. We have been together for years and aren't overly protective of our devices so this didn’t seem like a big deal. What I found has really confused and upset me. It’s a book he is writing (I know he likes to write but I didn’t even know he was writing a book) and it is basically a detailed account of our relationship... but with some added drama/fiction but he's made me the villain! WTAF!? I’m portrayed as a manipulative, narcissistic bitch, while his character is this amazing hero. I feel weird and betrayed. Do I have a right to say something, be angry, or is this just creative freedom and it means nothing? CHRISTMAS GIFTS ON SALEWe are in a family Christmas draw with the extended family, with the budget being $100 each. I always try to spend as close to $100 as possible, a few dollars over or under depending on what I can find. My question is…if you purchase something on sale (say Black Friday) do you pocket the savings or do you then buy something else to make up the difference? I think if I bought the person something that is originally $100 but on sale for $80 I should then buy something to go with it for $20 but my partner thinks because we have found the sale and the retail price is $100 that $20 savings is ours…what’s your thoughts on this petty argument?? THE REAPPEARING EXMy ex and I broke up about 18 months ago. It was rough. I was pretty blindsided. We were literally looking at rentals the day before he ended it. We had no contact for over a year, both dated other people, and I genuinely thought we’d never speak or see each other again. Then about six weeks ago, he reappeared (classic Instagram follow request) and since then, we’ve been chatting here and there. We’ve slept together three times, and we’ve both said we don’t want a relationship, but we’ve kind of slipped into a rhythm of seeing each other weekly. I don’t love him like I used to, but I’m self-aware enough to know this could be a slippery slope as I was so deeply in love with him at one point. I enjoy the comfort and familiarity, but I keep asking myself is this emotional maturity, or just a disaster waiting to happen? I’ve had to hide it from most of my friends. They were there through the breakup and have said they’d be really upset if I ever spoke to him again. I told one, and she said she was disappointed that she’d never do something like this if she was single. That really hurt, especially with me being the only single one in the group and they all have partners to go home to, while I’m single and sometimes lonely. Since that breakup, I’ve done a lot of work on myself. I see a therapist weekly and have spent real time understanding my patterns, boundaries, and emotional triggers. I'm not sleeping with him to get him back although I’ll never say never to what life brings. I’m not waiting by my phone, I don't text, and he’s the one driving an hour and a half to see me each time. The ball feels although it is in my court this time and that feels strangely healing. How do I approach this with my friends without feeling shamed/judged for making my own choices? Do I just continue to keep it quiet? And am I being naïve to think I can handle this consciously and casually, or is it okay to embrace something familiar for now? I’m still dating and meeting people, but I worry that by spending time with my ex, I might subconsciously put less effort into finding someone new. Laura mentioned our episode with Matthew Hussey You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

9 Marras 51min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Marras 46min