75. Hyperindependence and Hypervigilance in Dating with Ilyse Kennedy and Lindsay Camp

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking about trauma and how our experiences shape the way we approach dating, relationships, and even our own self-worth.

We have two incredible guests for this conversation, Ilyse Kennedy, a psychotherapist and Lindsay Camp, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to explore trauma and how trauma influences our patterns in love and connection.

We take on the dual themes of hyperindependence, where you feel like you have to handle everything on your own, and hypervigilance, the feeling of not trusting someone, always being on edge or looking for potential threats.

We’ll share what it means to heal from relational wounds and why rebuilding trust—both in others and in yourself—can feel so challenging, but is absolutely possible.

Plus, why the phrase 'if it’s hysterical, it’s historical' holds so much truth and how we can develop greater self-awareness and compassion.

Finally, we’ve got healing strategies, steps to break free from wounds of the past, and why you’re healing is right on time.

So, whether you’re working to heal old heartbreaks or simply want to deepen your self-awareness in relationships, this conversation is filled with insights and actionable advice to help you move forward with confidence and connection.

Let’s go flirties!

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About our guests: Ilyse Kennedy, LPC-S, LMFT-S, SEP is a trauma therapist and group practice owner in Austin, TX. Her practice, Moving Parts Psychotherapy, has become one of the go-to therapy practices in Austin for those recovering from complex trauma. Through her practice, she supervises associates pursuing licensure to expand her unique way of working with trauma to the world. Her book, The Tender Parts: A Guide to Healing Trauma Through Internal Family Systems Therapy was released in 2022 and has become a go-to companion for those moving through healing.

Lindsay G Camp, LMFT, is a Texas based therapist specializing in working with young adults. She founded Austin Teen Therapy over a decade ago and has aided in supporting hundreds of young people, their families, as well as a dozen therapists in their professional development. As the daughter of a seeker and a dabbler herself, healing, in all its many forms, has always been a special interest. She is currently creating a workbook for parents of teens to be released later this year.

Together, Ilyse and Lindsay began The Hilling Journey podcast where they share their healing journeys with their friendship at the forefront. From weeding through grief to making pop culture references, the podcast focuses on the joys and sorrows of healing with some exciting guests who are healers on their own healing journeys.

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!